I Need Serious advise on relationship?

Question

I was in love with a married woman for 6 months now the relation is almost end. I am not almost end. I AM NOT ABLE TO FORGET HER WHENEVER I PUT MY INTREST IN OTHER THINGS SHE COMES IN MY MIND. GIVE ME ADVICE PLEEEEEEEESE.......

Answer 1

real mess u r in, man!..
(though, u do deserve it... i'm sorry!)
people r strange........ hmmm!
wel, u can't jus forget her....
nor can u go back to her...(coz she's married, ofcourse...)
so......
you'd better start acceptin it....
that she is part of u and that u can't forget her......
coz acceptin things always makes life easy,
and,
it wil help u lose interest in her and forget her faster than anything else!
and.....
maybe.....(as time plays its part of healing)
u wil find ur true LUV too........
gud luck, dude!!!!

Answer 2

Emotions are uncontrollable in nature so you never know when your Heart beats or for whom it Beats. OK, its fine that you had six months of affair with a married lady. But, as the relation didnt go well and ultimately broken then I think you should start afresh. Its better you didi not marry the married lady because she had a past and it would have come in the present relationship. So, Life is tooo long. I know these incidents are difficult to forget but Time will help you and my suggestion is that you find yourself a good matsh and get married or ask your parents to find a compatible match for you.

Answer 3

The vaccum created in your life due to absance of a woman can only be filled by another woman.

This is sure that loving a married woman wudnt have taken u anywhere, so its good that u hv left her.

I can fully understand ur mental situation, trust me, u hv to quickly find another girl, if not love, then atleast as a close friend who can take care of ur feelings and can cheer u up.

If u r dying hard out of vaccum and not getting a girl around, net chatting for a short term till u get a real girl may pass ur time

Answer 4

Without judging you, because NO ONE has that right, let me just say that you will hurt for a long time still. It may take a very, very long time. 6 months is enough time to build dreams, hopes and feed a hunger that now is driving you crazy.
There is only way out, and that is THROUGH it... you have to cry like a baby when you need to, get involved in other things and do things you enjoy for yourself, even though she comes to mind.
I know you will see something that reminds you of her, smell a perfume and your heart goes wild; she seems to be everywhere, because you are drenched in her "aura" or presence. You have to disentangle yourself and the only way is to suffer through it, I'm afraid, and know, whilst you are weeping and hurting and busting up inside, that yes, there is light. Tomorrow will come. Next week will be a little easier. Some days you will feel like you have barely survived, but you WILL come out of it stronger, with a knowledge of what you will or not permit into your life in future. And if anyone on here judges you and says something like"what did you expect?" ignore it - only YOU know what took YOU THERE.
Focus a little on being nice to you. Be kind with yourself.. be gentle and know it will take time. Talk to friends about how desperate you feel... and slowly, very slowly, the clouds will lift.

Answer 5

Time is the best healer. You will get over it too. We all do. I don't know of anyperson who didn't have a heart break. Everyone does (only lucky ones escape) well here 99% are unlucky and you were just one of them. So just let it go. It didn't work means she was not the one. So just do other suff meet up with friends, go out regularly, go for a vacation do all other suff i am saying you will not forget her but you will start accepting the fact that she is not going to be there with u after all.

And then things will get better. Life goes on boy. And try not to get into to complicated relationships it only makes thing bitter and many suffer. Currently all you need to do is pack your bags and go for an outing with your friends. So go hurry up pack!!!!

Answer 6

This is a natural reaction...but know that eventually you will forget her. Move on with your life. Time will heal the wound. You can never have her for long, so as early as now, look for your own partner. I am sure you will be able to have a partner that will be all your own...and not a married woman whom you share with her husband.

Answer 7

There is no real answer here. With relationships they can be some of the greatest days of our lives and in the end one bad one. You have to try and remember all of the memories you walk away with that you cherish. So that when the worst day comes and she says goodbye to you it was all worth it. For all the good days you have had with her will always outweigh the one bad one. For one she was married and you had no right, and deep down must have known it wasn't going to work out. If she would cheat on her husband and hurt him, what makes you believe she wouldn't do it to you. Pick up the pieces as best as you can and move on. Mistakes are nothing when we learn nothing from them. Learn from yours here and look at it as bettering yourself for your next relationship. Good luck, and God Bless.
-NmD!

Answer 8

Clearly that you feel unhappy although this unhappiness has become your inner truth... "Will you ever break the chains of guilt and fear?" These very serious questions indicate that you are still in a process of discovering yourself and your inner truth through the unhappiness you are experiencing. It seems to me that your first priority now should be the process you are going through; in this process you seem to discover important truth and inner growth, and you are not yet ready to come to a decision.
My suggestions to you are:

It would be wise to accept this truth: you are going through a process of self-discovery and growth, and for the moment, the price is suffering and unhappiness. Be patient.


In order to prioritize your values, break the chains of fear and guilt and arrive at a decision. You should go for psychotherapy; not a marital therapy or counseling, but rather a therapy of depth. Seek help to connect with your inner self and understand the deep roots of your anguish and unhappiness

Answer 9

Anurag you know i am right now at your position. I love the men who is married.
Well anurag you just tell me she has child? If yes then it is difficult for the mother to leave her child for a men.And if this is the point that she leave you,then you have to be strong to accept her with her child.And this is very difficult.And ya are you sure she loves you? And has she any problem with her husband? Or just you are timepass for her. First know all the metter.
Listen if yours is true love then I will show you many ways to reach to get her.Just contact me by mail. MY id is [e-mail] all the best. I will surely help you. And i am sure you will reach to you goal.

Answer 10

Ther is no option for you then helping yourself forget her coz she has a own life, she wont spoil her world n family for a guy. This is a lesson for u dont get such relation you will only end up hurting yourself.

Answer 11

One day at a time. Take it one day at a time. One sec after another, then ! minute after another, the one day after another. Just remember to breathe in and out. Before you know it a few months will have passed. And u wont feel so bad. Do really strenous activities. I find that they help the most. Atleast when you go to sleep you are too tired to dream.