We dont have any chidren together,How do i get out?
2006-10-26 03:45:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've got to get out of this mess. It's all up to you...you have to be the stong person and walk away. He is married and I doubt if after 8 yrs of sneaking around he is going to leave his wife. If he was going to he would have already. You deserve a man who can be there for you all the time and share your life with you....not a man who belongs to someone else. Your children deserve better too.Tell him it's over and then stick to it. Don't answer his calls,etc. Once you've made up your mind and told him it's over...stick with it. You are young and can start your life over again and meet someone who can give you the attention you deserve.
2006-10-26 03:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to put my answer in a language you might expect from maybe a professional but I'm going to shoot from the hip. Be upfront with him. Tell him why you no longer wish to remain in the relationship and be specific without being cold or brutal. Poiunt out to him that the eight years the two of you have spent together was shortchanging his wife and unfair to his children if he has any. Before you confront him though, make sure you have worked it all out in your head so that when the issue is approached your not fumbleing in the dark and giving him reasons to convince you to change your mind. Also take into account what emotional hurt you may be placing on your own children. I sincerely hope that none of them are calling him 'Daddy.'
2006-10-26 03:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by jlsmith92104@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the song "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover"?
Just slip out the back, Jack and don'tcha come back no more.
So, what does your child have to say about his(or her) mother having an extra-marital affair for eight years?
Certainly not setting a good example, but it sounds as if you are waking up to the fact that having sex with a married person is wrong on so many levels.
At least, I hope you are waking up to that fact.
Girly-girl, there is nothing keeping you tied to a married man who is not your husband.
Why are you asking us for advice?
Just leave.
He's been enjoying the free ride for nearly a decade...time to cut off the sugar and focus your attention on raising your child in a stable, honest environment.
2006-10-26 03:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by docscholl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For you to be thinking of getting out, you have a good heart. So here goes:Think of it this way - Would you like it if your husband was cheating on you? If your husband even thought of or brought up the subject of divorce cos of another woman how would you feel? If this is real love he would let you find a life for yourself and not tie you down when he has his life and lives it. What example would you be setting for your child - girl or boy. Think of making a proper family, happily with your child and dont let yourself to be tied all your life to a relationship without commitments. its not worth it.
So think on these and other negative aspects, hope it helps
2006-10-26 03:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by girlfunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something else you're not telling? Just leave! If he gives you problems, notify his wife. He's been using you for 8 years. Is the problem that he's financially supporting you? If that's the case, you need to take control of your life and do what's best for you and your child. Good luck.
2006-10-26 03:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by californiarad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your number and locks and completely walk out of his life give him his stuff back take yours back call it a day he never going to leave his current wife for you if he was he would have left years ago you deserve someone better his just using you as a mistress you deserve a lot better good luck
2006-10-26 03:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by monkey32621 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your youth!!!!!!!!!! It is time to move on, change your number, email address, refuse his calls. You deserve better so does your children. Threaten to tell his wife. Do you want to be married one day, think of how you would feel if your husband was doing this to you. Be firm. It will hard but you can do this. Tell him it is over. No more cake and eating it too.
2006-10-26 03:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by lizzy tee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad that you've wasted eight years of your life on someone who could never truly respect you.
Just tell him it's over and move on with your life. If you have to change your phone number, move, do whatever you have to get your own life. I would also recommend some counseling. That's a long time to carry on with someone who could never be with you and even if he could would more than likely never be faithful.
2006-10-26 03:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him you want to end the relationship. It'll save you both a lot of heartache in the long run.
2006-10-26 03:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know! Get pregnant and really ruin his life. P.S. You can then collect child support for the next 18+ years. You won't have to work and can sit on the couch eating bon bons and watch Oprah!
You skank.
2006-10-26 03:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋