gurl get out of this situation as fast as you can. it's only gonna make lots of pain 4 every1. he probably won't leave his wife even if he tries to convince you a thousand times that he will.you didn't do anything wrong by being with him without knowing he was married but now that you know, if you continue to be with him then you're a home wrecker. it's not wise to be with someone that can't give his whole heart,attention and affection to you. you might feel you love him but he has a family and you diserve to be with someone that respects you enough to not lie to you 4 5 months and then come clean, yes he might have feelings 4 you but that doesn''t mean he won't play you. he's obviously not THAT honest when it comes to relationships when he's not telling you about to his wife.
Listen I was in a situation where I was the victim around this time in 2002. I was dating my best friend, loved him. he went away to college and this girl went after him, they kissed on the lips and I'll to this day won't get over that. I didn't find out till 2 weeks later. that stupid *** ***** was waiting by his side, even though she found out that he was with me right after they kissed( he said I got a g/f I can't do this). so the hurt will always last me and we haven't been the same yet I'll always hurt but I love him so much. we've had a 6 year on and off again relationship. that girl and him dated for 3 months but I kept seducing him physically, she finally broke up with him and I loved him enough to try and heal him, letting him talk to me about her and his hurt and everything. after all that though I was and am real insecure with him. he only was with her( no sex either) and since then it's jus been me. but I'll still be real insecure because of it. Don't hurt someone like she did me. that ***** would play mind games with me online and everything, now grant it she was in a f'd up state of mind but now she seems to be better, married with a child and know she would never stand 4 any1 2 mess with her marriage. funny though she was very strict about wanting to never be with sum1 that cheated on her but she kept Josh, she said it was a pride thing and she didn't want me 2 win. but whatever I shouldn't think about that Drama, I wanna be with my ex, sum1 I was with for a month after I broke up with Josh. I got back together with Josh in april of 2005. we broke up 9 months later and I'll tell ya it was because I was way too sensitive and insecure, the insecurity still lied with that *****. so anyways what I'm saying is it's not worth your time to get hurt or hurt his wife and his daughter. Please just find a way to stay away from him. even if he gets divorced he won't be emotionally ready to be with you. haven't you heard of the rebound chick. that won't work. AND how do you know that you're the only other girl that he's been with outside of his marriage. I was with this guy that I knew since I was 11, we knew each other in camp, at 14 I stoped going, I didn't see him till I was 18, but he was with this one girl. we started hooking up and I thought that this was my chance that we'd live happily ever after( cuz he was my dream guy back then but he didn't wanna be with me) so ya he broke up with her a couple of times for a short period. he said he was thinking of leaving her for me but he never did. then one of these girls I thought was friends with him ending up talking to him and then she was a slut and stripped for him and they had sex. she got him to leave his fiance( same girl I saw him with) and move to Florida for 2 weeks. they had tons of sex and she got pregnant( later on we found out the baby wasn't his but she lied to him and let him think it was, she was cheating on him even while he left his soon to be wife for her). he missed his fiance and the girl had a miscarriage(lost her baby) and he was so depressed that he left. So it's a whole lotta mess. but his fiance took him back and they got married this year on November 5th. and I was at the wedding. and after they were married we stuck around like much later on, but he was seeing other women. he's young. jus turned 21 I think. so ya know. all of this I garnetee you won't end out the way you want it to be. I hope you're strong enough to walk away from this and wise up and see that it won't all be about you. and please think of his family. that'll screw up his daughter 4 life. and 4 all you know his wife might think they're fine with each other. he could make up shyt saying that they're fighting or whatever. I just wouldn't do something knowing that you're gonna hurt everyone including yourself. cuz if you do, I mean I know it's hard, but it's also insanely selfish and cruel if you continue this afair with him.
2006-10-26 02:46:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Hello,
Take it from me...your headed down a road that leads to nowhere. Don't waste your time, energy or your youth (well I'm not sure how old your are) but nontheless....it's a waste of time in general. It's someone out there for you but you'll never find him if you are wasting your time with a married man. He's out to get all that he can get from you. Remember he's in a win-win situation with you. He can have his cake and eat it too. He has the security of a wife and kids at home and free booty from you. What's in it for you except for a broken heart, or a relationship with a known liar and cheat. I'm sure that when you list the qulaities that you look for in a man.....Liar, cheat and unfaithful isn't on your list. If they are on your list, then by all means stay. If not, please break loose quick before you waste another second of time.
2006-10-26 09:33:11
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answered by Wife~and~Mom 4
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After 5 months he tells you he's married.
Up till then you thought he was divorced.
He has a child with his wife
He's lied to you and meant to. You are just some woman he is having sex with, if his wife finds out you will have ruined her life and that poor innocent childs life.
If you continue seeing this man and being his bit on the side because that is all you are you are acting in a disgusting way.
He will never leave his wife, family & kid for you, don't kid yourself that he will, you are a mistress and he's not about to give up on his family, reputation and son just for you.
Dump him now before you both hurt innocent people
You say "but i feel he might leave me for her " you haven't got him she's the one married to him, she has his name, she's his family she has him you just have sex with him
2006-10-26 09:33:18
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answered by madamspud 4
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when i felt i was nobody of course i didnt know that. i was with a married man. girl WHAT EVER YOU DO ONLY COMES BACK TO YOU !!!! ithought he loved me . but he made me in thew long run feel bad about myself. i needed a man for me who respected me not just for the sex the thats what the married man only wants. im sorry this hurts and i probably wouldnt have listened back then but it would have saved me heartache and my reputation.
2006-10-26 09:36:54
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answered by pookie 2
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He is a liar and he is using you. Get away from this guy as fast as you can.
You don't love him ... you love the person you THOUGHT he was.
He will do the same thing to you that he did to her the very first chance he gets. Don't give him that opportunity.
2006-10-26 09:28:44
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answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6
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sounds like a wrap if you ask me. He lied from the get go. Can you trust him? Up to you.
What is is with girls always getting stuck dating guys with girlfriends or wives? Just what is the world coming to?
2006-10-26 09:27:31
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answered by three6ty 4
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LEAVE HIM ALONE BEFORE HE GETS U KILLED HE COULD HAVE A WIFE WHO HAS DONE EVERYTHING IN HER POWER TO SAVE HER MARRIAGE AND WONT TURN LOOSE EASILY AND U DONT WANT TO BE CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF THAT GET THE **** AWAY FROM HIM NOW RIGHT NOW BEFORE U REGRET IT CHARGE YOUR HURT FEELINGS TO THE GAME AND GAMBLE OF LOVE
2006-10-26 20:37:08
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answered by lushuss28 1
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i would just leave him alone even though you love him...because if he lied to you about that...what else has he lied about?? & ur stuck because hes ALWAYS going to have contact with her because he has kids with her & chances are they probably will get back together...but good luck....just find a new man!
2006-10-26 09:26:25
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answered by Anonymous
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Run from him like he was radioactive, girl. He's already burned you enough. And next time, check the dude out BEFORE you go hopping in the sack!
2006-10-26 09:32:23
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answered by Anonymous
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get the hell away from the lying, cheating bastard. what are you thinking?
two rules i have when it comes to men.
1. no married men
2. no dating men you work with
smarten up chic
2006-10-26 09:30:09
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answered by wonderblu 1
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The BEST way is approach the Court!
2006-10-26 09:27:18
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answered by NUPAKRY 6
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