I have been so up and down recently, I hav been with my fella for 4 months and love him to bits, he makes me so happy, but I can't help feeling insecure. I know he feels the same about me and we see each other all the time, but sometimes I just feel so moody and depressed... I'm due on in 4 days so it could be that, but I just want to snap out of it! Is there anything I can do?? I don't want to drive him away...
2006-10-25 22:43:06 · 20 answers · asked by Brunettebeauty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks to everyone apart from heatherlynnmorrow. It drives me mad when people have to be so bitchy and tell you to stop asking questions on Yahoo answers - THAT WHAT ITS HERE FOR DOOFAS!!!
As earlier stated though, thanks to everyone else, its so nice to receive such caring advice xx
2006-10-25 22:53:08 · update #1
I really don't know what to say but, being with someone doesn't solve all our problems. Today you're moody, tomorrow you'll be cheerful; that's the way it is. And all you both need to do is show a little more understanding those days...
2006-10-25 22:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone has said, it's PMS so don't worry what you're feeling is perfectly normal and there is nothing wrong with you! Unfortunately, one of the most annoying things about PMS is that there is no logic to how we feel and therefore very little we can actually do about it. Also, unfortunately, the targets of our depression and anger for some reason seem to be those we love and care about most, i.e. our boyfriends! My suggestion to you would to be take some time out for some me time. Go for a walk or to they gym - I find this fantastic for clearing the and exercise always lifts my mood. however, if you're not particularly active, try a warm soothing bath with some candles and relaxing bath salts. Let the warm water sooth your mood. Perhaps you could also tell your boyfriend how you are feeling and reassure him that he's done nothing wrong and you love him. If you don't want to have a discussion about your PMS, a good hug can work wonders.
2006-10-25 23:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need take a look at your life and decide on the things that are upsetting you. You should also discuss this with your boyfriend as he could easily feel the same way.
If you've had a bad relationship before then sometimes it feels like the new relationship is too good to be true. But its not and you need to talk it over before your insecurities cause problems in the relationship. Be careful not to become clingy or take it out on him. But if you love each other it should work out.
2006-10-25 22:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by kally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing wrong with you is that you think there is something wrong with you when there is not.
Its totally normal to feel a bit insecure at times and with the winter coming everyone gets a tad depressed. No-one is totally happy all the time, that only happens in the movies.
I know it easier said than done, but don't worry about it you will be fine a few weeks.
2006-10-26 03:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by John Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both feel anxiety or are insecure about your relationship then you need to have allot of close hear to heart talks ,,,,, As for your depression ,,,,, Well ,,,,,, monthly cycles can be a part of it but if the depression is more than just mild and lasts all day and continues after the cycle is finisned then it would probably be a good idea to see a physician about it ,,,,,, Chemical imbalance can cause allot of reactions and behaviors ,,,,,, There are medications available for it though ,,,,,,,,You can't be good for anyone else until you are good for yourself so think about the doctor ,,
,,,,,, Good luck ,,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,,,,
2006-10-25 22:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to feel that way after four months. I've gone through the same things myself, and I don't suffer from pms... I think the first "I'm-so-happy-I-could-burst" feeling is going away, and maybe it's time to do some new things together. Or talk about what you can do for each other on when things are a bit difficult.
Good luck, girl! :)
2006-10-25 22:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, it is probably your monthly's coming on, but if your not always like this, I would advise to visit your Doctor, then go out and buy yourself something new or get your hair done, or treat and spoil yourself. Try reading a good book or watch a movie that is funny or romantic, have some laughs with your girlfriends, and remember to smile, it contagious, it also makes you feel better. Good Luck dear.
2006-10-25 22:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
l think everybody goes through periods of depression. l know l do but we just have to accept life has it's up's and down's. sometimes it seems more down but we have to keep moving on.stay active exercise set some goals and remember you have a little one the care for now.
2006-10-25 22:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and at the times you begin to feel moody, limit your time with him. Let him know that its that time, if he cares for you he will listen and understand, and appreciate the gesture by you wanting to curtail the drama.
2006-10-25 22:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by seaking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey, its good that you recognise you have a problem with your moods. I would like you to chat with your bf about it as he may feel you are trying to drive him out. Ask him for a cuddle when you need it - it works wonders to have contact with someone that loves you. Good luck
2006-10-25 22:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋