How can I forgive my boyfriend! He got a job in a film for two moths to be able to find a place to move in.I'm due in three weeks from now,What is ironic is that the first day of his job was also the first time we so our baby in a sonogram. How can someone be son insensitive about it and go and have sexual relationships with the director of the movie? I even spoke to her last week.I don't know what to do.We still live in the same place, I'm in a really tide situation here.My family is in a different state plus my doctors are here i can not leave. I'm so hurt that I don't even want to allowed him to be part of labor, but at the same time I don't want to be alone...I would like to give him an opportunity, go to therapy or something, well I discover that he cheated with other people as well...but we may don't have time to heal before labor...I already have contractions..anybody out there with good advise? Im hurt
2006-10-25 23:06:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The bottom line is: Does he still love you and care about the baby, even though he has been unfaithful? Does he mistreat you (physically, verbally)? If he does love you and the baby and shows it, accept his imperfections for now (but, of course, say that you have been hurt). Let him be there at the birth, if he wants to be. Afterwards, once you are home again with the baby, re-assess the situation.
Forgiving is sometimes more a case of accepting people as they are, with all their imperfections, because there are more important things which are lovable. It is certainly not putting things on one side in the hope that they will change - they might (and if he understands what love and respect is, they should), but don't bank on it! Many men do have a temporary problem when their partners are pregnant and he may simply have been weak enough to succumb to it.
2006-10-25 23:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. I wish I could help you practically but I don't think I can.
It is not very likely for him to change. Had it happened only once, perhaps but this is not his case. Crying & getting deppressed is not helping you. . If you can handle him being present when the time comes let him be. If not block him , forget him, focus on your baby & on you.
Finding out what you did at the time you did is a blessing in disguise (if you care to see it this way). You have to think of the well fare of you baby, your feelings do matter but they come second, & concentrating on the baby will help you heel faster. . Have your baby, get strong and get rid of him whenever you are ready.
You are already doing something that needs strength & believe me if you set your mind into being strong (with or without him) you will make it.
Many women have been where you are & came through. You will too!!!
I wish you the best.
2006-10-25 23:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by marissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK- right now he is dirt! You don't have to find a place to go, you need to stay where you are, where you Dr. is. You and your baby are your main thought process. You are so close to giving birth, he will be there, he will see it, and it is a life altering experience for both of you. After the baby, alot of things will change. He will probably change. It's hard for you realize it right now, but you are obviously very important to him. My daughters father never made a Dr. appt. I saw all my sonograms with a friend or alone. He wasn't there for the birth either, but did make a special trip to the hospital the next day with a stuffed animal right before I was checking out. He is so wrong right now but it sounds like he has the potential to be good. Take care of yourself, be the bigger person, you have to right now.
2006-10-25 23:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by dolphinroc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his *** out and get a friend or relative up there to be with you for a little while, until the baby is due. He doesn't deserve to see his child born. You can take care of yourself and your baby there are programs out there to help you, Its you and your child now until a good, real man comes along. stay strong. dont let your head drop, you can do this, women are strong look on line for a help group you will find support there too. thousands of women have been in your same situation and want to help. good luck.
2006-10-25 23:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really sad. if he did loves u, he wouldnt have cheated on u. guys tend to cheat when their girl are pregnant. as he has cheated with other people too, i don think he deserves a good girl like u, im sorry to hear this.
he make u pregnant but he is not even trying to be responsible. its his baby okay!
i hope u will be strong enough to bring this child up. at the same time, seek a psychologist if u have too. i believe ure not the only woman who feels this way too.
may u have a smooth delivery.
2006-10-25 23:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by eki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to forgive. You aren't married. Apparently you believed that you didn't need a husband before giving birth to a child, so you shouldn't need one after. You should be concentrating on providing the best possible life for your child. It doesn't sound like your boyfriend has anything to offer in that regard, so forget him. Take care of your child.
2006-10-25 23:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go. You took a real winner off the market there. Why would you want him back? Hes a dirtbag Just make sure to get the paternity test done asap so the court can set up child support and all that.
2016-05-21 21:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first ask yourself can I live with myself if I forgive him? Am I forgiving him because I am afraid that I can't support myself without him?
Don't ask yourself if it was your fault that he cheated because it wasn't!!!!
Hmm, I personally would move on and sock him with child support payments once a paternity test comes in.
2006-10-25 23:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the flick
2006-10-25 23:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him
2006-10-25 23:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋