ive been with my boyfriend 10 years we have 3 gorgeous kids ,hes hard workin but moany,i had a fling with darren 8 years ago and still think of him all the time,wot should i do
2006-10-25 20:57:50 · 16 answers · asked by victoria q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence as a lot of us have found out to our cost over the years so I would say no, don't go to him. Instead sit your partner down, explain about his moaning and the effect it is having on you and see if there is any way you can work through this and come out the other end stronger. R.
2006-10-28 13:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think by now you should start getting 'real'. You are lusting after a fantasy - if you left and went to Darren I guarantee it wouldnt work out. Once he had you and 3 kids to support Darren would become moany and have to work hard. How about putting some effort into saving your relationship you have now - I would also be moany if I worked my ar5e off to provide for a partner and 3 kids and all she did was wish she were somewhere else. Try being grateful instead of critical. xxx
2006-10-25 21:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by starlet108 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember it was a fling
how do darren feel/ whats he doing now.
dont give up what u have just for something that happened 8 yrs ago.
darren might not want the responsibility for 3 kids (his could be happier with the fling, after all he got what he wants)
2006-10-26 00:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by purple diamond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VICTORIA YOU HAVE ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION YOU HAVE THE FABULOUS KIDS BUT THE MISERABLE HUSBAND YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART OF HEARTS YOU DONT LOVE HIM ANY MORE MAYBE THIS DARREN WAS THE MOST WONDER FULL DIVERSION YOU NEEDED IF IT HAPPENED 8YRS AGO DO YOU REALLY THINK YOU CAN RESURRECT IT NOW? YOU KNOW YOU CANT DONT YOU THATS WHAT HURTS DOESNT IT? 8YRS AGO AND YOU HAD A FLING AND YET YOU STAYED I THINK YOU SHOULD SERIOUSLY THINK ABOUT MOVING ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND MAKE FRESH NEW CHANGES STAYING FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS BIG MISTAKE YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF IN 10YRS TIME HAVING THE REGRETS THAT YOU DIDNT LEAVE SOONER
VICTORIA DO NOT HAVE ANOTHER AFFAIR BEFORE YOU LEAVE OR HAVE MADE UP YOUR MIND TO LEAVE ITS A BIT OF A UGLY MESS THEN I THINK IF ALL HE DOES IS MOAN THEN HE SOUNDS AS UNHAPPY AS YOU
2006-10-29 11:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by no nonsence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hard working boyfriend is probably thinking of somebody else too!! But you'll stay together even though its not perfect as thats what people do.
Perfection never exists and a relationship is about constantly working together. Its easy for people to take their eyes off the prize thinking of greener pastures what don't exist.
2006-10-25 21:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a mess! you need to get your priorities in order. and as far as this darren person goes, I doubt he's thinking about you all the time. you yourself called what you had a fling. I just call that asking for trouble.
2006-10-25 21:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be that becuase you are not with him you just want him and if you were you would miss your boyfriend. I would just put this 'darren' as a memory and a nice fantasy person to dream about but tell yourself that it isn't real, try talking to boyfriend about his moans - it might help!
2006-10-25 21:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by Littlestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start communication a fresh for you have his blood ie; the children. These days you dont need to jump here and there for men. You may do it and die of Aids in the process. Let him understand your situation and I believe you will come to a compromise. The two of you are the ones to build and destroy your home none other inbetween. so agree and God will bless you.
2006-10-25 21:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by macho knatcos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, you are a Wh@re and the force is very strong in you. Just do not let husband find out. So watch the STi's and text messages xx
2006-10-25 21:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything or anyone, beside the same ordinary things you do everyday, of course is more exciting. Just remember, those exciting feelings eventually wear off and then where will you be? Think of your kids instead of yourself.
2006-10-25 21:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋