Me & my boyfriend are in the realm of splitting up, its so hard coz we both feel differently about each other yet we get on so well. We're meeting tonight to talk and see if it can be sorted out.
What can i do to make the situation slightly easier.
I know this question seems a bit vague but i'd be here all day going into the details.
2006-10-26 00:09:58 · 18 answers · asked by Loopy loo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you want to separate more than him?
If so, the best thing you can do is be honest and don't stretch it out or string him along.
But give his ego a slight boost by telling him that he's got a lot to offer.
If you really feel it's over, then make sure you agree to give each other space to adjust. It hurts, but it's the only way to move forward. Don't put a timeline on it either.
It's a horrible thing, but it's important to be honest and direct so you both understand each other. Make sure there are no loose ends.
Make sure you both avoid silly gossip or mind games, otherwise it's a real mess.
If I'm wrong & you want to save the relationship, then update the question & I'll reply again.
Good Luck!
2006-10-26 00:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Cracker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you're bound to feel miserable, he decision to split or stay together is never an easy one. On the plus side though you are both trying to work things out so theres still hope! try to think of some practical solutions that will help you and your boyfriend patch up your differences. Its quite difficult for me to suggest some solutions to you without knowing the situation youre in. to make things easier for yourself, try to take a step back and look at your problems. Can you really see this relationship going anywhere? If not it might be better in the long run to end things now and stay friends. Its hard now but it will improve one way or another.
2006-10-26 07:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely if you about to split up talking is not going to change the situation it seems that it is concluded already and would you be wasting each others time.
You obviously are not suited as a couple but can maintain a friendship.
Take time out and time away from each could help.
Best of luck to you both
2006-10-26 09:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by rachelsweet2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to push feelings out the window. coz as soon as you see each other... lovey dovey feelings will set in and all logic goes out the window... or, if its the other way around, feelings of anger and hurt etc, then all wisdom goes out the window and youll talk from hurt. so just lay the feelings aside, and talk about where you are both at. personally, and as a couple. what you both want out of a relationship, where you both see yourselves in a year or two's time, and what you want to see improved in yourselves and in each other. doing this will clearly indicate what you are both after. if your answers are different and ideas and needs are far apart, then your better off friends. if u have the same visions and realise you can meet each others needs if you get rid of some selfishness, then its worth continuing and working at it.
2006-10-26 07:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear things are not to good,glad your`e talking that`s a plus, guess if you both list the things that are causing this to happen there`s a chance you could both save the relationship & build a different picture.Good Luck
2006-10-26 08:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should consider taking some time away from each other and see how things go or just be adult about it all and say look being in a proper relationship is not for us however, we can be friends as you sound as though you both enjoy each others company. good luck
2006-10-26 07:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by missree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself first, before you meet think about what you really want/need to make you happy. Good luck x
2006-10-26 08:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself whether you would be more miserable if you stay with him or if you break up with him. Sure breaking up is not easy, but neither is staying together in a relationship that isn't working.
2006-10-26 07:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something you find fun.Then you will stop thinking about it because you will be having a great time.
2006-10-26 07:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by clkpro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweety it will be ok these things take time. Big hugs to you x
2006-10-26 07:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋