Today I overslept in the morning and did not take the kids(my son and his two cousins) to school until like 8:36am, since I always take them in the morning because I'm the only one who goes in at 9:00am to work. However, I did not know what to say at school and later thought that maybe I should of just told the truth, it can happen to anyone. I told the kids however to say that my car was having problems, and I wrote that on the Tardy reason.I just feel bad because one of my nephews had his 9 weeks test today and got there to just come back to the office because his class was already testing and I asked the receptionist and she said that they would not let him go in because test had already started but that they would let him make it up. I feel awful!
2006-10-26 02:23:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should have told the truth, but what is done is done. People respect the truth, even if it is as lame as oversleeping.
You need to talk to your kids and let them know that you should have just told the truth, and that sometimes people make things up to cover up behavior that they are not proud of.
2006-10-26 02:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I have overslept in the past also. I work in a retail pet grooming business, and sometimes work til 9pm, then am exhausted in the morning. Once, it was raining, and I slept until 9:45 (school started at 8:40). The worst part is that my son was the one who woke me up!!
I just told them the truth. The school staff are human too. I'm sure they've overslept once or twice in the past.
If the kids are old enough and understand that you lied, I would just sit them down and explain that it was a mistake and that it was wrong to do and you will not do it again - isn't that what you would expect from them?
Besides, if they do know you lied, chances are they went to school and told everyone "hey my mom lied". You know how kids are, lol
2006-10-26 16:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure lying sends a good message. You're right, the truth DOES happen to anyone so I probably would have gone with the truth, but I wouldn't stress over it too much if I was you. Tell the kids you must've still been sleeping... and laugh it off.
My 14 y.o. step-son (who we hadn't seen for 3 months because he's recently moved out of town) came for a visit last Sunday (with a changed voice, about an inch taller, and with a hint of a moustache!!) We took him out to lunch and he reminded us that once when he was 12 we told him to say he was 10 so he could eat off the cheaper kids menu at a restaurant. (His maternal Grandma used to give him a wink and do it all the time...)
And I've always paid the kids rate on public transit for as long as possible. (Hey he was a SMALL kid!!)
2006-10-26 09:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by Poopsie-Daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you did this. I don't think it's right but I do understand. The worse part about the whole situation is that you got the children to lie as well. You're just passing on bad behavior. I would sit down with the kids and talk to them. Let them know that you realize that you made a mistake. That will teach them that people make mistakes, even adults, but the right thing to do is admit when we are wrong.
2006-10-26 10:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by cj2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself...You're human!! You overslept!! Don't go running and change your story to the truth..they may think that you're a looney tune who doesn't tell the truth EVER! Save the truth for the day..the car breaks down...and tell the school you over slept!!! SEE?! WORKS OUT IN THE END!
My husband works until after 11 at night and I wait up for him and by the time we go to bed..it's after 1 am...I have to be up at 6:30 to get our son up for school.. How many times I wanted to let him STAY home..so that I could catch up on my sleep!!
But...Like I said..they are going to let your nephew make up the test...gives him more time to study...and again...DON'T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF!! It's not like you do this EVERY day...
2006-10-26 09:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, it happens I've seen it written at my daughters school on the tardy sheet and I have written it myself...it happens nobody is perfect...about the whole test thing well he will be able to make it up, right...but don't lie about the reason you are late that only gives the kids a reason to lie and we shouldn't be teaching them that...explain to them you made a mistake about that whole side of it...
2006-10-26 09:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should tell the truth as the kids see you lie they think it will be ok to lie to. Second, you are human, don't stress we all sleep in. They are going to make the test again for him so he is not going to fail. Hey lookat it as you have given him more time to study and part of his good grade will be thanks to your sleep in. Go out and look up at all the stars and think how little you are in the scheme of life and this problem is even littler. You have hurt no-one , there is no permanant damage give him a hug say you are sorry and tell him even grown ups make mistakes
2006-10-26 09:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we as adults should set examples of lying to children, or worse even pull them into our lies; however I too have been guilty of this. Never again will I do it. You should just be honest and say that you overslept, it happens. Everyone should just be happy that you are taking responsibility to take your nephews to school.
2006-10-26 10:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel bad. Not for lying to the school cause a lot of parents do just that. But you should be ashamed of yourself for telling the kids to lie. Youjust reinforced an idea that it is okay to lie to get out of trouble. Don't be surprised when they do it to you.
You should explain to the children that you feel really bad about what you did and that you are sorry for having them lie to cover your butt. This way when they do lie, they'll know it's okay to come back and tell the truth if they didn't in the first place.
2006-10-26 09:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by bdub25 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dont feel bad. I get all messed up with thinking to if I make my kids late, because I feel bad and I dont want them to get blamed for it. I have done the same thing before. Its just normal to try to think up something. Of course its better to just tell the truth because otherwise your teaching the kids that its ok to lie. Dont beat yourself up about it. As long as he gets to make up his test it will be ok.
2006-10-26 10:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, we're all human!! He'll be able to make the test up, it's ok. And I've told my kids before to 'not say anything to grandpa about this, He doesn't need to know". Yes, I felt bad to teaching them to lie, I really did. But I talked to them about it later and explained that I was wrong, even mom's make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up anymore!!
2006-10-26 09:36:34 · answer #11 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋