I am single after spliting with my partner of 5 years, almost 10 months ago now. I am up for meeting someone new, but don't really want to settle down again so soon. I am having lots of men chat me up and asking to take me out. Is it wrong to go on lots of dates with these different men. I'm not sleeping with any of them...and if they asked if I was seeing anyone else I would be honest.
2006-10-26 02:54:05 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its nothing wrong with dating different men. As long as you are being honest with yourself and them. Then everything will be fine. Enjoy your life and don't settle right now. It's about "ME TIME". The ball is in your court. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-26 02:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by loves2dream2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the type of person you are--you know yourself better than anyone else and can gauge whether you can handle such a situation. I get easily attached and it would bother me to date someone that was seeing other people. But it sounds as if you might be able to handle it--you're willing to be honest with those you date about your relationship being 'non-exclusive' and you don't plan to sleep with any of them. So, for those reasons it sounds like this would be a good arrangement for you. You'll have the chance to get to know the guys--and you may decide to date one of them exclusively at some point. There isn't anything 'wrong' with dating more than one person and it's common to do so. Go for it! You're fortunate to have so many guys trying to get your attention and you're entitled to your freedom after splitting with a long term partner. Enjoy yourself.
2006-10-26 03:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope nothing wrong at all. It's only wrong if the men are falling in love with you, and assuming you're being true to them...but if you're honest and telling them that you're not looking for anything serious, then you can't go wrong!
Believe me, there is LOTS of time for settling down, I'm 26 and have two children, and I often wish I'd played the field a bit more, because there truly is no time for exclusivity when you're young, free and single!!
Have fun fun fun!!
2006-10-26 02:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing more than one person at a time. You are returning to the dating scene, so it should be expected that you aren't looking for an exclusive attachment anytime soon.
It would only be wrong if the people you are with thought you were exclusively seeing them. If they didn't understand you weren't just seeing them, they might feel betrayed.
If you go out with someone, you have a good time, and you want to see them again but still don't want to be their one and only, set those ground rules first. Be sure they are okay with your not wanting to be attached. If they aren't okay with it, the two of you aren't a good match right now anyway.
2006-10-26 02:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't ask this question if you didn't have resevations. If both (+) guys like you very much, one or the other is going to find out. Male jealousy is the number one reason behind passion crimes. Just look at the news. Men are guided by primative instincts when it comes to courtship. Do you really want to men to become enraged and violent? Playing the field is one thing, making more than one commitment is asking for trouble.
2006-10-26 03:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with that. After being with someone for five years you need to expand your horizons and see other people. As long as you are not lying to them and not sleeping with all of them, then it is in your best interest to be out there dating. When my girlfriend of three years and I broke up it was the best thing for me to get out and meet as many different people as I could.
2006-10-26 02:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is exaclty what I am doing after having been marreid for 24years -
have been separated/divorced for 5 & am not in any hurry to get too involved with anyone .
I too make sure that I am up front with anyone I go out with
ENJOY your life - take the time to find out again just who you are as yourself - not as part of a couple
then IF & WHEN the time is right there will be 1 speical person for you
2006-10-26 03:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur going out with these men to the same places u will be branded a tart no matter wot u r doing...then, when a man comes along who u do really like he will no doubt get to hear about ur dating history & he wont want to know u...no matter how innocent this all seems at present...theres nothing wrong with playing the field & getting the attention u obviously desire...just look out for the future when ur ready to go 4 a relationship again...good luck anyhow...
2006-10-26 04:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there isnt anything wrong...I am in the same boat as you...Your back on the market your dating and not settling for less...If they ask if your sleeping with anyone its not there business...Unless your ready to settle with one particular person then you of course want to be honest and faithful...But until then have fun dont settle for less and what you do in the bedroom is your busness...Not anyone elses...GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-26 03:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just going out on a date as friends isn't or people isn't like being in a relationship so as long as you are honest i cant see anything wrong with it.
You are just having fun
2006-10-26 04:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by stud200_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋