I have fallen for a guy who is very loving and kind he is a security guard, he is strong but gentle. we have not slept together yet and he hasnt pressured me at all.i have slept with other guys previously though i have been able to satisfy them i have been unable to let go in bed, does anyone have any tips?? i want it to be different with this guy he is older and more exsperienced. how can i relax a little? and not have to fake it?
2006-10-26 03:51:18 · 21 answers · asked by Slug 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a great guy...My suggestion to you would be the following: You're just going to have to tell yourself to relax. If you have your own apartment/house, I think you should invite him over one night so that the two of you can watch a movie or something and just cuddle on the couch. Once you've gotten him to where you need him bring it to the bedroom.
2006-10-26 03:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best advice I ever got: Quiet your mind during intercourse and make the only thing you're thinking about, what he's doing. Focus on his touch, his breathing, the way it's making you feel...If he is in an area but not quite "there", tell him what he'll need to do. (Ex. Move just a tiny bit to the right)
PS. Just because he's older and possibly more experienced, doesn't mean this is something you have to make up for. He could potentially rock your world and you won't have to really do anything because that's the kind of man he is. Don't put him on a pedestool. Be yourself, enjoy the good time and don't rush anything!
2006-10-26 03:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't really have to think about faking it yet because you aren't aware of what he is capable of doing in bed yet. With th issue of you not being able to "let go". I am pretty sure there is something that someone has done to you before that you REALLY liked. Allow him to explore a little bit and find out what you like when he does it and be sure to mention it to him. Try and listen to some light music or even light some scented candles to try to make you calm down a bit. Experiment and find out what works best for you. Hope this helped
2006-10-26 03:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amenemhet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are just having sex with guys and you are holding back because there is no emotional attachment to them. My suggestion is that you not have sex with this guy if you really care for him, but wait until you can make love to him. When you add the passion and love to the physical act of sex, the difference is amazing and will blow your mind. You will not only be giving your body then, you will be giving your heart and letting the passion take over.
2006-10-26 03:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably just doesnt want to hurt you. Pressure you into anything he doesnt want you to be in. Most girls want to smack a guy when they try to get them into the bed. Wear something when you see him again that might make his ____ go up. Turn his head when you walk by and always touch him in other spots. By the end of the day you and him will then have a physical relationship.
2006-10-26 03:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Yung Top City Dyme 13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting go, and relaxing in the bed room takes time, you have to be comfortable with the person, you have to be comfortable with yourself, it takes time, don't rush it, he's not rushing you, just take some time to really get to know him, and let him really get to know you. Your thinking too much into it, just enjoy the company and it will come to you.
2006-10-26 03:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little alcohol wouldn't be a bad idea just to get into the habbit of loosening up. I wouldn't reccomend being drunk consistantly though while having sex. Something tells me though that if you aren't able to loosen up, then you aren't 100% comfortable with that person, and maybe you shouldn't be having sex with them. Think about it!
2006-10-26 03:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by Steven S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey, dont ever fake it! trust me, it doesnt lead to good things, i know. if hes older and more mature, maybe you should be up front with him, tell him youre tired of trying to get off, you want someone to get you off instead.thats how its supposed to be anyway! most men like a challenge anyway, it feeds their ego if they succeed! and another thing, when its the right man, you wont have to relax, everything will just happen naturally.
2006-10-26 03:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanniegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people like me, sex is a very emotional thing. In order to be comfortable with somebody in bed, I have to have a strong relationship with them, otherwise to me it feels wrong.
Maybe before you sleep with him, you should really get to know him. The more comfortable you feel with him in a relationship, the easier it is to relax and be yourself in bed.
Faking it, well he is the one who has to be good in bed in order to get you off, so we cant really help you with that one.
Good luck.
2006-10-26 03:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you shouldn't think that you are giving the gash and he owes you for it. Sex is mutual. All too often gurls think that when they give it up they have done a favor. Please. When a guy goes out at night he knows whether or not he's gonna get some.
2006-10-26 03:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋