hi there, there was a guy i was dating for 2 weeks and i liked him very much. he showed me he is interested too so i did put some hope that it might develop into something more serious.
he became very silent in the few last days. became weird and we ddnt talk from then. he was kinda rude and ignoring me.
i felt sad and hurt
in these 2 weeks i was veryfaithfull to him even if we were not BF. while i found out from a lot of different ppl that in these 2 weeks or any other day, there was no day passed without him having minimum one person in his bed. that shocked me. couldnt stop my tears from falling. its been like 2 months now. 3 days ago i made a huge pool party in my house and over 70 person showed up, and between the crouds i saw him. How dare he comes to my house without invititaion from me. how dare he stay there and even ddnt say thnx or bye when he left. Such an a.ss.hole.
a day later after the party, i started crying, i couldnt really help it, GUYs, it hurts a lot.
2006-10-25 23:05:00 · 12 answers · asked by Boyz Charm 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
he sent me a txt saying it was nice to see me again, i ddnt answer back.
the next day i spent it crying, felt pitty on my self. i was in the bathroom and just crying. it helped me alot coz released all the anger inside me. but i just need to know what to do. shall i tell him to vanish from my life, or aks him what does he want.
PS: he takes prozac
2006-10-25 23:07:21 · update #1
see Ashley
to be honest i like him a lot, but i did lost respect for him more in the party. and all the people who knows him they said he is not a bf material as he cant stay without having sex with different ppl all the time. and if i want a relationship with someone i want him to be mine, and i want to totaly his. i have never cheated while only dating, so how about a relationship. i had 4 boyfriends in my whole life, and have not cheated on any of them. and being faithfull is not my only concern, whats more important to me than being faithfull is to be honest.
2006-10-25 23:23:53 · update #2
To Orditz:
we did have this conversation in th very first few days. we decided to date ad see where it will lead. we didnt sa lsts be exclusive for each other. but i have heard from some people we both know alot of things about him. and they told me stay aay from him. we did speak and as i said ecided to be dating only nothing official. but what hurts me is that he wasnt honest and serious about what we have decided to do.
i got over him afte that, but sometimes he pops up in my mind and it hurts.
but wht really dd breakt my heart seeign him in my house without invitation from me, and ddnt even bother to say sorry, or thnx
2006-10-26 00:22:29 · update #3
Steer clear from him! You're way better off without him. Besides, there are lots of other people you can be with.
2006-10-25 23:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've hooked up with a taker. Some people only take another person's feelings, abuse them, and then run off, leaving you dry and empty.
Try to get over this. Stop thinking about him. I know it's easy to say, but do other things ... see your other friends, go to a movie, do anything to keep yourself busy so that you won't be idly sitting around thinking of him and then feeling sorry for yourself. He isn't worth any of the emotion that you are giving to him.
Really, you are better off without him -- especially if he crashed your party and was rude AFTER he was ignoring you. You don't want people like that in your life -- can you imagine how miserable you could have been if a relationship had developed?
You have friends who DO support you and who do care, so focus on the positive values and don't think about this negativity.
There is an old song that says, "You've got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and don't mess with Mr. In-Between". So, just accept this as a learning experience, and move on, and best of luck in future. Keep your chin up!
2006-10-26 10:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by SB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might as well chalk that one up as a bad experience and move on with your life. Go out and do things that make you happy ... rent a movie and veg in front of the T.V.
You need to stop being so hard on yourself over him ... you're practically making yourself sick. No guy like him is worth a tear. If he can't see how this has affected you, well, he's not the person you deserve. Do you really wanna be in a relationship where your partner only thinks about himself?
Use this as a stepping stone to your final destination bro ... remember to keep peace in your mind and love in your heart. If your avatar is really you .... well .... I don't see you having any problems in finding someone that is worthy of your love.
Good luck
XOXO
2006-10-26 08:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by spartexcites 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When someone hurts your heart it never really heals. Thing is you are honestly not going to be happy with this guy, he is a player and that is not what you want, you obviously want a BF, a relationship and the longer you waste on him the longer it will be until you find real happiness. There is someon out there that deserves you and youare not going to find them crying in your bathroom. SO wipe off those tears, put this guy in the back of your mind and get out there and mingle.
2006-10-26 17:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, yes you have every right to be sad and hurt. Secondly, many people do not have "conversations" where it is stated clearly between two people when they start to date what their expectations are. For instance, some people are monogomous and some people arent. There is nothing wrong with not being monogomous and nothing wrong with being monogomous. Every one has a different opinion on this, and some people have more passionate opinions than other's. Perhaps at the beginning, you could have actually stated to said boy, that you wanted to be "monogomous" or at least, if he didnt intend to be, that could he tell you. This however, no one (well hardly anyone) ever does.
I often wonder why people don't. Is it because of the etho's that to declare oneself non-monogomous means that (and this in no way is my personal opinion, in fact so far from it its not funny) a person is "easy", "a man-whore" etc, or any other of the so-called mainstream's controlling language to denigrate people who have chosen to not be monogomous. Or is it something, to do with gay and lesbian people trying to advertise to the world, that they are moral upstanding citizens? And why, is a person who chooses to have more than one sexual partner somehow labelled immoral or wrong?
Back to the beginning of this answer. Yes, if he didnt tell you his choice of non-monogomy then you have every right to be angry.
But, did you tell him you wanted to be exclusive?
2006-10-26 06:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Orditz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, what is it about him that makes you want him so much? Figure that out and then look for those qualities in someone who has a better package. Put your energy in yourself and in diversonal activities.... fake forgetting about him until you really do forget him.... and in the process you dont ever know what is around the next corner for you. Life is full of suprises!!!! And, take care of yourself!!! It sucks when you get your heart broken!!! Happens to us all at least 2 or 3 times!!!! Hang in there!
2006-10-26 06:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by sunny1falling 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're young and extremely handsome, and very sweet, to boot. There are so many good guys out there. Forget about this one. Find someone who makes you totally happy, it doesn't seem like this guy is capable of that.
You deserve so much better. I wish you the best : )
2006-10-26 16:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he used you and that really is unfair to you. People can be mean and cruel and I'm sorry this happened to you. I know you probably deserve WAY better than this and I'm sure there is someone special out there for you.
2006-10-26 10:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust yourself to know whether or not he has the best intentions for you? Can you feel comfortable asking him if he wants to be close to you and love you? If you haven't the courage to answer my two questions, then forget him.
If you can answer my two questions, then try to reach out to this guy.
2006-10-26 06:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
those are some strong feelings to have towards someone after 2 dates, some people are just so flakey and who knows what motivates them, take this as a red flag and move one
2006-10-26 08:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋