Friend or bf. i have been friends with a guy for two years. in the beginning he thought that we were going to get together. to be serious with each other, but i'd already fallen for my boyfriend. now my bf is doing stuff like blaming me for everything, and we arnt too happy. I still love him and try and work things out, but he says things cant go back to the way that they were. He wants me to go live with him to make everything right. I'm starting to see my friend differently, he's always there, never gets pissed at anything, he's a very chilled out guy. and i'm kinda like that, my boyfriend is competitive and gets angry. i hate being angry. i asked my friend the other day about the time we almost got together, and he said that things always come right in the end. that we have something good even if we aren't together and he wouldn't wanna lose me. i started to see the way my bf is with other people, and he can be an ***, worse than with me. although he's starting to with me too.
2006-10-25 22:21:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Relationship based on friendship is the best!
I say get with your friend.
Seems like a nice guy.
He's been there for you for two years even when you were seeing someone else. I think he will be there for you for a long time.
2006-10-25 22:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy with your boyfriend you do not need to stay. Dont allow yourself to stay unhappy. Always fight to make things in your life better...it is your life and you and only you have control of it. I have to point out I dont really understand the part where you say you are both unhappy and he said things will never be the same, but yet he wants you to move in with him??? Are you reading the situation correctly or is it clouded from your best friend also being in your mind. Let your heart decide.
2006-10-26 05:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your heart knows EXACTLY what it wants to do, and your mind knows EXACTLY what it should not tolerate. I'd also say you're afraid to "mess up" the friendship.
Don't be. Better to have loved and lost and grown from the experience than to move in with a jerk, I say. Aggression breeds aggression, particularly when there's no-one around to protect you. So honestly, loose the current boyfriend. The definition is BOY & FRIEND, not boy & idiot. Otherwise, you needs him?! Go get your buddy - he sounds like a keeper to me.
2006-10-26 05:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the boyfriend, see how things work out with your friend. If given the chance, it sounds like it could happen. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 05:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tolerate anything that you don't want. You can already see how things are now, there not going to get any better the longer you stay in the relationship. If you can already see yourself moving on then chances are that you should.
2006-10-26 05:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the friend, the bf has too many negative issues. Get a puppy also, he can bite the bf if he comes round. Woof!
2006-10-26 05:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose the bf, get together with the friend.
2006-10-26 05:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by rosbif 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dump him and run. If you are having problems now,why would you want to stay with him? Sounds like he has some growing up to do. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 05:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like u already know what to do, anyhow i can only say this: love's not suppose to hurt..
the sooner u leave Mr angry the better, for ur sake..
2006-10-26 05:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get with your friend it will only screw things up and then it wont ever be the same
2006-10-26 05:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋