Sometimes they don't understand their children's problems. They don't belongs to our mordern cultures. Though we love them the best but sometime thier backdated thinking style hurts us (don't you agree?).
2006-10-26 03:20:00 · 14 answers · asked by Mouktik Saha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, you do to them what Windows does for your computer - update them, automatically if possible.
Joke apart, even if I am to concede what you think as right, don't you think the reverse is true also? Don't you think that they love you too and very selflessly at that? Possibly more than you love them? And aren't they equally hurt when your ultra modern thinking clashes with their thoughts?
It is desirable to keep with the times, even for parents. To have a flexible mind themselves and to understand the minds of their children. But inspite of their best efforts, a certain amount of generation gap may exist.
But please remember that parents have more worldly experience and whatever they say is ultimately for the good of their children, although it may sound unpleasant for the time being. Its best to give some and take some. Convincing your parents properly about the merits of a certain thing can make them concede a little. You must concede some too. Don't be rigid. Meet them half way.
Of course there are some spoilt brats (I'm sure you aren't one of them) who make undue demands on their parents. It is best for the parents to remain inflexible with them and deny the unjust demands of such children.
2006-10-26 06:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not at all. this is just a time which matters. sometimes their views don't match with us this doesn't meanthat they are orthodox. we also have to make them understand from their viewpt. actually they are more than 20 yrs. older than us and it is also true that they are perfect but still they hafve more experience about the worldly things. and this is not possible at all to expect some sudden changes in their habbits.we feel like this that thy don't understand us, when we are teenagers. actually this is the age of storm and strife and it doesn't mean that they want to hurt us. parents alwys do their best for their children. and we shud try to understand why they are forbidding us from doing anything. just go to the root of the problem then probably something can happen. i think we are changing our life style with the western culture and this is not fair at all. i have seen the world best country which ppl say (u s a) but i must admit that our indian parents are the best one. they know that what is the true value of any relationship and i think that as the time will pass u will also agree with this.
we are here in this world is only due to parents and this is the bigges benevolence and i think that we can't repay this so wee have to scrafice everything for them. as this life is their and we have nothing.
2006-10-26 10:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by R. S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very sensitive topic you have raised.These clearly shows the impact of modern culture on us.We have become modern by adopting the western culture and we also wants that our parents should be also modern.But I want to tell you that in foriegn the bond of love between parents and children is very weak.Their modern culture has created a huge generation gap between them whereas in India parents have limited their life for the future of their children.While introducing them to our teachers and friends we wants a modern english speaking parents.But we should not forgot that all the hardwork they are doing is only for us and us.It does not matter how they are externaly but internaly what they want is the welfare of their child.Anyway we can console them to wear some modern dresses and tell them how to react in school functions and in between your friends.
2006-10-26 10:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mayank Sharma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS NOT THE FACT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sometimes they seem backdated, because they love us too much. Lots of parents gets seperated not thinking of their children, it almost like turning them into orphans. But you like them, because they are modern !!!!!!!!
Only one who has suffered can feel of it. Believe me you will not be able to adjust yourself if your parents suddenly turn into modern guys.
Think carefully, who is backdated they or you. The love of the parents is above all dates all ages. Since you're accustomed in it you can easily term it as backdated.
IT IS NOT THE FACT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 10:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by s0u1 reaver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....you have to understand one thing that how ever liberated parents are for us they will never be as much as we are cos things are changing everyday and the fact is that culture never gets modernised its us and our thoughts that are modern....our roots still remain the same old and ancient.....20 years from now our children will be of the same opinion about us as parents,trust me...so we need to be a bit empathetic of our parents and understand one thing that whatever it is,our parenmts want the best for us and so they are protective,they never want us to be hurt and unsuccessfull and thats the reason why the sometimes oppose out decisions which we need to sit with them and talk about it to make they know our point of view with proper explanations,good luck!!
2006-10-26 10:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with them with patience.i am very lucky as my parents understand everythin well almost everythin.indian parents are not outdated.pls its really offending to our culture.our modern cultre is not western culture its just an amalgamation of both our ancient culture and the modern one.i think you need to understand your parents also.dont take in the wrong way when they criticise you rather take it in a way you would try to change.you are a victim of the generation gap syndrome ie ggs and the only way to deal with it is to strike a balance between both your ideas and theirs.neither of you are perfect in your ideas.they have wisdom and experience while you have innovation and broad thinking.introduce them to your world and then introduce yourself to theirs!good luck!
2006-10-27 03:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look they are backdated i know.
They do not understand you as you are much more modern then they.
This what called is genaration gap.
What you will have make them understand is by using the language they understand is language of love.
Go ahed, my wish is with you
thank you
2006-10-26 10:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by bangla answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. i don't agree. there is no such thing as backdated. Moral Values may change. But you just have to trust your parents. You love them, do you?
2006-10-26 10:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But they're still your parents and they do have a uniquely wonderful culture that they wanted imparted to you. Listen to them and then try to explain why you feel differently. They love you and they should be loved in return.
2006-10-27 07:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like, you are out of step with the Indian culture and values.
You are an ultra-modern, it seems.
2006-10-27 07:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Truth ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋