What can I do to make him unbored. I thought everything was OK.
2006-10-25 23:46:33 · 21 answers · asked by Christine D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask him what it is that bores him? Is it you? Is it the routine? Is it that the sex has gone stale/predictable...?
Only he can tell you what he is unhappy with and what he thinks needs changing in your relationship.
2006-10-25 23:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by E=MC2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've just missed out on one thing. A very vital and logically true fact. Have you sat back and wondered why he is bored? Simply with you or the association in general " . Sit back and think about - why has he reacted like this? Change the venue of your visits, make new ideas grow, find new friends probably he is bored simply by tagging along with you to the same old places, seeing the same old faces and dancing to the same music that perhaps that only you love. Tr to make the maximum of every situation, make him feel more important and not just a tag-along. Try something new everytime; see if he likes it and how he reacts. Perhaps he sees something in you that just does not seem right. Take stock of yourself and act accordingly. You will win in the end with him swooning over you once again. Best of Luck.
2006-10-26 06:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by vernon s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps things are a little stale, and bearing in mind he's a bloke, a craving for sexual variety is a natural instinct. You'll need to keep things fresh, go out and do different things, meet different people as a couple, maybe change your wardrobe and lose weight if you're fat etc. On the other hand, he may be settling into a routine that's making him bored- perhaps his job sucks and he's feeling that time's running out in which to have a good time and meet new people. Or perhaps he's scared of further commitment (esp. if you've been hinting at marriage). Good luck.
2006-10-26 06:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by JH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a quick fix get him xbox 360, that should give you a few months breathing space to think how to cultivate your relationship a bit more which could mean moving to a new town, both of you getting new jobs ect.
And with the 360 you know he will be at home playing games and not gallivanting out and about looking for excitement (with someone else).
2006-10-26 10:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by John Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how bored is he?? you need to talk to him and straight out asked him are you bored because you need more spice in the sex department?? or are you bored of the relationship... if is the sex is easy get kinky play games with him use toys there a many,many,many things you can do for that and they will work.. now if he is saying he is bored it could be that he is finding the relationship boring and that is not good.. the relationship should not be boring because people dont get together just for sex... they share things, go places, have conversations.. those things are hard to acomplished if you feel bored with them.. my advice to you is to talk to him and tell him to define you in wich way he is bored.... good luck hon.
2006-10-26 08:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are in a long term relationship you need to do things to keep it going, and you have to make a lot more effort than you did at the start. do you go on weekends away together? or holidays? or plan suprises for eachother? you need to keep eachother interested. If you get stuck in the same old routine its obviously going to get boring in the end. Good luck, hope it works out xx
2006-10-26 07:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you have got into a rut talk to him sensibly and find out why he is bored, is it something you are doing or not doing? If you can both put more excitment into your relationship try to do so. All relationships go through different stages, good times and bad, but if you really love one another you should get through it. Good luck.
2006-10-26 06:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should not have to do anything exept talk to him about it. Is it you job to entertain him?
Five years is a long time, but if you want it to last for a lifetime, you both should be able to find ways to make the relationship alive and exciting over and over.
Good luck! :)
2006-10-26 06:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bored with you, life or just your relationship. Sounds to me like hes looking for a get out clause, that usually follows boredom. Could be a mid life....., try to talk to him, ask him what is bothering him, and how you as a couple can resolve or make your relationship more interesting.
2006-10-26 06:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by jude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he might have found a new cute girl. Why do you still want to hang in that relationship? Just say, "Honey, let's call it quit. Me too, I am bored." You can find a guy way better than him.
2006-10-26 06:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him feel special every now and then... i had same prob with my hubby. Every weekend i make a night for just him. Cook a nice meal, get the candles out, nice music, bottle of wine followed by a full body massage... beleive me he wont be bored then!!!!
2006-10-28 07:04:06 · answer #11 · answered by sarah w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋