I have a nice settled married life but for when it comes to sex i think about sex regularly as any man would but whenever i ask for sex my wife's first reaction would invariably be no may it be after 1 day or 4 to 5 days this really depresses me then i have to use other tactics like giving her a foot massage a back rub shoulders arms etc. which she enjoys and hardly refuses after an effort of nearly one hour it comes to a stage that she becomes really hot and we have sex once or twice according to her wish this routine is really getting over me now my wife would never show her desire for sex she hates oral sex and i plead with her for weeeks to get an anniversary b--- j-- in all other aspects she is very loving and caring when i try to explain my mind to her she rejects saying that i am a sex freak i really dont know what to do if someone has faced a similar problem please tell me how can i level our sexual desires as i am very senstive about it and she is totally insenstive
2006-10-25 23:25:43 · 11 answers · asked by seenu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like you should have chosen your wife a little more carefully before you married. I had no idea of her sexual appetite before marriage
2006-10-25 23:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. There are always people out there throwing monkey wrenches in the works of others achievements, hard work and sometimes marriages. Before you jump to conclusions you need to get the facts first. 2. Sex is important in a marriage but should not be top priority before love. You need to evaluate your emotions and situation. but you can only accurately do that when you're calm and collective. 3. Make sure you're not the one with the issues. If he is the perpetrator of the dirty deed then do what you need to do to be happy again. Focus on what you want in life and do it! There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Never let anyone disrespect you and your feelings. Of course this is easier said than done, It's hard when you feel or know that your spouse is unfaithful. Thats why you have to know for sure without a shadow of a doubt before you do anything rash. If it's not too late, Get counseling!
2016-05-21 21:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, pal.........YOU are the one who is insensitive!!! The things you do to her are for your own sexual desires in order to manipulate her into a sex act with you!!! Try being loving and caring and attentive WITHOUT wanting sex. Take a look are your behavior......you are screwing up big time here and you had better change your approach and re-evaluate what you have been doing. If you don't, don't be surprised if she finds someone who appreciates her for the person she is and not a sexual toy when you are horney!!!
2006-10-25 23:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a problem boy and she does not know what she is missing. It sounds like you are a romantic person, you even massage her feet and all. Get her to get some help before you get sexually frustrated
2006-10-25 23:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. I am in the same boat. Except I am the female who doesn't want it. Do you have kids? My doctor tells me it is a hormonal balance thing from when I was pregnant. I am going on medication for it. I feel guilty all the time because I want to please him. Maybe talk to your wife about it. Maybe she will go see a doctor. Does she really feel bad about it? Maybe she is coming off incensitive because she is frustrated that she can't please you. Just be patient with her if you really love her.
2006-10-25 23:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a red corner notice saying "I am very hot and you are very cold! Clear my papers, to have a choice to go out in the weekends to quench my thirst with some Indian 'khulfi' lovers!!!" Next Saturday evening she will accompany you to enjoy that Indian kulfi ...my friend Neeraj says.
2006-10-25 23:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. She may have been brought up that way. Nurturing and patience are good qualities for a married person. Teach her how. Little by little, she will learn, You just have to be patient. Do not give up. Even a wet wood would catch fire if it stays long near a fire.
2006-10-25 23:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk really seriously with her.
Try out some MARRIAGE SEMINARS together if poss.
Marriage without sex is painful. hope you can resolve this fast or it might hurt your relationship. take care!
2006-10-25 23:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to married life! this is why everytime I encounter a young man and he tells me how great his sweetheart at home is and how he's going to marry her, I shake him by the shoulders and scream "good god man! RUN AWAY!!!"
2006-10-26 00:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No relationship can survive if you have to spend weeks "begging" for what you need.You are sexually incompatible.
2006-10-25 23:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋