My sister-in-law is bound and determined to go to another state and bring home her 19 year old daughter. The girl did nothing wrong, she's with her boyfriend, she's of legal age. Am I wrong to tell her mom that she needs to let her daughter experiance life? I understand the mom is heartbroken and worried, I would be too, but she no longer has the right to control her daughter. The mom has gone so far as saying she'll try and get the police involved, and the only way she can do that is to lie and say that the child is younger than she really is, say she was abducted agianst her will, or call the daughter mental. None of which is true. How do I get this mother to see that her actions are going to drive this daughter even further away?
2006-10-26 02:38:03 · 9 answers · asked by puzzleraspie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you seem pretty intelligent,you are right she is going to make her daughter hate her,once in love we tend to forget about mom and dad.tell her to stop.shes gonna push her further and further away,if she chases her the daughter will never forgive her
2006-10-26 02:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by boozer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is nothing legally the mother can do in this situation, if she gets the police involved then they will take one look at the daughters id and see that she is of legal age and totally drop the situation. I'm sure that the mother is just concerned but I do agree with u that this will separate them even further even though the mother does have good intentions, she has to realize that her daughter is old enough to make her own decisions.
2006-10-26 02:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by texas0413 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mother is completely utterly out of line. She knows the police will even tell her that, so she would go as far as making herself look stupid by lying. I guess if she is going to do it, she can try - there is nothing you can do to stop her. However she will just end up looking bad when the cops find out her daughter is an adult. She truly needs to cut the cord and let her daughter be. He best bet is to stay out of her daughter's affairs or she will push her further away. However for you, there is nothing you can do or say to stop her. Just let her know how you feel and then go back to your own life.
2006-10-26 03:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly, this really isn't any of your business. You don't have the right to tell her anything. If she were rational enough to accept what you want to tell her, she would be rational enough to accept what is going on.
And what if you are wrong? What if the daughter really is in a bad relationship? You don't really know, you aren't there, all you know is what people tell you. Teenage girls lie all of the time about how their relationships are going because they are embarrassed about the mistakes they made, they keep hoping things will change.
I think you need to let a mother be a mother.
2006-10-26 02:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it , tell her the only way she can ever hope to have a relationship with her daughter is to give her freedom and let her know that she is free to come and go from her childhood home as she pleases .
If you love something let it go
If it comes back it's yours
If it doesn't then it never was .
2006-10-26 02:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not any felony age to the two go away your toddlers, or babysit. yet whilst the government sense that any infant is in danger, then the discern could be charged with ignore. this is rather imprecise extremely. i assume it may remember on how long you have been going to be, if absolutely everyone else grew to become into interior the living house and how mature the child grew to become into. I go away my 13, 14 and 15 year outdated on my own in particular situations, like in the event that they're off college ill and that i could desire to bypass to the keep, or regardless of if i bypass to artwork. My guy is at living house at his breaktime and dinnertime besides, and that they could telephone in the event that they desire me. i've got additionally left my 14 and 15 year outdated taking care of my 9 or 11 year outdated too. i does no longer go away all of them mutually incase they started out arguing or battling, yet one million or 2 of them mutually are ok exept the two youngest, i could desire them supervised. suggestions you i will recall babysitting from the age of 11 or 12. i think of i grew to become right into slightly greater mature at that age. Mine are all boys exept the youngest!
2016-12-16 14:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her daughter is making her own choices the mother will just have to understand that and if she lies about her then her daughter will end up hating her for trying to control her life.
2006-10-26 02:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much you can do to stop the woman. i would call the daughter and tell her what s going on so she could be prepared. this seems to be a new fad lately; parents kidnapping their adult kids to keep them away from whatever. too late if they are of age. m
2006-10-26 02:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no right to--in effect--'kidnap' her adult daughter!!
2006-10-26 02:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋