2006-10-26 02:48:29 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shyness is simply a variation of having fear of the unknown.
That being said, something that will really help is to just try
approaching people and just saying hi and work your way
up to saying a few words, then start a conversation with
someone. It gets easier through practice. Trust me.
2006-10-26 02:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you could self-medicate like someone suggested above, get absolutely trollied and f*cked on drugs... That would be one way.
Excuse my sarcasm. Or you could explore yourself. Think about what genuinely interests you. The better you know yourself, the more confidence you will have. If you have interests, then you deserve self-belief: you have something to say to anyone. And if the other person doesn't like what you're saying or doesn''t respond well, so what? Is their opinion any more important than yours or anyone elses?
I'm shy too, but I find self-belief helps a lot. Have faith in yourself above others. You will attract the people you want to be around.
And, remember, people don't automatically know your secrets. All they see is the surface.
Always have humility and modesty though. Arrogant and extroverted people have just as much to hide.
2006-10-26 03:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Stomach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embarass the hell out of yourself a couple of times and then you get used to it. My girlfriend is very shy as well, but since being with me she's getting better. Just remind yourself I don't know these people, these people don't know me, I'm a good person, let's just have fun! Also remind yourself what's the worst that could happen? If someone doesn't like you...so what, there are 10 others that do! You can't be friends with everyone but you MUST be friends with you, after that everything falls into place!
2006-10-26 03:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by ajax138 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, Its nice to know that you are shy. Not many people here are like u. But you are very brave and posted the question here. This is the first step to get over it. Next time try speaking to your best friends about it. It will help ! Trust me you will have wonderful dexperiences !
2006-10-26 02:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by ansari_az 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop caring about what other people think and be the real you. When your at a party and a good song comes on grab a friend and start dancing, before you know it everyone will join in. Join in a club or sport it will help you find something you are good at which will make you confident in that club/sport and a more confident person. Don't be afraid to make people laugh... it just means the like you or what you are doing.
2006-10-26 02:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Arual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Jerry Spence (notable trial attorney) had the same problem when he was younger. He would go into a restaurant, stand up on his chair and begin talking to the customers for about 1 minute. He would always apologize for interrupting their dinner and simple state anything that was on his mind. Keep it short, sit back down and after a few times you won't be shy anymore.
2006-10-26 02:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no quick fix way to get oevr being shy. its just a matter of taking that step and venturing outside of your confort zone. is the shy thing an issue cos you have trouble asking girls out or something? cos its not that you are shy, its cos you have a fear of rejection. thats easy to get over. you have to think whats the worst that can happen? she says no. compare that with the best that can happen!
2006-10-26 02:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to get over shyness. Just keep trying to put yourself among other people. Nothing wrong with being shy makes you mysterious.
2006-10-26 02:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by elainecynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had exactly the same problem. Until one day i realised that i wasn't gonna get anywhere if i just kept myself to myself. Gradually start being more and more confident. Its probably best to start with new people who dont know you so you can be yourself. I'm nearly the loudest out of my group of friends now!
2006-10-26 04:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by mrcool1357 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about two year ago i was in the same boat as you and no matter what friends told me to do did not work. One day i got out of my bed and said to my self go to college, and i am 28 and i am on my second year at college and got student of the year last year it got me out of my shell, you have to work in groups some times this really helped me, and i met lots of new friends. you could try some thing like that it may work for you
2006-10-26 03:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋