And were you able to forgive them?
2006-10-26 01:17:54 · 13 answers · asked by CJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i had nothing but abuse in my life till about two years ago. but these two are definately the ones that stuck in my mind right away:
One = mum: "i wish you were never born, i should have aborted you, i hate you".
two = ExBoyfriend (of a one year relationship) = "good, i dont want to be with you anyway, the only reason i was with you was to f*%k you".
and yes, i forgave them both. i love my mother with all my heart and i am friends with my ex. people hurt you, but you hurt even more if you harbour resentment and unforgiveness. Plus, when i found Jesus, nothing else mattered anymore. He healed the hurt and showed me how to love those who even do wrong to me. If He can forgive us for being scumbags all the time, than surely i can forgive someone for saying a few hurtful things. When you have a personal relationship with God, its much easier to forgive people, coz its not such a big deal anymore. you have a purpose, a reason to live, and a God who loves you unconditionally. people's hurtful words just dont mean anything anymore. its awesome!
2006-10-26 01:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other than being bullied at school and called 'apey' as well as all sorts of other vile names, the worst thing someone has ever said was, 'you must be wrong in the head.'...Their reason for this, was I have tattoos and piercings. I can accept people dont like my physical appearance for whatever reason, and saying 'oh I dont like tattoos or piercings' is fine. However, to say that I must be mentally ill or in some way less able mentally than them is the most hurtful thing I've ever heard. I dont think people are 'wrong in the head' because they look a certain way at all, I just wish some people would think about how hurtful they can be with just a few words. Do I forgive her? I probably do forgive her, she's just a product of her upbringing and probably hurts countless people on a daily basis and will never know why no-one visits her when she's admitted to the nusing home!
2006-10-26 09:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My now ex husband said, "I still love you but I'm not in love with you anymore." What a way to start your wedding night! I should have just had the marriage annulled but tried to work things out for the next three years, ending up with a very abusive husband. We've been divorced almost 6 years now and I am re-married to a wonderful man with an adorable 4 month old son,
In a way I have to thank my ex as he did make me take a hard look at myself and redefine what's important to me. I certainly don't take my relationship for granted and I think it's made me realize just how important open, honest communication is.
2006-10-26 09:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my oldest daughter was a baby, it was just me taking care of her. Her birth father was supposed to pay child support but didn't and one night I had picked my daughter up from daycare after a long day at work and she and I had gone to get a few groceries. While we were at the store we ran into him and his friends-they were all drunk-and he decided to make a mockery out of me. Right there in the store he proceeded to call me a slut, a bad mom, etc. He even went so far as to say my daughter was wearing "crappy clothes" and that I needed to do better. I was hurt and crying and when I looked around there was quite the crowd gathering. I let him have it. I pointed out the back child support he owed me, the fact that he was drunk in a grocery store on a Tuesday night, etc. When I had finished saying what I had to say I heard one person clapping and a few more fell in. It was a great feeling- I have forgiven him for his stupidity and accepted that he will never be a father to her and moved on- but sometimes you can't forget.
2006-10-26 08:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back in '96 my sons mother and I split up, he was only 2 yrs old, I saw and called him every chance I got, One day I called and his mom said that she had met someone and that my son didn't "need" me anymore and I didn't have to go see him or call anymore, I was crushed more than I can ever put into words, To make a long story short, 10 yrs later my son and I are as close as can be,
he never stopped needing me, and more important he never stopped wanting me. Maybe someday I can forgive her.
2006-10-26 08:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Holydiver_33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law once said to me that I had tied my husband down with "all those children". (we have 4 together and I have 1 from a previous relationship). We never asked anyone for help. We are doing well financially and have never struggled to care for our children and my oldest daughter's biological father has always been in her life and does his part and more. I told my husband and at first he thought that I had heard her wrong. For a while after wards I wouldn't go to her house to visit and when my husband asked why I told him again what she said. This time he confronted her and she admitted to it. (she drinks quite a bit and you know what they say "A drunk mind speaks a sober tongue"). He proceeded to tell her that I hadn't tied him down by having children and that he didn't appreciate the comment. She tried to apologize but I don't feel that she really wanted to apologize. I forgive her but I will never forget.
2006-10-26 08:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i school was called DOG and when some one had a birthday they put a dog treat in the treat they brought . that was in 6th grade now i don't see any off my class mates, but if i do i would because I'm the bigger person i think in the yrs we just look back and think well I'm the one no one liked but hay that is fin because now that i have a good job and have kids of my own i learned that kids will be kids. if i see them on the street i would just be me i don't care what people think about me. it is about me and my kids now and if they don't like me that is there prob not mine. it just shows they didn't grow up.
2006-10-26 08:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by mom 2boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I separated with my husband for approx two months and stayed with my parents during the time. So they were right in the middle of everything going on between me and my husband since I was staying with them.
Six months later my husband and I were fine and back together in our own house 1100 miles away. At that time my mom found out she had breast cancer. It was in the first stages and was removed with one surgery. And she is just fine and cancer free.
A few months back she confessed to me that she thinks the stress of dealing with my separation with me and my husband gave her cancer.
MY MOM BLAMED HER CANCER ON ME!!
That hurts.....
2006-10-26 08:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pamela H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex looked me in the eyes in the drive way and told me he did not love me that crushed my world and i forgave him because of that moment i was able to find the rt person for me
2006-10-26 08:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step-mother told me that I would never amount to anything to try to push me into doing better in school, in order to prove her wrong, but it only made me depressed and feel worthless.
2006-10-26 08:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by April J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋