Ok, please tell me if I'm crazy...
I have a family member under the age of 35...who is on their 3rd marriage. Each marriage has lasted approximately 2 years, and there was no real reason for leaving...other than the fact that they didn't LOVE their spouse anymore. Now, the 3rd marriage is approaching 2 years, and this time there is a baby involved....and guess what.....they're leaving....AGAIN..
Am I totally crazy to be of the mind..."Family or not....enough is enough..."
Or, am I supposed to be that supportive family figure. I mean I know some people take marriage lightly these days, but come one....this is the extreme. Grow up and get some help!
2006-10-26 01:36:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK, let me clarify something... I'm not the nozy family type to jump in their business....It' s not a matter of minding my own. Our family is very close...and they make it my business; looking for my approval. I have a young daughter of my own, and honestly I don't think I want her around that kind of influence. Is that evil of me? Do I need to look the other way and smile?...and let them go on the way they want...is is wrong to want to cut all ties?
2006-10-26 01:50:13 · update #1
You don't have to support something you don't agree with - family or not. Perhaps this person is just selfish and immature - who really knows what love is anyway??? Sometimes love is not being selfish and wanting to do the right thing for your child and family. Sound like this person has no grip on that. There are a lot of things they could be doing right now besides just leaving and you know that. If you feel they are setting a bad example, say so. Sure they could get upset with you, but what are they going to do - leave you??? I would think with a child involved they owe a lot more to making this work than just running off to the next relationship or marriage. Some people just always need someone and once they have them they aren't happy. I would say the person to support in this case is the child who came out of this relationship. That kid deserves a somewhat stable happy life even though one of their parents is a dud.
2006-10-26 01:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason they think that 2 years is the limit.... Really after 2 years you should know all the bad habits of one another.
I was wondering if with your parents , one of them had multiple marriages or had a new partner every 2 years?? This situation would then make sense to me.
Alot of people of deathly afraid of life commitment and find it easier to stay on the outside of a relationship and not give themselves 100% for fear of getting hurt. This person sounds like they were abandoned a couple times in their life and is now repeating history...
There is no perfect partner for this person , until they deal with their own personal conflicts from within.
Yes you should be supportive... they can't help themselves... It is not as cut and dry as you think......
2006-10-26 01:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
focus on your own life, your family member is a lost cause! at that age, you can't teach an old dog new tricks!! My mother has been married 8 times!! Yes, 8! there are 3 of us.. we all have different dad's! I'm 35 & never been married because that is not my thing!! Some people are the marring type, my mom...your family member!! to each there own!
2006-10-26 01:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We cannot control what others do. However, we do not have to agree or support their decisions. You make a very valid point, enough is enough! Some people are just never satisfied, no relationship is good enough. It's very sad that a now a baby is involved. I do hope your loved one can handle that relationship, because it IS Forever!
2006-10-26 01:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by janet r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her when she needs you. Having a baby is going to change things and maybe make her wake up. If you tell her she is crazy or making lots of mistakes she will feel isolated and not have the support she needs. I liked it best when I could tell my family my problems and not be judged.
2006-10-26 01:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like drifters they believe the grass is always greener somewhere else. Thats just the way they live their life. I feel sorry for the child hopefully both parents can remain amicable for the childs sake. As for yourself you know you cant really change this person just let them go.
2006-10-26 01:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not married so i wouldnt comprehend what thats like yet i imagine that you may want to attempt it on for length. See how issues pick a lady. If issues get severe with this female that is necessary to admit it on your husband although, regrettably because it really is an same as an affair. best of luck!!
2016-12-05 06:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy whomever that family member is they really do need some counseling. The may have a deep seated problem with commitment.
2006-10-26 01:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes be strong and tell them to work it out this life is for the living and not for playing games every relationship needs working at from time to time and it sounds like when the going gets tough he gets going that's not on tell him how you feel ..
good luck if he sulks let him .
2006-10-26 01:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by DAVID M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok was there a question in all of that???
How about it's none of your business, you can't control how other people act or react.
You can either chose to be supportive or not
2006-10-26 01:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋