I have 2 friends that come over now and again. They stay about 3 hours. One sits right back in the chair, the other sits right on the edge of it all night long and wondered what this means. I would hate to think my friend is uncomfortable (the one who sits on the edge). Many thanks.
2006-10-25 20:43:46 · 18 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Neither are uncomfortable - one is just more uptight than the other one. The one who sits back and relaxes is a worry-free, happy person whereas the person who sits on the edge has worries and is quite uptight/stressed.
2006-10-25 20:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by h0axsp1d0r 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If they stay for 3 hours, then your two friends are comfortable with you.
I would attribute their body language to two things
1. their general physical health and age.. The one who sits right back in the chair is healthy, not feeling any pain and discomfort. He has the body language of a person in a social situation, interested and participating. The other one may have back problems.
2. If you have great chairs or not.
Young healthy people can sit anywhere.
The other friend who sits of the chair may find your chairs not comfortable at all ie (too soft he sinks in) too cold (leather?) or he has a back problem that he needs to keep his back straight all the time. A hard chair is better for people with back problems.
Try to bring in a wooden dining chair or a piano chair. See if your friend will sit there instead..
2006-10-25 21:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that they feel uncomfortable, or it could just be that they are anal about their posture (sitting on the edge, how Im imagining your friend sits, doesn't necessarily help you posture, but it's a lot better than sitting back, the way I imagine your other friend sits).
I think to get a good answer/assumption to that question, you should provide details like: gender, your relationship between each one of them (i.e. have you dated, hooked up, hated each other in the past, are not friends but are acquantainces, etc.), if those 2 like or have liked each other (in any way), do they both like you?, is one seat more comfortable than the other?, does the friend that sits on the edge generally...on the edge?...among other possible helpful details!
2006-10-25 20:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by menina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one that sits back is laid back and confident the one on the edge is not so confident maybe the laid back friend makes her feel less confident maybe by sitting on the edge she thinks she will get a word in.Try this ask the edge sitter round on there own and then see where they sit.Or check out is the edge sitter a little hard of hearing this may be why she is trying to sit closer. hope this helps.
2006-10-25 21:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Carol B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot jump to conclusions only by body language alone. There could be other reasons, like has she got short legs? she might have difficulty from getting up out of sitting back in a deep chair. it could be the position of the chair in relation to the rest of the room and the other people in there. IT could be that she prefers siiting on the edge of chairs and for her, shee feels more relaxed and comfortable that way. It could very well be a personal idiosyncracy that she has developed sub-consciously.
What is her conversation like? How much time does she devote to each topic being discussed? what kind of eye-contact does she make? how doe your changing position reflect on her position?does she mirror other people in other situations?
To be able to properly tell you if she is uncomfortable in your presence, or just in your home, or if it's the other person making her feel uncomfortable, I would have to see for myself.
The only other way to find out is to ask her outright.
2006-10-25 21:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by kenhallonthenet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the one sitting back feels at home ,the one on the edge is just that
are her legs together ,she is unsure and is ready to make a run for it
everybody is a body language expert ,they are just not aware of it and most operates at a subconscious level ,
the best expert in the house is probably the dog
2006-10-25 20:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the one who sits right back she is confidant, the other on the edge,she is in protective mood,if something happens she will be all the time on defensive,because in her own insecurities,I'm wondering how do you sit when you with them, than i can tell you how are you all together,maybe she is like that,because of you guys,
2006-10-25 20:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one on the edge of the chair is eager and attentive (but also possibly wanting to leave)
the laid back one is stand off ish from the conversation and is very relaxed
2006-10-25 20:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Gravy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey ya. i am i am i am!!! the one that sits back feels comfortable and at home in your place. the one that sits on the edge is the opposite, sorry to say! this positon means that she is ready to leave. however, this may be a comfortable position for her. check it out when you are at hers, or in a different setting than your place. hope this helps, good luck hun!
2006-10-25 20:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go sit in the chair the same way they do and see how you feel.
2006-10-25 20:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋