A guy that had been pursuing me for a while told me I was very pretty, very accomplished, kept in shape, had a nice family and could have any guy I wanted. I said I just got out of a relationship, wanted some time to myself and I didn't want to get into another commited relationship yet. I didn't want him to think that I was just using this as an excuse, so later I called him back to let him know that I was attracted to him but left it at that.
After a month I called him at work and asked if he was seeing someone special. He said no but he does date. I told him I would like to call him once and a while on a personal level, not about work and ask him to go to a work conference. I told him I liked him and I wanted to see him.
At the conference he tells me he is on the rebound, doesn't date but wants to be FWB but he had already told me he was dating. When I originally told him I wasn't ready for commitment, why didn't he tell me he was also rebounding and ask for a FWB then?
2006-10-26 01:10:22 · 8 answers · asked by j t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's called "backpeadaling and covering his *ss".....he apparently really does like you, and he was hurt that you turned him down......so he backs down and says he's in the same situation......its sad, but alot of men do this......
2006-10-26 01:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody wanting FWB is playing -- not on the rebound. Mixed messages not withstanding this has all the trappings of player manipulations. You seem to be wanting different things from each other. Honesty is pretty consistent. He's not even trying to keep his story straight.
2006-10-26 08:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly. i dated and stayed with someone with has just broken up less than 1 month ago. relationship lasted exactly one month and i hurt like hell for 3 months. anyway. not all the case are the same. maybe you are lucky. all the best. sad thing is i am now looking for a rebound.... ha ha.
2006-10-26 08:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by loveholic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both sending conficting messages ---- get him alone in a quiet place with a coffee tea chocolate and talk to each other find out what you both want from a relationship ---- see if you are on the same page
2006-10-26 08:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are chasing a guy who wants you to be a fwb? you need to leave him alone he's probably no good for you.
2006-10-26 08:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by ponypuffgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not sending you a mixed message, he told you exactly what he wants.
2006-10-26 08:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really thought that it was an excuse
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2006-10-26 08:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck is a FWB????????????
2006-10-26 08:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋