2006-10-25 23:08:27 · 36 answers · asked by Helpless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have spoken about this before and he says he has no idea why this is happening. Does not admit to toilet activity I have just caught him at it.
2006-10-25 23:14:25 · update #1
I have a vibrator and he knows about it. It does not have any effect on him. We had IVF done last year but this has been going on for almost 5 years. I know I am a sucker
2006-10-26 04:39:24 · update #2
Buy yourself a nice vibrator and tell Mr Jackoff to buzz off!!
2006-10-25 23:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bo Darville 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Hey, be thankful he's just wanking in your toilet instead of doing it on someone elses. Clearly your husband doesn't find you exciting anymore that's why he chooses to **** in the toilet instead of having sex with you.
Why don't you look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself why this horrible thing is happening. Are you the same luscious lady that he married years ago? If not I'd say go straight to the gym and loose all those excess fats you've been keeping for ages. And visit a spa and pamper yourself, you deserve it anyways. Try to regain your look when you were still dating then. That should do it. And when you feel and look beautiful again, tease/seduce that bastard but never let him touch you for a week or two. Let see if he could resist the new you... good luck and stay cool... c",)
2006-10-25 23:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by kernel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really have got to confront him about this. there are obviously some issues in your relationship and they need to be resolved. For him to be relieving himself shows he is not off sex and he still has urges which rules out possibilities of illness or general stress or anything like that. So I'd say the problem here lies in your relationship, sexual or otherwise. So sit him down and ask him straight up what the problem is. Alternatively, if you don't like the idea of confrontation, why don't you try spicing things up a little. Get yourself some sexy new underwear or an outfit and make him an offer he simply can't refuse.
2006-10-25 23:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do so many people give horrible or off hand or stupid answers to questions??
I think that obviously you and your husband have lost trust and intimacy. You are not connected any more and can't communicate your deepest feelings with each other. He still needs sexual relief, so he does it for himself.
His feelings may all be to do with the IVF treatment, or may be to do with other things.
This situation will not improve unless you are both prepared to talk and be honest with each other about what you both want out of life, your relationship and sex.
If you can't get him to talk, you will need to consider if you want to go on in a relationship with someone who you are not truly connecting with.
I know how you feel. I have been in this situation.
Remember communication and honesty are the key to happy relationships.l
2006-10-26 05:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if there is anything wrong
and if there is a reason he seems less atracted to you
Have a day where you spend the whole day together go out for dinner and stay at a hotel candels and some sex music sets the mood.
I suggest u get naked and be in either a dressing gown or a towel he wont be able to stay away from u he will be underneath or ontop of you in no time
2006-10-29 01:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might think you caught him wanking but was moaning and groaning cause of pain, maybe he has an STD! If he does not then there is something wrong with him. Hire some pono tape and a vibrator, play it when he is there and ask him to help you with the vibrator. If he does not get excited then my dear take him to the doctor. Good luck
2006-10-25 23:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him lots of affection in other way. Tell him you are willing to wait for full sex but need the warmth and companionship still. Hold hands, kiss, cuddle and be there for him.
You are not a sucker, some people take their marriage vows seriously.
2006-10-29 21:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. We can relate because my husband does not even bother or try to initate sex with me. I always have to make the first move and he just lies there taking it all in and leaving me feeling like a legal whore. He also relieves himself in the toilet and i could almost hear him from the bedroom. I have talked to him about my sexual needs but though he says he loves me, he does not try to initate sex with me still. I am tired. Frustrated. I cry feeling it is my fault he is doing it himself though he knows i need sex. I dont understand him.
2006-10-27 13:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by mimi c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that you go to see a sexual therapist and/or counsellor, so he will open, up. A sex therapist will be very good for getting your sex life back on track. It seems as if your partner most probably just got low self-esteem, or something worse. If its confidence, then the sex therapist will gradually build things back up again. I would reccommend going to a counsellor first, then a sex therapist..or maybe one that specialises in both fields!
2006-10-26 06:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by bradleyxwright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..... Just point out ASK HIM. You do deserve an answer. If this is how he wants your life to be as a married couple (which by the way supposed be honest and open) then yes. tell him " I don't have and am not... what you want JON (OR WHAT EVER HIS NAME) SOOOO. I FEEL WE SHOULD DIVORCE.wait and see his reaction perhaps he will be willing to open up to his WIFE
Keep in mind it COULD be a physical problem but. then again not. You deserve to know which one
2006-10-25 23:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by alheseas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could cheat and get him drunk. I know its not a long term solution but at least he might be a bit chatty and tell you what exactly is wrong. Cause if you don't find out whats wrong its a tad bit difficult to fix it.
2006-10-25 23:41:25 · answer #11 · answered by John Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋