alright public opinion question...I just met this guy in my class and we went out on a date. Last night on the phone he tells me he's over 30. Well I'm 18. I'm not looking for anything serious and having fun getting to know him better. So is the age difference a problem?
2006-10-26 02:15:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is it a problem for you? if it is then why waste yours or his time? if it isn't a problem to you then who cares what everyone else thinks? my husband is 11 younger than me and age has never been a problem for us.....our families had their concerns but it didn't stop us cause we loved each other!!!!
age is just a number...if you like him, GO FOR IT!!!!
2006-10-26 02:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
A problem for who? I'm 27 and would never dream of dating a girl that young, but if he doesn't have a problem with it and neither do you then technically it's fine. It's not like it's illegal. Is it weird that a 30+ man is dating an 18 year old girl....yeah. Typically guys like that don't have much going for them. I don't mean any offense to you. If I were you I'd wonder why he couldn't find a woman more in his age range. Besides, wouldn't you rather date a guy in your own age group? Seems like you would have more in common.
Edit: In response to CeeBee, your situation is a little different. While the chronological age difference is there, it is not the same as the many differences between a 30+ year old and an 18 year old.
2006-10-26 09:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by btmead21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the age difference is a problem. It is not the years so much as the experience form 18 to 30. This is a wide gap in terms of living.
2006-10-26 09:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cerebal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'm kind of biased on this question. i'm the 'older man' :) i am 43 and i am dating a lady that is 26. we have been dating for over 7 months now. the only problem that we have encountered is that her parents are prejudiced! i'm white, she's from india! outside of that, all of our friends and my family are quite comfortable with it. even my twin 22 year old daughters with a grandson and a granddaughter! :) but the main thing is are you comfortable with it? as long as you don't give in to peer pressure and follow what YOU believe, then age has no bearing on any of it! we are looking at starting our own family and everything. she's a nurse, i manage a facility at a mental institution. one reason i date younger ladies is because most women my age are not as in good of shape and don't like the active lilfestyle i live. i hike, bike 20 miles 3 x's a week, lift wieghts, lie to camp, water ski, snowboard, etc. she likes the same type of things! so as long as you can handle an older man and he dosen't wear you out, then buy all means go for it! :)
2006-10-26 09:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by ceebee1111 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in reality? Yes, its a problem..Having a big age difference is not really good at all. Why? because level of understanding are not the same. You being young need to explore more on things, while him finished what you are just experiencing..Sometimes, this will result to misunderstanding.. You cannot level yourself with him and he cannot level yourself to you because of your age gap. At first, it will be okay, but when the call of immaturity arise, the problem will be there...
Just wait for the right person..you are still young for this,.. enjoy your time...the more you get older the more responsibilities it will come..
2006-10-26 09:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're at different stages in your life. People having fun are not constrained by age but people forming a more serious bond may find that they ultimately want different things, and more pertinently, at different times in their lives.
Have fun together. If things hot up then learn about each other a lot before going down a road that is hard to turn back on.
Good luck.
2006-10-26 09:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by Thanks! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you need to know how "over 30" he is...
Sometimes to get a mental match, you need to look beyond chronological age. At 18, however, you are still in your learning curve...don't be in a hurry to look for that mental match too soon...
You might not be looking for anything serious, but who's to say he isn't? People over 30 are fun to talk to and learn from, but they're also more "worldly" ...be careful...
2006-10-26 09:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Cleveburgher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a big girl now, just be careful and watch your back. Don't give up the candy too soon! And don't buy sob stories until proven fact. It's a jungle out there baby!
2006-10-26 09:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by marie1257 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being honest up front, and I don't see a problem with the age gap.
If it bothers you, move on... but a pretty lame excuse.
You need to give him a chance for who he is, rather than how old he is!
2006-10-26 09:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the age bother you. If you really like him, good for you. The other aspects of him should overpower the age gap.
2006-10-26 09:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think age should ever be a problem, and it only is if you make it one. so have fun, if the 2 of you click, even better. just have fun.
2006-10-26 09:18:07 · answer #11 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋