Is there anyone out there that has a son going through the "terrible twos"? If so, how do you handle it? Serious responses only please.Thanx.
2006-10-26 03:30:11 · 12 answers · asked by mama3 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A toddler who is unruly and fights you is just trying to define their acceptible limits of behavior; this is the critical time as a parent to be as strict as possible, since the foundation you set now will carry through their lives until they are adults and free of any authority save law itself.
For any behavior that is socially unacceptible, give ONE warning and then punish with a time out alone (1 min. per year of age is the accepted norm) or punishment of your personal preference; the key is to be consistent and unwavering - if they can negotiate, argue or charm their way to leniency in ANY case, then they will learn that Mom can be beaten and they will try it EVERY TIME.
Even when it breaks your heart to do so, be even and consistent with punishment EVERY TIME. When the child is older, you can relax and become more of a friend, knowing that they are well behaved and well-mannered.
2006-10-26 03:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...i have a daugther and she's almost two but I swear the terrible twos came a little early for us. She's throwing tantrums just when I say no or look at her in that "no kind of way." Sometimes it's very overwhelming but majority of the time I just have to ignore her. I know it's hard sometimes and sometimes I have to walk out of the room so she wont see me defeated. Kids can sense that kind of thing. Just be patient! My daughter puts on a show for attention and when I don't give it to her she gets even angrier. It can be very testing but I know to give her that attention will just encourage her to keep up that behavior and I surely don't want that. My best advice...try to tune him out as best as you can. Of course if he starts getting way out of hand don't ignore him, handle the situation and explain to him he can't do that! Simple words too. A lot of Nos should be used. LOL. I wish you the best of luck. We're going through it together! =)
2006-10-26 10:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not terrible twos, your son is attempting to establish his boundaries with you. Children feel safe and secure when they know where the boundaries are. Your son is going through a very natural process of attempting to determine what behaviors he can get away with and where his limits are. This is the time were you need to establish yourself as the mother and the alpha in his life. Set firm boundaries for him and teach him what is and is not acceptable and this stage will pass soon enough.
2006-10-26 10:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys are 11 and 14, my foster son is 5, my daughter is 8 and my niece (who stays with me) is 2... I learned through all my experiences to be patient, don't ignore situations (that makes them react more aggressively), and pray alot. When he gets wound up then it's time to redirect him to a more quiet activity such as doing a music activity, color, or read a book to him. Invest in craft for him (check out Micheal's) this will help him be creative and it's calming. Be sure if you are at your ends wit to separate yourself from the situation by taking a time out for yourself, place a Baby Einstein DVD in and you take a break. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-26 10:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a five year old that seems to be STILL going throught the terrible twos....Its not something that can easily be dealt with. You have to understand that this is a stage that might go on for sometime. And deal with it the best you can! Try differnt techniques and see what works the best. Try a behavior chart which is what I'm doing and it seems to be working great! We still have our bad days but there not as worse as they used to be! Hope this helps.
2006-10-26 10:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by sexymama2420052000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent, find a "time out place" (the most boring place, perhaps bottom of stairs, but not his room)
Pick your battles
Give choices when you can, "no you can't have this but you may choose between this or that"
Distraction, physically remove them from the situation and get them interested in something else.
When my two kids (now 18 and 21) were toddlers, I thought it would never end, but it did and when they start school the years just fly by. Hug your kid and enjoy!
2006-10-26 10:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Debbk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think consistency is the key. You need to make sure that you are watching everything he does. I know that's not really possible, but as much as you can. Try to re-direct him when you see that he is doing something that you don't want him to do. Be firm and calm. That's important too. If you can keep yourself from yelling and talk in a calm voice, he will be calm too. I know it's easy to say, but hard to do. Good luck.
2006-10-26 10:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by nursejuley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not a mom but i am a sister with a foster brother who went through the terrible two's my mom did a lot of time outs and going night nights lol occasionally a tap on the hiny if he gets out of hand good luck
2006-10-26 10:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by formerffagirl05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a lot of patience!!! Try to only say no when you really have to thatway he doesn't stasrt to ignore that word
2006-10-26 10:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont whine.
Lots of parents whine when they tell thier child to stop doing something. "Please, would you stop playing with that! Its not yours and your gonna break it!" All in a whiney voice. When you tell your child something, make sure your voice is firm and strong. Authoritive. You are not 'asking' your child to behave, you are 'telling' him.
2006-10-26 10:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋