it seems he likes that way and at the first of our marriage,he acted that way so i get mad at him.the hate of him and his way of acting have growed in this 4 years which i dont like to even see him..im happy when he is not near.90% of the women who see him,like or love him(damn him).though he said he loves me,but i am sure he will betray me one day,so i wanna do sth right now which im still 22 and young,not at age 50,when im not attractive anymore..i also think he is very low in morals, he is all the time admiring himself and sometimes he acts like women..i want to get seperate..but my family says not to do it and they wont support me after my divorce since i'm tolerating these 4 years becuz of them.I think im spending time in hell all the time,i am never satisfied in sex with him(he dont move an inch to make it better) and also my confidense is getting lower everyday.since everyone think i have a good situation,but i dont enjoy my time at all.should i divorce or not?
2006-10-25 21:39:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh come on! You've known him for four years, if you hate him isn't it obvious. You keep asking this same question. The only thing good you have to say that he is very handsome. What about it?
Why did you marry him since he was like this from day one? You made your bed, now you're lying in it. No surprise there.
2006-10-25 21:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seems like u r looking for an excuse to cheat ur self. U r the one who is not happy with this marriage and have changed ur mind and r making all kinds of excuses blaming ur husband and his good looks. Apparently he loved u enough to ask u and marry u. To date u have no proof of his infidelities, he's just responding or reacting to normal flirtations of other women when they see a happily married man. U have made ur bed sleep in it or give him up to someone who deserves him cuz it's obvious u don't. U already cheated in ur heart so u might as well go through with it and leave him alone. Oh what I really want to call u is the equivalent of a Jezebel. Get it?
2006-10-26 05:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek a doctors help as you have created this issue yourself and to assume or even think that your husband would do an action in the future and then base your present day life on it. That alone is a clear sign that you have some issues in your head that need worked out. And they don't have to do with your husband.
You have a guy, people like him, he's handsome yet you are miserable. Like saying....I won the lottery but now I'm depressed. It's called depression....see a doctor asap before you wake up at 50 and realize what life you tossed away due to a mental issue.
2006-10-26 04:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You sound very unhappy. If you have done all you can do for this marriage to work and your husband won't help to make it better I think it is your right to get out of a life that is making you unhappy. My question is: If you had questions about your husbands honesty, why did you marry him? or are you assuming all good looking people will cheat on their spouse? Always go with your intuition, I divorced my husband and people told me to stay with him but I listened to my own gut instincts and got out. What i'm saying is don't always make everyone around you happy when you are unhappy....it is easy to feel suspicious these days of your partner because you always hear about people cheating....but remember...there are still a few good men (good looking or not) who don't cheat. Good luck dear!!
2006-10-26 04:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by ~MEEEOW~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and are a handsome couple, both, i know this is going to sound bad but, considered beautiful people. I see females all the time try to pick up on him, i just smile and walk away and leave it up to him to get rid of them, he does the same thing to me...If you don't have trust in your relationship, its an unhealthily one to be in. You need to decide if you want to be with him, no one can tell you to divorce him. And hey i was 40 when i got married and you don't fall apart the older you get, it only gets better. Heck you a year older than one of my boys, OMG I'm old....Just figure out what it is you want, talk to your husband...
2006-10-26 05:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to communicate with him.Tell him how you feel.Tell him you are not happy and tell him what bothers you.If he cares ,he'll make some changes to make you happy.If he doesn't care the odds are he is cheating already.You don't Merrie someone for you family.Don't let your family run your life.You are an adult.If they don't support you,then you support yourself.What are you afraid of.You know that you gonna get hurt and yet still you are waiting.You live once and this is the best time of your life.Don't waist it for someone who doesn't care for you.Just find the strenght to do what's fair for you.
2006-10-26 05:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by avavu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are just insecure. and a bit jealous there is nothing wrong w him admiring himself. it shows that he has pride.would you rather have a scrub? you knew what he was like when you married him and i'm sure his good looks are partly what attracted you to him in the first place. you are parnoid about something that might not even happen. i'm sure you are driving him crazy as well as yourself.if you are truly unhappy then divorce him. i'm sure there are plenty of women who would appreciate him. but remember this an ugly man will cheat too.
2006-10-26 04:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by sweettee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is your life sweetheart. Not your husbands, not your familiy's but yours. Do what will make you happy. If you are totally miserable with him get a divorce. Your family won't be here forever and you must live life for you not them. At age 22 you don't need anyone but yourself to support you so go your own road. Be you and be happy. Good luck.
2006-10-26 05:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How many answers do you need? this is the second time you have asked the exact same question.
What answer are you looking for?
Get some counseling to fix your self, get a job to support yourself, buy a vibrator to satisfy yourself, then review the situation to see if you should leave.
2006-10-26 05:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only have one life, do you want to be miserable most of the time. If you know it isn't working then you need to move on. If you think it is worth saving, then try a marriage councilor. Either way, you are doing something. It could be that after counseling, you have a clear picture of what you need to do.
2006-10-26 05:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋