I was really into someone recently and he doesn't like me. I am upset about this still and would like some advice. Thank You!
2006-10-26 02:12:43 · 18 answers · asked by StaLynnCey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get a copy of the book "He's Just Not That Into You" and move on.....no sense wasting time and emotion on somebody who doesn't want or deserve your time and emotion.
2006-10-26 02:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you what to do but I am in exactly the same boat as you right now. All I can say is that life goes on and you have to stay focused on your priorities. You can't change his feelings for you, and although you really want him to like you it won't change reality. I know how much it hurts, though. I am really into this guy and I thought he was into me, and maybe he is but he won't tell me, and when I see him around the neighbor hood (he is my son's best friends' dad) we chat and say hi and he seems to really be happy I am there but he has never done or said anything to indicate otherwise. I really like him, but it doesn't matter. I have to keep doing my daily routine.
With your friend, he has told you there are no sparks. If that is too hard for you, maybe you shouldn't see him anymore, even if it is in a social setting.
The sea is so big, don't settle for just ANY fish. The right one is swimming around waiting for you. GL
2006-10-26 02:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from somebody who as done that and been there it hurts like hell and you end up wasting a lot of time trying to get him. If you can just accept it and walk away. You'll only feel like a complete twit if you keep trying to get him and he still wont be interested. Hope the pain stops soon you will find somebody else who is really crazy about you once you move on.
2006-10-26 02:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that i can think of for you to do is just stay mates, or if u aint mates, get to know him better, but don't ruin anything you have already got with him because the more you try the more you will push him away, b patient and your time will come , i promise, i fancied this boy and he didnt like me any thing other than friends, but when we got to know each other a bit more, we started hanging out together every night and now i have been going out with him for 11 months
2006-10-26 02:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is move on and get over with it. Think of it like they are the one who lost out, not you. There is nothing you can do, and trying to "make" this person like you is a lost cause. You will just end up looking like a needy stalker. There are other fish in the sea for a reason, so keep looking!!!
2006-10-26 02:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the many approaches to this curiosity of yours is what I hereby suggest. It is apparent that you like him and want to be closer to him. But you get the vibes that he doesn't like you. If this is true you could reapproach him in a different way. First find out where he spends most of his time. E.g, if it is in computers, then do a parallel research on how you could get him to help you in a certain computer assignment which might greatly interest him. Idea is to get to know his likes and dislikes. This way you could be in a better position to decide if he is really the 'chosen one'.
If it doesn't work then try again. Persistence and patience 'brings' the subject closer to you.
Camelion style. is my spelling correct? Camileon ?
2006-10-26 02:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by catcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I've gone through the same thing before. It might be helpful to you to cry for an extended period of time- just to get it out of your system. It helped me then. I mean I was driving at the time and I had to pull the car over to the side of the road because I wasn't able to drive and cry that hard at the same time. But once I regained my composure, I felt a whole lot better after getting it out. Good luck to you but you'll start to like someone else once you get everything out of your system.
2006-10-26 02:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by osunumberonefan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been thru that to, and im still going thru it. While you still like them you should get over him. Look at me, Im an idiot, i kept trying on the same girl for 8 years!! yes i was 10 at the time!! we had our ups and downs, but it eventually ended, yet i still like her, and i dont plan on getting over her- I just want her to be happy for the rest of her life!!! ......
If this is the kind of life you want.. then keep trying on him.
If you to actually be with someone.... i dont have to finish
2006-10-26 02:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask me why but all of us want to be liked , he obviously knows you like him so he doesn't feel the need to make any effort in making you like him , ignore him and it will make him wonder how likable he is , chances are he'll ask you what he has done wrong , just say nothing and enjoy his efforts to try and make you like him again .
2006-10-26 02:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You forget about the person and move on with your life. You can't force anyone to love you. You'll only be hurting yourself in the end.
2006-10-26 02:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋