this guy i started seeing is still not divorced with 2 children and i have 2 kids of my own and im not allowed to really talk to my ex it seems ( father of my child ) and even dont want me seeing my friends without him there as well and gives me guilt trips .. or these some signs or am i being paroniod ?
2006-10-26 01:28:39 · 27 answers · asked by kendra h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The are signs he is controling...but then most men are to some extent.
2006-10-26 01:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are definitely signs. If he tries to keep you from doing things you want to do then it's a sign of him being a bit controlling. You have every right to talk to the father of your children and there is no reason you shouldn't be allowed to go see your friends. You're not being paranoid he's being controlling and possesive. Next thing you know he'll be trying to control what you wear and who you talk to on the phone.
My advice would be to leave him or if you want to stay then you should probably talk to him and tell him that if he doesn't change it's over. You can't let him control your life.
2006-10-26 08:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by xstellardarlingx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The signs do start out small and tend to progress. If you feel he is being controlling then you need to get out as soon as possible. I've been in your situation and yes, that's about where it started but I continued it even though I knew something was wrong. At the end of the relationship, I had to get a restraining order and he had carved my name in his arm (leaving my apt a bloody mess for my kids to see). If you are feeling controlled don't wait to see what happens, JUST GET OUT!!!
2006-10-26 08:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a clear sign that you should send him packing! It's jelousy combined with control and works out to spell disaster! These are the initial signs of abuse which can tend way for much more! May be a sign of what inspired the first divorce!
2006-10-26 08:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
H*ll Yeah! These are definitely signs of a controlling man. If I were you I would run like crazy in the opposite direction.It will only get worst and who is he to prevent you from talking to the father of your children. Does he talk to the mother of his children? You don't need that type of stress. Please keep the lines of communication between you and your children's father open, especially if he is a good parent.
2006-10-26 09:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the classic signs not only of a controlling personality but also of a potential abuser. Stay away from him, for the sake of your children if not your own.
2006-10-26 08:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your paranoid. you dont mention any of his way with his ex really. The friend thing, i can understand, especially if its men or friends of your ex. Maybe its a man thing. If you have a key to his car or he gives you money, etc im sure you've nothing to worry about.
I went through a similar thing when i was going through a 4 year divorce.
2006-10-26 08:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like a control freak. Does he have friends of his own? It could be his own guit which leads him not to trust you. Have you done a bit of snooping into his activities recently? Check his messages on his phone or check his credit card bill. Stuff like that will uncover his secrets.
2006-10-26 08:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Sounds like he is a controlling person. If he doesn't give you the freedom to do what you want without his approval, those are definite signs.
2006-10-26 08:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Biskit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing that you need to remember is that both of you are equal in your relationship. he cant do anything you cant and vice versa. secondly, it sounds like you two, or maybe he is talking this relationship way to fast. those kind of " rules" seem to be unfit for dating. they seem way more appropriate for marrage! the best advice i can give you is if you feel controled or treated unfair then you need to set things strait before they get out of control!! good luck!!
2006-10-26 08:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by jake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋