Ok i have a SERIOUS problem of shyness, i can't speak when i am around people especially the girl of my dreams. I'm afraid, ill say the wrong thing or what I say may come out wrong or just pure shyness. When i'm about to talk to someone I question myself...i have no problem on computer (msn and email) and on games but at school it strikes. I need to be able to overcome shyness or i wont be able to talk to the girl of my dreams, we barely know each other, but i love her for who she is, her personality, her sense of humor, her voice, her looks, everything about her lights up my life, but i freaked her out by being too romantic when we barely know each other, i made her a rose from paper ( origami ), i offered to lend her money whenever she needs some; no matter what the amount, i have helped get her school bag when it was far away, and a lot more,and she blocked me, so the only way to talk to her is in real life,and its so hard i might as well say its impossible for me. Pls hlp.
2006-10-25 21:05:40 · 6 answers · asked by Spring is Awesome 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to face situations that make you nervous. Just do it regardless of the outcome, even if people laugh, so what, you just have to conquer your fears by confronting them. Start small though, by talking more (and openly) with people you're more comfortable with and then as you get comfortable w/that push yourself into riskier, scarier situations. Little by little, step by step. I wouldn't worry about pushing too hard w/that girl, more important that you conquer shyness than conquering some chick.
I have the same problem & I'm a musician. I had to accept that I'm going to be incredibly nervous at 1st, and shake like crazy, and freeze; the audience won't kill me, and I'll just move on w/the music & get better as I relax. Start w/small audiences, other students, etc., and slowly build from there.
People will be more proud of you for trying & screwing up, than never trying at all. Courage is a good thing.
Also, you'll get better as you mature. Shyness is 100% normal & natural.
2006-10-25 22:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Babyface 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way I came out of my shyness, is I just pushed myself to talk to somebody. And I didnt worry what others said about what I had to say. Because everybody makes goofs, and some undertand that its ok to mess up. But I am telling you now, people will take advantage one way or another about your shyness. Speak up. Talk your mind. Dont worry what others tell you, and just focus on how you can get your word out. If they laugh at you, or what not, just know that they have issues, NOT YOU! I have faith in you, its hard I know from expierence. Just speak your mind, dont care about what they think. Because truly you dont know what they are thinking. Its something your mind creates as an excuse for fear. Your mind is placing all these what ifs, or they are. You dont know for sure unless you do it! Practice on somebody you know. Have them disagree with you, and build your self-esteem there. Good luck, and best wishes!
2006-10-25 21:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by lebowbrad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but if she won't talk to you on the computer or the phone then she probably won't talk to you in person either. Try to overcome your shyness and develop confidence in your self! Good luck to you!
2006-10-25 21:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up...thats what i have to say. I also am an extremly shy person, I couldnt talk to this girl I like. One day I was walking past her at church and told my self to talk to her, I said hi...simple? then she said hi,how are you. It was all go from there. We've been great mates since.
Move to the friend level before you do anything stupid. Just wait until ur comfortable with talking to her before you make any move.
Good luck
2006-10-25 21:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in general, u should 1st try getting urself to talk to people who you aren't as shy about, & sort of the more u practice the better you'll get at talking to people. if it helps u, u can also try thinking of topics to talk about before u get into a situation where u need to talk to someone. i'm pretty shy too & for me i learnt the only way to deal with it is just push yourself to talk to anyone, even for a short time, JUST DO IT & slowly it gets less scary. but start out small, with people u aren't so nervous about or someone u already know...
Be Brave! you'll be proud of yourself...
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 21:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by blip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to grow up some more.
2006-10-25 21:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Politia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start being social
2006-10-25 21:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by sally d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋