I was dating a guy for a few months we had a strong connection but I jumped out of a relationship with my ex and into the one with him. Not a good idea when the ex came back from the war- I went with my heart and gave him another shot. Stupid because we didn't work in the first place. Well the other guy was there for me and a true friend and I want him back. The thing is now he has a girlfriend. He says he still cares for me but I need to let him "do his thing" that I choose another guy and I just need to let this play out. We have messed around and things have gone to far. We talk several times a day and it always leads to some fight because we are both really confused...Any advice?
2006-10-26 02:30:36 · 9 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you screwed yourself. Stay single for awhile and get your head straight.
2006-10-26 02:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to back wayyyyyyyyyyyy off. Respect that he has a g/f. You need to let him know that you can't be talking to him on the phone or in person anymore while he is in a relationship and when and if he is single again he should give you a call and see how things go from there. This may be a good time for you to just stay single and have some time to figure out what you really need in a relationship to be happy and content.
2006-10-26 09:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain.....and the best advice I can give you is to take a few steps back, and create some space between the two of you. This space, even if on a temporary basis, must include not talking on the phone, or looking for eachother.....because even this type of contact can be negative. Establish a time frame.....like 30 days.....to be completely away from eachother. Keep in mind, he does have a girlfriend at the moment, no matter how insiginficant that relationship seems to be to him at this moment. Give HIM time to figure out what he really WANTS....if you pressure him with words like...."I miss you", or "When are you going to make up your mind".......it's just going to push him to give up on you altogether.
So.....as hard as it might seem to do, the best thing for this relationship to have a chance is for you to step away for a while.
Best of Luck
2006-10-26 09:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ralph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spill your guts one last time and tell him you made a mistake. Then dont have ANY contact with him(this will be so hard because you want to see him) but, let him know that you are giving him space to decide what he wants. Right now he is having his cake and eating it to with you and the other girl. But, thats understandable because he is scared you will hurt him again I'm sure.
They always say if you love something let it go. If its meant to be they will find their way back. You have to just see what decision he makes. You already made yours and its was the wrong one. Now give him that chance to make his.
If you keep calling, seeing him, its only going to be worse b/c you will both be confused and wind up resentful towards one another.
This will be hard but, I think it will work-one way or the other. If he comes back-you have your man back. If he doesnt, you can get on with your life because he isnt the one God picked for you!
2006-10-26 09:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by ROOTER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mostly confused, and he's taking advantage of that. He wants to keep his options open because you let him have you without commitment. That's where you get confused. You think that you're giving him what he wants therefore he SHOULD give you what you want, and when he doesn't, you don't know why.
This guy is just getting back at you for dumping him, and that's all fair in love and war.
2006-10-26 09:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts when the shoe is on the other foot. You had no cares for his feeling when you changed up. you must not try and hinder his union now that your suddenly open. Have understanding
2006-10-26 09:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by calvcanto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never break up with someone, while they are fighting in a war. Break up with him before he goes to war, or after he gets back, not while he's there.
2006-10-26 09:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy, you will have to do as he sais and wait. You can't twist his arm around and make him love you...
Good luck! :)
2006-10-26 09:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just back off, he has a gf now.
2006-10-26 09:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋