i'm the eldest, and i have two siblings.... my parents told me not to have a boyfriend til our family was stable, but then i met this guy whom i love so much, he's my boyfriend for almost two months now... i haven't told them about him yet because i'm afraid that they might get really mad and won't allow me to study anymore.... what should i do or how should i tell them about this????
2006-10-26 00:42:36 · 23 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK ... I think it's best to tell them that you've "met a boy" ... no real need at this stage to tell them about a boyfriend ....
Let the family decide whether or not they like him (and if you play it really cool and he's as nice as you make out ... shouldn't be a prob
Then when they've accepted this "nice boy" as a friend of the family .... explain how it's gone to the next stage and you've fallen in love with him
Slow and careful .... you get to keep the boyfriend and your parents will see how happy you are and accept the situation :)
2006-10-26 00:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why wouldn't they allow you to study? If you've been with him for two months then you've proved you can handle it... Although it might seem that keeping it a secret is a good choice, in the end they'll find out. It always happens. And then it's going to be worse, since they are going to be mad at your lying to them. I think you should think about that "stable family" thing, what does it really mean? Why would having a boyfriend attempt against that stability? When you figure that out, you might talk to them about it, try to make a point and show them that having a couple is not harmful for you... Good luck :)
2006-10-26 07:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Setsuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIrst of all it all depends on how old you are b/c i don't want to give the wrong advice, but in my opinion u should at least be 16-18 before you even start dating and to be in love with a guy is a big step half of u teenagers don't even understand the meaning of being in love.Be honest with ur family it's the best thing. No matter what, they should know what ur doing and how u feel. Never leave ur parents in the dark they can help you, they know more and they know most of the time the best way to protect you!!!!!!!!!!! Just do the right thing and talk to them. I'm sure everything will work out. Better now then never. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 07:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to make you say, you can't have a boyfriend until your family is stable? Why wouldn't they allow you to study? I think you should tell them you met someone and you kinda like him. But since I don't know all the facts to your families instability, I really can't tell you what to do. Would you be in danger if you told them? Are you way to young to even be seeing a boy? These are important facts. I think you would be safe in telling them about him. After all it's only been 2 months and I don't believe in deception. Honesty is ALWAYS the best thing. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 07:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you did not say HOW OLD YOU ARE, but just said you are the eldest of two siblings. If you are 12 or 14, then you should listen to your parents, and should not date. I am a father, and if I had it my way, I would not want my daughter to date till she was 16, but my wife dropped that to 15.
Secondly, you should always tell your parents. I recomment that you tell the parent that would understand a little better, and have that parent give you advice on how to tell the other parent. In my family, my kids come to me first, then we figure out how to tell MOM.
One thing though that we definitely frown on in this family is dishonesty and trust. So good luck
2006-10-26 07:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just suggest them you kind of like somebody, cause he is a really nice guy. Tell them this like an ordinary subject, don't make it sound like something special, and see how they react. Then you can decide on your own if you tell them all the rest, but make sure to let a couple of weeks past from the first discussion to the next, cause they are not stupid and they will figure it out.
2006-10-26 07:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, weird request from your family.
Anyway, regardless, if you are not having sex with this boy, and you are just hanging out getting to know him, then I think it is OK to wait. If you think that you are going to go further than that, well, you don't need to tell them that but I think you need to tell them you met a boy and have them meet him.
2006-10-26 07:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you .... dont let your parents restrict you if my parents told me not to get a boyfriend id go spare but they know id tell them ur propbably best telling them but just wait till there in a good mood and do it slyly like sayin iv met a boy or invitin him round n ask ur mum n dad wt they fink of him after hes gon u no ...
xXx good luck xXx
2006-10-26 08:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, and tell them when you feel confident that the time is right. I know you respect your parents, but once you are an adult, they have no right to try to control your private life.
2006-10-26 07:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the relationship get serious before you tell them. Think wat will happen if after 1 week of telling them, u broke up. Family first. Tell only if the relationship is worth it. 2 mths is too little. Wait and decide.
2006-10-26 08:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋