A fellow in my college is slightly of his mind.He wants to be my friend but i don't like him at all. He is crazy. He also got beaten once because he was after a girl & was troubling her a lot. I got nervous & so when he asked me to be his friend i told him that i think of him as a brother & so our friendship shall never cross its limits. OH.. I am so stupid why did i accept even his friendship.HE says he likes me a lot but i don't like him at all.PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE FRIENDS suggest me some ways to get rid of him without hurting his feelings, he is a dangerous fellow. WHAT DO I DO?
2006-10-25 21:18:56 · 17 answers · asked by ♪♥*B.B.K*♥♪ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've had guys bother me for my friendship or more, and more often than not I find that just ignoring them is the best way to get them to stop coming after you. Sometimes the guy would ask "why aren't you picking up when I call or returning my messages" and I would just flat out say, "I have nothing to talk to you about". Sometimes you have to be mean. But that's just what's "worked" for me. Try to be as tactful as possible though, yelling "f-ing leave me alone" is a bit extreme.. unless he's one extremely dense guy.
2006-10-25 21:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by dreamin delux 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got some good answers here. But be careful. Try not to be alone walking anywhere. And keep your doors and windows locked. Always be busy. Tell him your school work is too demanding right now and you are so busy you just cant talk now. You might consider "adopting" a big brother but be careful whom you choose. Get some mace to carry around with you and a loud whistle. There is a book out that tells you to never ignore a gut feeling when you feel something is wrong. Nearly every woman who ever has has lived to regret it. Tell people how you are feeling and have someone walk you wherever you need to go. I have been in similar situations as a teen and i came so close to getting hurt bad. Be really cautious and keep your guard up until you are sure he has forgotten you.
2006-10-25 22:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mary N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest...it sounds like, he really doesn't care how you feel towards this. He's ignoring how you feel about this so there's no need to care so much about how he feels. I guess you are just a nice person since you said you don't want to hurt his feelings...
But you have to be tough on this. I think you can start by ignoring him completely. Don't let him have any wrong ideas.
If you are scared of him attacking you, go buy yourself a pepper spray and always have it with you, where you can access easily. Always stay with some other people to stay safe. Never be alone.
You can also ask your parents for some help. They might have some more ideas to protect you.
I hope things will get better for you soon. Take care, I wish you the best luck.
2006-10-25 21:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Este 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Be as disgusting as you can around him. Belch, fart, scratch, etc.
2. Watch for bad behavior. If he does something you don't like, say "I can't be your friend if you do that." That's a win-win situation. The phrase "You know better than that" is magic as well, use it. If he embarrasses himself in front of you, he'll associate YOU with that embarassment and back off.
3. Get into a fight in public. It doesn't have to be physical, heck all it takes is for YOU to make a scene over something.
4. Ignore him, or just let him know "You don't have time". Maybe suggest something else for him to do.
2006-10-25 21:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's up to you to chose from all the advices presented here. You should know, somehow subconsciously, what will work best for him...
Here is one more option: I would approach the largest guy in school - hopefuly not a brute - and ask him kindly to help me. Act like my friend for a while, just to keep the other one off. Hopefully HE won't have a crash on you too :)
Just an idea...
2006-10-25 21:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Doris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just ignore all his treaks to contact you. If given a chance such people can hurt u like anything. So for your better life pls dont remain intouch with him. If he does something odd give a piece of mind in public so he ll not be able to come infront of u and even u can take help of ur parrents..ask them everything about so that in the case of some crzy events they can help u and ask ur close and trust worthy friends about such a situation so that even they can help u. Dont afraid of such guys they are coward inside.
2006-10-25 21:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, look the best thing to do is to be honest. Be kind but very firm and tell him that you are not interested, then make sure to distance yourself from him so that he gets the idea. If this does not work, then go to you dean at college and tell him/her that you are having troubles with an obbsessed lunatic.
good luck
2006-10-25 21:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
directly avoiding him will not help. have one of your close guy friends come around you as often as possible acting like your boyfriend and then slowly pull away from the crazy guy. but do it slowly, so you hang with him in public and then suddenly your phone rings and you have to be with your boyfriend. eventually it will get to the point that he will see that your taken and he'll move on to someone new. he has all ready made his personal contact with you and will be around you as much as he can. just remember that with this kind of situation your world needs to be wrapped around your suppose able boyfriend and you need to have someone that can fully help being wrapped around you. Once he starts to see that your unavailable don't ignore him just tell him that you are busy and that sorry you don't have the time.. ignoring him will only drive him closer to you. then after alittle while of that, go out with him just once more, and you let him know that as much as you like him as a friend your boyfriend has issues with it and you just are not allowed to hang out with other guys. i hope this helps.
2006-10-25 21:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you tell him straight forwardly?
Dont let yourself get meek in front of such a guy. It is an opportunity for u to grow up and face the world in your own ways, and if by any chance you dont succeed confide with your parents i am sure they would love to help you from this messy situation.
But firstly try to get out of it on your own.
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU
2006-10-25 21:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by nice_lady559 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he makes you feel that uncomfortable, you better listen to that inner voice and not worry about his feelings... go to a councler or what ever and explain the situation and have them look up his records to see if there are mental probs with him, they will NOT tell you of course, privacy and all that, but YOU need to inform someone about what is going on so it will be on record.. he may be harmless, but ........ maybe not..... then YOU need to inform him that you have no time for any kind of a relationship at this point in your life, giving urself an out, and that you need him to back off and give you time and space to get on with your studies and clubs and etc... you need to get busy with studies so you can make the grades etc....... parents are upset, etc...... make it a plausible story and make sure he understands what you are saying... then lay low for a while, making it impossible for him to keep following and finding you.. change classes it you have to, again explain to the councler or what ever about you intentions to do so and why if it comes down to it... make others aware of what is going on !!! that is your best defense......... God bless
2006-10-25 21:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋