I got involved with someone 6 years younger than me, he is 22 I am 28, my 2 brothers found out and went mad, they said I was a pervert and don't want to even talk to me...what should I do??
2006-10-26 02:44:26 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, there's nothing wrong with you. Its not like he's under age! Tell you brothers to grow up! If this man makes you happy than enjoy it and screw what others think! The only two people who can understand your relationship is you and this guy. Good luck and have fun!
2006-10-26 02:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys get away with it all the time because guys are less mature than women. I don't think 6 years would be as much of a stretch if you were, say, 30, and he was 24. Then it's possible that you could both be in the same place in life and wanting the same things (at the same time). When I was 27, I dated a 21 year old. It was a terrible relationship. He never had the intention of being committed to me. He led me on for several months to get "experience". I was really hurt for a really, really long time. So, I would encourage you to guard your heart and use your best judgment in your interactions with this guy. I'm all for dating younger men; however, you need to take into account his level of maturity.
2016-03-28 08:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to do anything. So what if there's a 6 year gap. You're both over 21, so long as you're happy with each other who cares. I think your brothers need to grow up a bit. My best friend went out with an older guy, 7 years older to be exact. The only difference was that she was 16 and he was 23. THAT seemed a bit weird at first but, as it turns out, she was mature for her age and he wasn't. It worked out perfectly for them. Age is only a state of mind. Knowledge and wisdom is gained through experiences, that's when age can make a difference. Considering both your ages, and the age gap, I don't see what the problem is. Stay together and be happy. And smile, you are not a perv ;o)
2006-10-26 03:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a perv. Since you both are of legal age and over the age of 18 I don't see a problem. Your 2 brothers are being overprotective. I come from a family where my father is 18 years older than my mother and to tell you the truth I never saw him as a perv. Besides I bet these 2 brothers probably want to date females much younger than them what makes you different? Probably because you are a female and its not as socially acceptable. I saw if he makes you happy that is ALL THAT MATTERS.
2006-10-26 03:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem at all with this age difference; it's perfectly acceptable. Had he been 15 and you 21 that would be a problem in my opinion, but you are both adults so I don't see a problem. I think your brothers are just jealous that this guy got an older woman. Ask them if they'd have a problem dating someone 6 years younger than them; chances are it's probably one of their fantasies. PS Awesome luck for you. Go for it!!
2006-10-26 02:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six years! That's nothing. I met my late wife when I was 20 and she was 38 and we had 16 great years together before she passed away. As most people say, age is just a number, if you both love each other then do so - your brothers will come around eventually - my family accepted it from the start.
Of course it's the other way around for me now, my current girlfriend is 16 years younger than me and we don't care about the difference.
2006-10-26 04:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by spear_1021 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's ridiculous! 28 and 22 is no big deal. You are both of age and if you find you have things in common then go for it. My wife is 15 yrs older than me and we have a great relationship...we are best friends and partners in life. I was married to a much younger girl before and she was too immature and I didn't feel like I could trust her. I trust my wife and know that our relationship comes first to both of us. Once you are over 21 I don;t think age plays into it as much.
2006-10-26 02:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a perv. If he was under 18, then definately. But being he's an adult, why not? My husband is 2 years younger then me. Not much of an age difference compared to yours, but NOTHING is wrong with it. You are NOT a perv... Enjoy your boy toy... I sure have enjoyed mine for 18 years now... BTW, I was 24 and he was 22 when we met.
2006-10-26 02:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by MarineMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brothers to F**k-Off-And-Die for starters. (pronounced fo-ad). Or you can be nice and tell them that their thoughts aren't really relevant at this time in your life.
As long and you and young man are happy together, then everyone else is irrelevant at this point.
If you're a perv then I'm even worse. My hubby is 9 years younger than me. A friend of mine is worse than both of us, she's 12 years older than her hubby.
Age is only what people make of it, unless you're talking a 20 year old dating a 14 year old, then it's a different story all together.
2006-10-26 03:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys mature a lot quicker than others, and lets be fair six years is nothing is it, I dated a guy who was 27 and i was 38.. we were together for 4 years... my marraige to a guy who was 6 years older ended after 3 years... if hes a good lad and treats you well, then wheres the harm... be happy girl you got a toyboy.. lol xx
2006-10-26 02:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by 007jaynesblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋