My boyfriend is a Marine who's stationed in San Diego, but just yesterday he received orders to transfer to a base several hrs north (in the middle of nowhere). He just got back a month ago from being in Iraq for 7 months. We're pretty crushed about this situation b/c besides him, I don't have any family or many friends down here and he hates the idea of having to leave me again.
I told him I would move out there with him to be by his side. It probably sounds crazy, we've been together only a year, but I've never been more sure about anyone and would sacrifice it all for him; he is the love of my life.
I'd like to get some other military spouses' opinions. Did you need mention of marriage for motivation at any time? I know some girls who would need that ring on their finger in order to do what I'm considering, but I am wondering, am I a fool for thinking about this? Honestly I'd rather go through hell with him, than without him. Please share any stories or experiences, thanks
2006-10-25 22:03:59 · 7 answers · asked by dreamin delux 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How many relationships have you been in that have lasted over a year? How sure of him are you? If you pick up and leave but he leaves you how devistated will you be? Your talking about leaving the friends you do have for the person you love that is a wonderful thing, but is the situation really worth it. I know a girl who was married to her husband who was in the forces and the force paid for her moving and everything cause he was to be stationed in Hawaii for 4 years, maybe this would make the situation easier? I would hate if my man left me, and be devistated as well, and prolly want to do the same thing. Just think things over think things through weigh out your options fully....Also ask him how he feels about this.
Good Luck to you both may eachothers love keep you together even when your apart
2006-10-25 22:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ashlee K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way I would move and give up my whole life without a wedding. The ring isn't important, the piece of paper is what counts. You have no rights whatsoever as someone's girlfriend. The fact that he's in the military isn't all that relevant except for the fact that he can be stationed somewhere else. Although keep in mind that the marines will not take into consideration the fact that he is living with his girlfriend. You could be stuck in the middle of nowhere by yourself with no support.
2006-10-26 05:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marine or not - no ring means not serious.
If you feel that strongly about him, then you had better find out how he feels about you.
You might also want to know when he is going back overseas. Chances are he will be back there sooner that you want. Then where will that leave you and your life?
Did you know that Marines get a pay increase when they get married? Some marry friends just for the pay boost.
Love him, but take care of yourself too.
2006-10-26 05:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by zdrgnslyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel he's the "one" go with him. I moved 2000 miles to be with my ex-marine, left everything behind for only a hint of marriage and I'm happier than I've ever been.
2006-10-26 05:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
without commitment and a ring-why pay for the cow when you can get free milk-respect yourself and keep Jesus first-honor before defeat-be the princess and you deserve the best if he wont come through dont you-david in Jesus amazing grace
2006-10-26 05:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Elope. He is in a dangerous business and if he wants you to be committed as a wife, you should get all rights and privileges.
2006-10-26 05:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no
2006-10-26 05:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋