My sister-in-law babysits for me and my husband We have 3 kids ages 4 (twins) and 3 months they love her to death but I am worried that I should try to find someone else to watch them. They would rather be with her than me and their father. They even wake up cring for her sometimes. (Me and my husband work 2nd shift) Her and her husband can not have kids of thier own but is it possable that my kids are to attached to my sisier and brother-in-law? Do you think I should keep letting her babysit or find someone else. I know she is wonderful with them she takes them to the park, reads and plays with them she has never even raised her voice to them, she dosen't have to. My husband things I am being silly. What do you guys think??
2006-10-26 03:49:21 · 10 answers · asked by sue h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My niece is 14 and over half the time this sister-in-law is the only one that can reason with her, I think this neice would move in with her if her mother would let her. So I am not sure they will grown out of it.
2006-10-26 04:20:00 · update #1
It is normal for kids to like there caregivers" more" they are funnier and do a lot less punishing. I know my kids love their aunts and love to spend time there.
2006-10-26 03:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not being silly, it's natural to feel the way you do.
at a certain point, every parent has to deal with this; their child going out and doing its thing, loving other people and what not.
for you this is a big chance for growth, because it will happen sooner or later and it is never any easier.
remember, your kids will not be attached forever, they will move on... besides, they are only 3 months old, you've got so much time together still.
remember, love always 'lets go' cause it knows the choice has to be theirs.
best to relax and be glad they love their babysitters. some people have the exact opposite problem...there kids refuse to stop crying when they leave, then no one ever wants to babysit!
2006-10-26 03:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tom O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is happening with me and the little boy I babysit. He grabs me and wants to be with me anytime that I am near. I have visited his home and tried to play with him on the floor but he just wants to have me hold him. He also has gotten jealous of my husband and gives him dirty looks and cries if my husband comes near him.
I am the play person who focuses all my time on him while I'm there. I couldn't do that 24 7 - I wouldn't have the energy and I would need to do other things. I won't always be this close to him - it's just for now and he'll grow out of his affection for me as he grows and changes. That is life and that's ok.
He will never grow out of love of his mom- she is his mom. She is his sun and moon and life.
Don't be threatened - just support this friendship and all your sister in law gives to your kids. Your kids are so lucky to have more people to love them and support their lives. But you are the center of their worlds. And they trust you will ALWAYS be there and love them.
Good luck to you!
2006-10-26 04:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to worry. Kids go through phases in which they "prefer" one caregiver over another, but you are still their mom and they know that. Make sure you are giving them quality time whenever you can and don't worry!
I also think you are really really lucky to have such a loving and committed babysitter for your kids... don't mess that up!
2006-10-26 03:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just bcuz they are with her more.but they know u are the mommy. as far as finding someone else no. it seems like u trust and shes good with the kids.that will hurt the kids and they will have to try to develop a new relationship. also she may abusive or lazy. not alot of sitters take kids to parks and read with them. mine sat on the couch, watched tv, and fell asleep. i had to get rid of her.everytime i would leave for work my son cryed. that worryed me. now with new sitter he learned his colors, shapes, and is counting. and he says bye mommy when i leave for work. its better than hearing the crying. and im comfortable at work knowing my kids are with a trusted person.i too. work afternoons and their dad works days but is a full time student.so we only get weekends together. i have to agree with ur husband
2006-10-26 04:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Moniluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids`do get attatched to there caregivers but it`s not a bad thing..be happy that your kid`s love there aunty and uncle and be thankful that there being taken good care of.
2006-10-26 04:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by kaotic261 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to spend more time with your kids. That is a sure sign you are away from them too much. Prioritize your finances and be home more with your kids. They need you, obviously.
2006-10-26 04:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems the kids are spending more time with babysitter or family members then you ,thats the reason
2006-10-26 04:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend some times for checking his behavior with your baby.I think it can be usefull experience for you.
2006-10-26 04:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they spend more time with her then you?
Depending on your answer I can answer!
2006-10-26 03:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah Marrie Burge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋