Leo femme & Scorpio/Sag male part II - or for nonhoroscope lovers. Another complex relationship query?

Question

Hello all, Appreciate the feedback given the other day from you. Link: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20061024092705AAfBnai

I think things just got more complex btwn myself & the guy. A recent night we got intimate at his urging and he stopped... said he was tired/stressed... & we had a little chat if he felt there were issues btwn us. He said no. Later on when he was soothed he started doing so again & stopped!
At this point I'm wondering if I've lost my touch... *wry grin* but calmed down & asked him if he needed to talk. And finally talk he did. Everything he was feeling stressed about poured out. Feeling out of control, feeling directionless and stressed by expectations of others around him. But he stated that it did not involve me so much and that even with everyone trying to get in touch with him. It is only me that he responds to. I am glad he thinks that way but I'm wondering if he really wants me to keep my distance as well and is too nice to say so. Please advice?

More details:

I did ask him directly if he felt he was using me for intimacy and he said not at all and laughed and said it was an interesting angle... and I did tell him distinctively I wasn't using him and assured him that it was much more. Or I would be out and about. He said he did understand that. Said that he was feeling stressed and out of control not so much because of me and him.

I did ask him if I should take a step back and he said not to worry about it and he will deal with his issues. From experience, most men can't... and I guess I'm worried this will blow up in my face like my ex when he couldn't deal with it.

So I'm wondering if I should back off and let him be for awhile in spite of him saying I do not have to and letting me know he likes having me around and feels good with me.

Would appreciate any astrological/non astrological advice - it doesn't matter... I just themed it so it was easier perhaps to give character insights. Thanks all!

Answer 1

I am Leo, My Lover is Scorpio

This is a fervent blend of personalities, with strong emotions and passions brewed up hot on a cosmic burner. Both of you are fixed personalities -- you're not given to changing your stance, so when you two don't see eye to eye, the dishes could start flying! Still, to watch Scorpio-Leo couples, you can't help but wonder if they deliberately egg one another on just to have the opportunity to get steamed up and overwrought and then fling themselves into the sweet lovemaking that inevitably follows.

The dynamic tension of both of you wrestling for control keeps this relationship teetering on the edge, but it appears that is exactly where you both prefer it -- it certainly keeps things exciting! The heat you two generate is so intense it could light a bonfire. Scorpio's power is more mysterious and emotional, with a wide and deep spectrum of feelings. You can't always know the extent of your Scorpio's feelings because those still waters run deep. Scorpios speak little and aren't likely to wear their hearts on their sleeves. They think this may compromise their position, at least in the beginning. Initially it is easier for your lover to feel your affection than the other way around.

You are ruled by the Sun, and your smile could melt polar ice caps! Scorpio's joint rulers are Mars, the warrior, and Pluto, lord of the underworld (and all things existing under the surface). This is why their feelings can't always be discerned, and it gives them their legendary mystery. When a Scorpio loves, he or she loves with his or her whole heart, an obsession you can only guess at. You will get a hint of it in that bewitching gaze Scorpios are known to give the ones they love. With Scorpio, everything is in the eyes, the mirror of the soul.

Neither of you is casual with anything -- especially not each other. Possessiveness is part of the territory, but since you both are that way, there isn't a problem. Once mated, Scorpio is yours for life, though you are a less possessive personality and might have trouble returning Scorpio's loyalty.

You, Leo, are extravagant and Scorpio is highly sophisticated when it comes to investments. Thank Heaven! Scorpio might be horrified at your spending, and beg you to keep to your budget, but the regal Lion is unhappy with limits. Leos think that cutbacks don't belong in a successful castle. In the end, water (Scorpio's element) is more powerful than fire (your element), and could prevail when tossed with force on Leo's flame.

Your relationship has to be handled with care because you are both such strong personalities. If you fall out of favor with one another, it could be a clash of the titans, complete with thunder and lightning. Try not to compete with each other, but instead, allow for each other's differences. Stubbornness on both sides will be the biggest danger. Deal with this effectively and you have a pairing with the strength of iron and flexibility of steel -- certainly stuff that is made to last. You have the possibility for a most powerful union -- make it work!

Answer 2

By the way I know that the 1st answerer ~NEO~ is lying. In another of her answers she said both her lover and her are Scorpios. In another she said she is Leo her lover is SAg In another she said she is Capricorn and her lover is Virgo.
When Leo and Scorpio join together in a love match, the result is usually a dynamic and intense union. They are well tuned in to one another's needs; Scorpio demands respect and to be wanted while Leo needs to be adored and complimented constantly. They are both extremely loyal, and often possessive of one another. Both members of this love match are able to give the other what they need and while enjoying one another's strengths.

Leo relishes comfort and luxury, often doing things on a grand scale. Leo tends to be flamboyant, and Scorpio will appreciate that and will be happy to be the audience Leo requires as long as there is equality in the relationship. Leo shines brighter and more insistently, evolving into the living, breathing manifestation of magnificence and luxury. Scorpio shies away from the limelight but likes to control the mechanics. Because both Signs are so determined, these partners really need to work to understand and accept one another.

Leo is ruled by the Sun while Scorpio is ruled by the Planets Mars and Pluto. The Sun is about ego and self, and it radiates warmth and light. Leo indeed emits this kind of zeal and enthusiasm. Mars is about war, brashness and battle, and Pluto is the influence on Scorpio's inner dialogue. Ruled by the House of Sex, Pluto influences the idea of regeneration and rebirthing that is a current theme in Scorpio's life. Together, this abundance of male energy causes Leo and Scorpio to lighten their conflicts and assist one another. The Sun represents life, and Mars and Pluto represent ambition and the unconscious; as long as they take the time to really understand one another on a deep level, their romance is a positive one with high expectations. Leo is a Fire Sign and Scorpio is a Water Sign. Leo demands the freedom to mingle, while Scorpio has a chameleon personality. Both Signs want to lead, but in different ways, and this common desire could end up causing ripples in an otherwise steady, smooth relationship. Like the Elements that influence them, these two have the ability to cancel one another out. At times, their relationship may not be so harmonious. However, both partners will realize that petty disputes are only a distraction, and as long as they can keep their egos at bay and give the relationship top priority, their conflicts can usually be resolved.

Scorpio and Leo are both Fixed Signs. Both can be rigid, opinionated and resistant to change. They both tend to be persistent when working toward their goals. If they have a plan, they'll stick to it until they get what they want. They usually share a reluctance to change, preferring a stable and steady road. If they have dissimilar ideas about something, they may end up in a never-ending cycle of struggles. Scorpio won't budge because to them, it would be a sign of weakness. And Leo may think Scorpio is being too self-righteous. If they understand they're on the same side in the larger scheme of things, it's much easier for them to remain productive.

What's the best aspect of the Leo-Scorpio relationship? It's their shared sense of dedication to one another and the projects they partake in. Both Signs have very powerful, yet strategically different, personalities. They are seen as a strong pair by others, and their dedication to fulfilling their desires makes theirs a strong love match.

Answer 3

In my marital dating we vie for dominance, yet in my generic Y!A dating i think that she's in value. If we ever party i'm going to be exhibiting her who's boss nonetheless.