We are engaged to be married and we were thinking to move to the city his parents live in.(even though I don't want to move,but the life is cheaper there)But now they say'' don't spend that much money to rent a house,move in with us until you find a job and a house!'' I always lived on my own,worked and stayed on my feet.They are too much involved .I even got a credit from the bank for our moving expenses.Now why the hell would I move in with them since we can afford to move and I could find a job in 10 days???What should I do? I am independent and I even consider staying where I am ,even it's much more expensive! What should I do???
2006-10-26 00:29:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are used to being independent, but independence in a marriage only leads to divorce. The two of you should sit down together and decide TOGETHER whether to live in the cheaper or more expensive city. As far as moving in with his parents, I highly urge against that. It sounds like they are pretty overprotective and he might even be their only child or at least only son. Moving in with them only means that if the two of you ever have an argument, more than likely, he'll have two supporters that will be against you even when you're right.
2006-10-26 00:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not do it only to appease his parents because you will be resentful of them for felling like you were pressured into something you didn't want to do.
You have to decide if the inconveniece of living with his parents is worth the financial benefit.
But try to take the emotion out of it.
Is living with them a while a big enough opportunity to start the path to financial freedom (not living pay check to paycheck). Or merely going to just give you a little more breathing room.
More than 2/3 of the population do not have enough savings to last them even a couple of months without working. If somthing major were to happen you may be able to sock away some money for a "Rainy Day"
2006-10-26 00:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by vinniebagodonuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a few serious relationships and in my experience don't let parents get involved.....his OR yours! Your relationship is yours and yours only....don't let others step in. If you can find a way to live on your own with your fiancee` than do so. It is best to be alone. Having a relationship and being involved in their lives....that's fine but living with them not okay! I can tell you this because I lived with my husbands mom for a month while he was deployed when we were engaged....BAD!!!! She and I had a great relationship before and now she is constantly doing manipulative and kniving things to basically get me out of the way!! I am not saying this will happen to you I am just saying try to stay on your own with your fiancee`.
2006-10-26 00:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIS PARENTS! The first few months I was married, we were living with mine, bad idea. If we wouldn't have moved to another state, we wouldn't still be married. Living with family at that time in your life can be disastrous. The parents will get much more involved in everything and that will not be good for anybody involved. Good luck.
2006-10-26 00:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT move in with them and give up your independence. Better to rent a smaller place at first and live within a budget than to be under someone else's thumb in someone else's home.
2006-10-26 00:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 21:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with them for pre-established period of time (1-2 weeks max) and think of as a vacation visit. You'll spend most of that time sleeping and job & house hunting anyway. Be thankful you have family that's willing to help.
2006-10-26 00:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally such invitation do not come from those coming from Western Culture. Probably u belong to that culture. U cannot appreciate it. The pleasure of living with parents in law and sacrificing ur privacy and independence to some extent has its own advantages more so when u start raising ur family.
2006-10-26 00:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stay in with them for a while before you switch over .. that will make them happy as well will give you time to standup on your feets firmly .. even if you ar egetting a loan .. you have to repay it which means a burden on you .. save some money when you are staying with them ;)
Regards
Sameer
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
2006-10-26 00:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them; "Thank you very much for the offer, but we have it under control and I think we'll be fine now."
They sound like they only want to help out a little and you should be very cautious about burning that particular bridge when you could need the help later in life.
2006-10-26 00:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋