ok thats a problem...i have no self confidence...really i don't have at all!! i believe im ugly and that no guy will ever be interested in me!! and that guys in my school keep teasing me....always!! u'd say they may like me, but they do this behind my back!! i think i'd better die....its driving me mad!! i have constantly problems...yeah, i have friends, lots of ones but i believe they only use me for giving them advice and help them....i a wreck...really!! and im not too good at school, i get good marks but others r better....always some1 is better than me....and i always fight with my siblings, my parents...i don't have an1 to talk to bout my problems!! i know, i m a bit confused and thats not a particular problem but i think my head will explode!! i cry and cry and the result is the same: nothing becomes better!! try and try to be firiuend with myself but i cannot!! im jealous of cute girls at school...they say im cute but i don't believe it coz then i'd have a bf or what! help plz!
2006-10-25 22:43:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and plz don't tell me consult a pshycologist!! i know nothing in life is easy!! whats more i cannot afford this!
2006-10-25 22:44:45 · update #1
yes very good advice thx all of u but y should this happen only to me?? i see other kids r too happy!
2006-10-25 23:57:08 · update #2
First of all , you do not need a guy to make you happy. Concentrate on something else. Enjoy your friends. Find a hobby you just love to do. There are so many things to get interested in. When you find things you enjoy and are good at then you will gain self esteem and confidence.
I am not talking down to you on this next part but you are going to have to trust me on this....You know how girls and women have pms? And you know that it is caused by hormones going crazy at that point right? Lots of teenagers have crazy hormones most of their teen years , all month long every month, and it makes them have lots of mood swings. I bet sometimes you are laughing and having a great time and before the day or week is out you are crying again. Then you are angry. Then you are crying. Then you are happy. It is like an emotional roller coaster.
I went through this myself all during my teen years. I thought i would just die. I was so sad or lonely or frustrated or bored or angry or just ready to explode and sometimes i didnt even know why for sure.
Just hang in there. Get a journal and write in it when you are feeling all these feelings that you cant handle. It helps more if you write it out by hand. Believe it or not it will help you feel better just by getting all of it out and onto the paper.
You may try getting involved in church. God can really help calm you.
Hang in there. You will get better the older you get and yes one day you will be married and be happy. Guys like girls that have their own interests and dont NEED them constantly so get that hobby going and remember that one day some man will be lucky to have you. You probably are cute. Most girls think they are ugly and they arent.
And try to stop fighting at home. It is just making you more miserable. Try to see your parents and siblings side of things and try to learn to sit down and calmly talk things out and solve the problems rather than yelling about them. Yelling never solved anything.
I wish you well!
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2006-10-25 22:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mary N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you are the only girl to go thru this? life is a competition especialy when you are in highschool. A guy might like you but because one of his friends doesn't he will agree with them to fit in. You cant take this personal most of it is all for show it will only be like this until you are out of highschool. Trust me it all stops. I felt the same way..Im 24 now and things are completely different from what they were back then, and I have ran into numerous people from highschool Jr high and they would joke about how big of a crush they use to have on me even though they made jokes. I work with girls and guys 16-26yrs old...you all say the same, your not alone. And your friends..dont look at it that way, you are a good friend to them that is why they are comming to you for advice, they respect your opinion and that is a great thing to be known for, and that will stay with you for a lifetime...looks wont. There will always be someone better then you at something, dont beat yourself down for not being "Better then everyone" try talking to one of your friends about your problems, small ones at first you want to make sure she or he wont spread immature rumors that could really hurt you. Crying doesn't SOLVE problems it releases tension. you solve problems. IF you want to talk I am here mnm4213@yahoo.com.
2006-10-26 06:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so far people have given you good advice. And if your not too tired you'll read what I have to say. First of all take a deep breath. Relax. Sweetie, you are just at that age where everything seems wrong and nothing right. I know its a lot harder said than done but believe in yourself. You don't need other people telling you your pretty...ofcourse your pretty and you shouldn't have to have a boyfriend just to prove it! You said 1 thing right...always someone is better than you...yes, this is true. My mother always taught me there will always be someone prettier, someone nicer, someone smarter, etc. Be happy with yourself and what you have to offer. As soon as you are comfortable with yourself, then everything will fall in place. You don't need some bummy guy talling you bull crap because all he wants is the goods. Be satisfied with who you are. Life is so much worse when you get older. You have different stuff to cry about like your car note that is more than a month late, your rent, your job...trust me this is a phase that you will get over. Pretty soon you won't even have time to focus on you or what horrible in your life, you'll just be caught in the daily grind of life...eventually happiness will find you.
2006-10-26 06:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like u at school u have to find yourself a friend u can trust there is always a thorn in the rose u just have to hold it the right way and find self love no one can love someone that cant love there self. people are cruel even when u get older but if u can look in the mirror and like what u see this will pro tray from you and people will see this, no one is ugly peolpe are just different and this is good if everyone was the same it would be a dull world and as for boys have u heard the saying men are form mars and women are from venus this is true u will never understand them but making friend with them is a start .
2006-10-26 06:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Suezie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cute doesn't mean you should have a boyfriend, don't rush things like that, it'll come when the time is right. Don't worry about the teasing, I know it is difficult, but letting it get to you is like letting them win. The popular people in school are often the ones with more personal problems that we don't see and instead of dealing with it, they are cruel to others. Have you thought of talking to a Guidance person at your school? It might help to hear from a person face to face that you are okay. Sometimes that little reassurance can really help. Hang in there. I hated school. I remember people always saying they could stay in high school forever, but I couldn't wait to get out, and I still never want to go back. But my life is pretty great now, I have a husband, two kids, a pretty good life. Tell your friends that for once, they could help you. If they don't want to listen to your problems and only tell you theirs, then maybe give yourself some space from them as well. Good Luck, hang in there.
2006-10-26 05:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by KC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me when I was a teen. In my opinion, the teenage years weren't the best. I was shy and my parents protected me too much and I went to a private school so I didn't have very many friends. As I got older, I looked at things differently. Hang in there, the best years are yet to come. Concentrate on getting good grades and enjoy any extra-curricular activities you can and don't let what other people think of you bother you. You will discover when you are out of school, you will be alot happier and less conscientious of yourself and being around different people will change you. In school, you are around the same people all the time and everyone sees everyone grow up and as an adult, you will meet new people who don't know your childish past and see you in a different way. You don't have to be the popular one to be successful. Keep your chin up and be proud of yourself for who you are. Your passing thru a phase in growing up and you will come out to be a compassionate and understanding adult. Good luck. :)
2006-10-26 06:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by onecharliecat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop comparing yourself to other people! you'll always fail cos there will always be someone smarter/cuter/funnier than you. No matter who you are and what you do in life. I know this sounds hard but you have to accept that you are who you are, You are who you are! No amount of crying and arguements and boyfriends is ever going to change that. Just accept that you are who you are and try to enjoy being you. Sure there may be people who are more popular or get better grades, but so what!? Does that mean your rubbish? No of course not. And who cares if the guys in school tease you! big deal! sticks and stones etc....
Just relax, stop worrying about it and makin an issue of it and try and enjoy yourself! take up an instrument! join a club or whatever, just be yourself and enjoy being yourself!
2006-10-26 05:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by norman_the_panda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal to feel that way. if u think u're ugly, there's always people uglier than u. what other people think isnt as important as what u think about urself.
getting good grades..? what matters is u tried ur best. if u're not satisfied, try even harder next time. don compare. no two person can be the same. it will only pressurize urself.
family, no matter how much u say u hate them, admit it, u can't live without them. at least u have parents and siblings. unless those ophanage who has no family and crave for one. if ure not happy, why dont u switch places? it normal for siblings to quarrel. if u dont want to quarrel, just try to keep at a distance.
im sure there's always a friend who u can talk to. dont make it sound so bad. or there's always other form of destressing, like journal writing or blogging to confess your frustrations.
if its fated, somebody will come ur way, u dont have to worry about ur love life. its not like u're going to marry tomorrow , ure still young. the thing is u have to learn to love urself before u love others.
cheers
2006-10-26 05:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by eki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we got the same problem. They say im cute but i dont believe them. No kidding but i dont find my self cute or beautiful. And i believe that it was a result of not having my family on my side when i was in "growing years".But i get over it now.
All i can say is just be your self., never mind if others are better than you. Im sure there s something in you that u need to discover
Dont find with your siblings, hey r your family. Im sure your family loves you., they just dont know how to share it or show it to u. Only your family can love u unconditionally.
And theres one more that loves you without looking at any thing in return, thats love you unconditionally. Hes always beside you at all times.You just need to accept Him in your heart. I know you know who He is.
God loves you the same as He loves others.
And God made all things beautifull.
2006-10-26 06:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the middle age, I have lots of experience to deal the complaint as like yours. When one person says, I am bold I have self confidence, he is actually worry about the problems, he feared about the problem and saying himself he could takle anything and everything like that. If a girl says I am ugly, no body rowing behind me is the reason or outcome of her causious nature. I know and as a male, we see everything, best or bad are not at all a matter to us, female costume is sufficient. Hence you are saying lie, no boys are looking you. I am saying you may be very beautiful and most boys try to get your friendship. Since I am practitioner of psychology, i hope you will send me feedback (actuals) to evaluate my quality of practice. Just pass a message by linking yahoo answer reply. Dont tell lies.
2006-10-26 05:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Devaraj A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋