People think i'm too young to be married and have 2 kids?

Question

I have been with my husband for almost 4 years and almost married for 3. I got married when I was 18 and he was 20 and we had our son when I was 18 and he was 21 and now we have a newborn and we are 20 and 23 do you think we were wrong on what we did? i always get death looks when im out with my children and I don't like it cuz people think im too young to have 2 kids, what do you think?

Answer 1

Many young couples choose to have children while they are still young themselves...nothing wrong with it. As long as you're happy in your marriage and have a good relationship with your children, then be secure in knowing you made the right decision. Ignore the "death looks"...they may be jealous because they do not have what you have

Answer 2

No, you are not wrong. Way back in the old days people had five children at your age. In fact, lots of kids now are doing that very same thing...not five but at least one by the time they are 16. You shouldn't feel bad about your family. You are with the man that you love and you are a great mother to your kids. There is no reason why you should feel ashamed of that. Don't worry about what other people think. It is none of your business what they think...just keep telling yourself that. Some people that may be giving you those death looks, may be jealous of what you have. To find a great guy and have two kids so early in life...and be happy...that is just an awesome thing. I wish I could have been so lucky at your age.

Answer 3

Are you guys happy? Do you guys have regrets? That's what counts! Those people who give you those kinds of looks probably have lots and lots of problems in their marriages, which is why they think you are going through it at such young age. I truly hope that this is not the case....
My sis married at 19 (awesome husband!), has two kids, got her bachelor's degree while pregnant with her second child... got her masters degree and is now working as a tourist guide and teaching part time. She has about three offers for a full time position right now.... poor thing- can't decide.... all that at the age 23!!! Even if you are just a homemaker (hardest job in the world)... you are still entitled to your own happiness. Enjoy life and your family... and good luck to you guys!!!

Answer 4

Have people actually approached you to tell you they think you're too young? How do they even know how old you really are? Is it possible they are looking at your for an entirely different reason or that you are imagining it?

In my experience, people who think other people are judging them are projecting their own insecurties. YOU are the one who has doubts about your choices so you assume everyone else is judging you.

I knew a girl who was your age with two kids and she constantly complained that everyone judged her. But I couldn't for the life of me figure out what she was talking about. NO ONE cared. We're military. Do you know how many families are young 20 yr. olds with 2 or even 3 kids. They're everywhere. You are not unusual and I doubt anyone cares. My mom was 19 when she had me. That was 32 years ago. People were popping out babies right after high school back then and they still do it today. I waited until I was 25 and my grandmother said to me "Well, its about damn time".

I don't get why you think you're an exception. Young families are so common, why would people even think twice about it to have time to judge you for it?

Answer 5

i dont know dat u both were wrong or right in doing so but yes u r too young to get married n have 2 kids. u have enough time to get married n have kids. u could have waited n enjoyed ur life in another way making ur career or wid frnds. i mean now u have kids all that wud start again. their homework , their exams n tensions n all. u could have given urself a break means u could lived some more years without responsibilities n tensions like a free bird

Answer 6

What other people think of you means nothing, you have done nothing wrong, you were both of legal age when you got married and when you had your children, those people who give you ugly looks are ignorant. Don't worry about those people, be thankful you are part of a family and are able to have beautiful children.

Answer 7

It's done, did and over, who cares what EVERYONE says, or how they look at you? Do they lay next to you at night and give you a kiss good night? I hope NOT!! If you spent half the time in life worrying about what everyone else says or thinks about you in life, your going to end up having one miserable life. You need to have priorities in life. Loving your husband and taking good care of your precious babies.Do you feel you made a mistake? If that is the under lying problem, I would recommend therapy. Can't hurt! Good luck...

Answer 8

for me its too young. But right now, you have to face the fact and be matured about it, you can't go back. That's why we have parents, they always say mostly the right things, but of course we don't listen. Ignore those people, it doesn't matter if you married so young, they don't support you anyway, your priority now is your family and how to raise you children as good as you can.

Answer 9

It's tough to be a mom at a young age but I think you took responsibility for your actions and are living with the choices you've made. Nothing wrong there if anything I respect you for that. Look at history how old were our mother's when they had us?

Answer 10

I think that is a rather young age, but all that really matters is you and your husband, and how well you care for your children. If you take care of your kids and are good parents then don't worry about what other people think- what's done is done, and there's no use worrying about it now. :P