how can i contact my mother on the other side? (develope mediumistic abilities)?

Question

My Mom has passed. She was my best friend confidant and of course loved me unconditionally. Now she is gone, she went quickly and I feel I needed one more last time to say goodbye. So much information out there on life after death. Should I see a medium, seek church help, try to communicate myself I dont know what to do or plainly accept it and try to move on. If you have ever lost someone you love you know the empty helpless feeling you have, knowing you can never bring that person so special in your life back. Any suggestions? how did you cope? Did you find a legitimate way to contact your departed loved one? Can someone help?

Answer 1

Don't cry because it's over, smile because she happened in your life. I'd bet she would want you to move on.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry that you lost your mother.

It's hard to say whether contact in the beyond is possible or not. You could go to a psychic or church or somewhere where you believe you can contact your mom, but you have to face that what they will give you may be false hope rather than the truth. My advice to you is to leave yourself open for contact if you do indeed believe that it can happen. Don't actively look for signs, but just keep yourself open, maybe you'll see her in a dream, maybe you'll find a different way to speak to her, but there's no way to really develop the abilities you want (although there are books on it, if you'd like to check some out).

Maybe what's best for you now is a therapist or counselor. You may not be ready for it, but talking things out with someone about your mother is a step in healing your feeling of loss, which I'm sure are overwhelming.

I really am so sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine what I'd do without my mum.

Answer 3

Keep your mom's spirit close by talking to her from time to time. Tell her your problems, express your love for her. Or write it down in a journal (addressed to her if you like). Write down your childhood memories, keep them close, because memories of your mom are now the most precious things you have of her.

Your relationship with your mother was a very personal thing. I don't think it's a good idea to talk to your pastor about it; he or she might not understand. The only one who really understands your grief is you. I wouldn't go to a medium, either, because there are so many frauds in that field who take advantage of a grieving person's pain.

Read some books on the subject. That will help you in such wonderful ways -- expand your mind and spirit and put you closer to your mother. There are books by Dr. Raymond Moody, for example, which are both comforting and helpful. Read about near death experiences too - you can find more info about this at http://www.near-death.com/ and they have a lot of good information about other books you might want to read.

I lost my mother in a similar way. She died in her sleep and no one had even suspected there was anything wrong. She had just had a physical a couple of weeks earlier. I understand how you feel; I've been there too. And believe me your mother is with you in spirit and feels your love. {Hugs}

Please, oh please, do not take to heart what any of these "it's all evil / you can't do that" uber religious paranoids have written here -- they may mean well, but they are wrong. Ignore them and follow your common sense and your heart.

I strongly recommend this book:
http://www.lifeafterlife.com/books_lifeafterloss.html

Answer 4

Firstly you should not try to contact her yourself because you might open a door that will cause all soughts of unwanted energies in your house.
If you are going to a medium church make sure not to divulge too much private information that you and your mom shared simply because this will be one of the ways that you will be sure that they have contacted her.
Make sure and ask her to prove herself to you. Do not be afraid to do that. People are sometimes so taken up in there grief that they never notice that all the information that is given to them is what they told the medium in a different way.
Allow them to share a secret or thought that only the two of you will know about.
I have never tried to contact anyone that has passed from me. If they had something to tell me they will usually send it with someone i didn't know so that i will be sure that person was not playing the a**. I will not journey to do such though for the simple fact that i am not desirous of opening any old wounds.If one of my relatives died before i got to share something with them i look at it as though they were not suppose to know. That is not my view. But because of past experiences with friends that are mediums and friends that have tried to contact dead relatives i am able to share such information with you.

Answer 5

Sorry for your loss. I know its hard, I lost my mom suddenly on Dec 2 2005. I actually performed CPR on her to try and save her but it was too late. The only thing I can say is grieve and take one day at a time. Talk about it with people over and over and over again. This will help you become numb to it. I dont mean to make it sound bad by saying "numb" but believe me, the more you talk about what happened the easier it is to accept it. Dont bother with the mediums just let your mom rest in peace.

Answer 6

The departed never come nor do we have any medium of communication with them. I appreciate your love to your Mom and can understand the emptiness in your life she has created by going away and not to be seen or felt again. But that is the order of life and the only solace you can get is to follow the path she has taught you so that her soul remains happy. Do things which she wanted to do in her life. Now you will have only sweet memory of her being with you. Wish you good luck.

Answer 7

My mom died one year ago. I was with her when she died. I have thought of a medium too. I have thought of many things. I miss her so much. I want to communicate with her. I want to touch her, I want to talk to her, hug her, be with her. It is so hard to bear. I personally do not think a medium can give me what I want. I have a longing in my soul and I don't see how anyone but me can take care of it. If I can't see or sense her, I don't know how I could trust anyone else to do this.
Whatever you decide, good luck. It's a long road ahead.

Answer 8

1 Sam. 28:7; 1 Chron. 10:13-14 - Saul practiced necromancy. He used a medium, not God, to seek the dead and was therefore condemned. Saul's practice is entirely at odds with the Catholic understanding of saintly mediation, where God is the source and channel of all communication, and who permits His children to participate in this power. Saintly mediation is in the bible and it has NOTHING to do with necromancy, as fundies wrongly charge. http://www.scripturecatholic.com/saints.html

Contacting the dead is an illusion, because it is not your departed you are contacting, but evil spirits. Stay away from occult practices.

There is nothing wrong with going to a familiar place, or the gravesite, and talking to your mom. This is not conjuring up spirits. I do not believe your mom is dead, but with God, and more alive now than before. She is not suddenly rendered deaf, dumb, and retarded according to Protestant theology, she can hear you. But I think she would want you to continue in your grief process and get on with your life.

I suggest you contact "Freinds in Grief" an organization that helps people in the grief process. Grief counselling is available from any funeral home, priest, minister or rabbi.

Answer 9

I'm sorry, my love, you can't.

My parents were great people too, but they are now gone from my life forever. They live on, but only in the memories I have of them. They have left me with a great gift though, the ability to tell the difference between right and wrong. If I ask myself "What would they have done", "they" do answer me.

People will be more than happy to help you, for money. there are a lot of charlatans out there. Avoid them all.

Answer 10

You cannot contact your mother if she has graduated this life. There are those that believe you can channel through a medium, but of course that is counterifit. It is considered a curious art and can lead to bigger disceptions. The word of God states clearly that when you die or depart life, you go to the Father. It says you are at rest. If you have accepted Jesus as your personel savior then the God lives inside of you in His fullness. In that case your mother is inside of you now and actually closer then she was when she was here. I recently lost my mother and totally believe she is with me now, in spirit of course, because the flesh returns to the Earth. I further believe that I will see her again when we are all resurected at that day. We will all have new bodies, not of flesh and blood, but a glorified body that we will reconize each other, In the mean time I let my mother rest in me as she rest in God. If you have Christ in you, then you also have the Holy Spirit in you. This is God's Spirt that came to dwell in us while we are on Planet Earth, to be our Teacher and Comforter. He can confirm all I have said and give you peace.
Rev. M

Answer 11

I am sorry you lost your mom. The Bible says ,"I am the way and the truth and the life. No man comes unto the Father but through me." I lost a christian friend of mine named Lisa this passed year. I know from studying the Bible God frowns on using mediums. So what I did is pray to God. I tell Lisa how I feel and ask God to convey that to Lisa if that's OK with God. Its the only way to get a message to her. Again, I am sorry for your painful loss.