when should i talk to her?

Question

my daughter is 10. she is the youngest in her class. alot of the other girls are very physically mature, my daughter is not. the others have started to shave their legs, she hasn't. her friends wear miniskirts and tube tops, makeup, and most have boyfriends. i have refused to allow her to do these things, i feel she is too young. i haven't had "the talk" with her yet, although when she is with her friends i have overheard their conversations and i appears that they have some ideas about sex. should i allow her to do the same things as her friends? she accuses me of making her not fit in. i am just trying to protect her. am i being too overprotective? and when and what do i tell her about sex?

Answer 1

For goodness sake! What are some parents thinking of? A 10 year old should be playing with her dolls not going around looking like a tart!
You are 100% right to protect your daughter from all that. Talk to her about physical maturation and the importance of love and relationships. Its hard to stand against the crowd but your daughter deserves to be protected.

Answer 2

Unless you want to be the youngest Grandma on the block, keep doing what you are doing!!!! Having the sex talk with her is also a good idea. I think if you point out all the realities of sex and her friends behavior she will understand. Point out the fact that by dressing and acting like her friends they are giving an open invitation to all boys and men that they are looking for sex and what happens with youth sex???? Youth pregnancies. Remind your daughter of her dreams. Does she want to go to college, does she want to be a doctor or a nurse or a busness woman? Let her know that you are raising her the way you are so that she can be successful and not end up unhappy.

Answer 3

no she is too young, i wanst allowed to shave my legs until i was 12.
i can understand fully that you want to protect her,
the other kids may start to pick on her soon though, so you will have another dilemma!
i would never let my child wear a MINI SKIRT at 10 ! no way not in a million years!!!!
maybe a bit of make up, but i would not let her walk out the house showing that much flesh, untill she is at least 14! and i still wouldnt be happy about that either lol.
so i think you are doing the right thing xXx

Answer 4

Buy a book "Our Body Ourselves" and read it with her. You are soo right to keep her a child, but inform her about her body and other things. Watch movies about teen pregnancy and tell her how growing up isn't always fun. It includes lots of responsibility and so does acting grownup and having sex or dating. My body developed at a young age 8 and it was hard with all the stares from grown men never mind kids my own age. Make sure she's confident. Get her into sports or karate and it will help her make better decisions.

Answer 5

Do not over protect your child - my mom did that to me (bless her heart) and I was wild trying to find out what she did not want me to know. Now is the right time to tell her about life - you should give her all the information that she needs because she will receive inaccurate information out in the streets. Be honest with her and discuss things with her. Kids out in the streets talk about things that they have no knowledge of and your child will be out there uninformed. It is your job to inform your child with correct information. Believe me, they talk about EVERYTHING in school. I talk to me 12 and 13 year old about everything and they are so mature in conversation because they heard it from their mother. They have no questions or doubts...Talk to your child before someone else does.

Answer 6

now and always education is all these days talk about everything its hard but you are giving your child the power to chose her life before it is made for her , i am the father of 5 trust me pal

good luck

Answer 7

As Soon As Possible.
I Think it is aserious matter.
thank you

Answer 8

Now-before she learns on her own.