She has been here almost 2 months, and been trained on how to do her job and specific reports. She has been calling me into her office to help her with the reports that I have never seen or had training on. When she first came I couldn't stand the thought of training my own supervisor, but that's what I did. It seems like she is leaving early every other day, and coming in late the others.
About 3 weeks ago I heard that she was 4.5 months pregnant. Then earlier this week she came in here to tell us she had gone to the doctor that Monday and found out she was pregnant. She lied to us right there.
Yesterday she overheard me talking with another guy in the bathroom about how I was unhappy with some things here. A few minutes later she calls me into her office and asked if I wanted to give her my 2 week notice right there.
Later tha day her supervisor came in to meet with us. He told me the negativity had to stop, and if it didn't I would be let go.
What can I do?
2006-10-26 03:31:19 · 13 answers · asked by lacimehc18 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I actually sent her an email telling her about all of the problems. I also met one on one with her boss to discuss them, and discuss her. He knows what has been going on and how I have been going out of my way to help her. She even left work that had to be done by the next day in her inbox a couple of times last week when she left early. Lucikly I saw that and took care of them.
It just doesn't seem to me like he is getting onto her at all, everything seems to be my fault.
Thanks a lot for everyone's help with this matter.
2006-10-26 04:03:48 · update #1
You do sound a little negative. That's just how it is in the real world. You can suck it up and do your job, or you can let it drive you crazy. Don't let your boss drive you crazy. Beat her at her own game.
2006-10-26 07:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1. Work up your resume and put out some feelers, even if you don't want to change jobs you have a problem and you will work to make it better but you have to accept that no matter what you do in the near and far future this could always be there. Time to look for something new just to make sure you have a job.
Step 2. Stop talking smack and rolling your eyes. Even though it is obvious that you don't like this person they are your boss and you need to keep it together. Be a model citizen, even if you co-workers do the chatter say nothing, plead the fifth, whatever you have to do, but never get caught up in the trash talk again.
Talk to your boss about the assistance she needs to do the new reports and document what you do. Even if you are just sending e-mails with how you do, or follow-up with how things are done you have a paper trail to show that you "taught" your boss how to do things.
Finally, as a side note. No matter what job you walk into there is a learning curve to how internal things are done. If you were the new guy you may need help too. In an ideal world you walk into jobs and can just make things happen. This is not idea.
It also says something about your boss that 1. They called you in to confront you on what she heard, and 2 she told her boss and there was an "intervention". These 2 indicators say either wait to see what happens when she goes on Mat leave or make plans to walk away soon.
2006-10-26 10:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've described here, sorry - it does sound like you might be the problem. She's been there for 2 months, and you already got a verbal warning?
I'm pretty certain you didn't "train" her, you probably took her through the processes/practices of your office.
You are not "doing" her job, you are assisting her. Even if you are doing tasks that you are assigned - that is you job. She is your boss - that's what is supposed to happen.
Also - People don't show up for work at a new job and say - oh, I'm pregnant. They conceal it until the time is right. No one lied to you, and she doesn't owe you any explanation - that is an issue between her and her own boss.
It may be that you resent her for some reason. You loved your old boss, you wanted the job, something. She didn't do anything to you.
Her supervisor is likely right. In the 2 months she's been there you likely have been less than warm to receiving her. No one gets a verbal warning if they are a team player and lovely to work with. Sorry. You are in control of your own actions, not her. You can either work with her, or work somewhere else. Your choice.
2006-10-26 12:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by firehorsetwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems like you have got a smart boss. Well you could do two things at the moment. Talk to her boss and put your point forward. But I see it might not help much. Second, look for another job and till then just do what you are doing right now without compalining about it. However even though we think that success is not easy , it is if you play smart. She is having her way out now but it wont last as if someone is incompetent it will come out some day, probably you wont be there to see that. So keep looking for a new job and move out at first good opportunity. But remember never burn the bridges , you never know when you need to cross one.
2006-10-26 10:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Coolguy_punjabi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think instead of discussing your frustration with your peers, you should have an open discussion with your boss and if that does not work, you should bring this up with your boss's boss.
Looking at the brighter side, you have been helping your boss with her work and over time she is going to be dependent on you - which makes you 'the person' she can lean on - will help you in the long run...
Good luck!
2006-10-26 10:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by vpn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the work environment isn't working for you, you should probably find another job. If necessary, you could talk to your boss' boss and let them know that these issues are causing you to want to move positions. They may respond by making it worth your while to stay, or they may allow you to leave.
And, in the future, don't talk negatively about your boss to your coworkers.
2006-10-26 21:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had that before, and since im no longer there im released! by the grace of God i learnt to forgive and forget. in ur case, u could try to talk to her but i doubt it will work in this case, nonetheless still try. if she doesnt listen pray for a magnamious heart. else, quit if permissible.
2006-10-26 10:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go talk to her supervisor and let him know what has been going on.
2006-10-26 10:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by cowchic9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy you have a job, others are not as fortunate as you.
stop complaining like a woose! take your pay and be happy
2006-10-26 10:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get another Job ...or get a life ..either way you will come out in front.
Do you want fries with that????
2006-10-26 10:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋