.. say a married man constantly lets his wife know that a 3sum is his ultimate fantasy... for years he asks his wife if she thought maybe they could try this,eventually even tells her that she can pick a woman for them to have a 3sum with, but could they try it once.... after years of being asked and now feeling that she was depriving her husband this pleasure, the wife agrees and its arranged. quite a few drinks later and half way thru the 3sum the wife realizes she cant watch the man she loves and says he loves her, doing this.. not to mention joining in. the wife tells him this and leaves. it was still the husbands fantasy and he continued to ask, eventually even losing his erections when told -please no... how can they get past this when he is told how she feels and he says he understands, ..but she knows that even after years, he doesnt realize how this has affected her and hurt her?
2006-10-25 20:01:30 · 10 answers · asked by dawnaj29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just talk it out and if you try it again make rules before hand it helps
2006-10-25 20:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by amanda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the wife should suggest to her husband a foursome with another couple.
If the husband doesn't feel ok about his wife having sex with another man, then he has no right to ask to have sex with another woman.
But if he says ok, let's have a foursome with another couple, then at least the other couple will be married to each other and they will be doing it only for fun. There won't be as much danger of developing inappropriate emotional bonds that can lead to marriage breakdown.
Perhaps in these more fair circumstances the wife can overcome any feelings of jealousy she may have. And if she doesn't like how the other woman sluts her husband, then she can turn around and get back at her by slutting that woman's husband even more.
Perhaps this husband who wants a threesome would become jealous when he sees his wife thrust her hips like a wild sl*t at the man banging her. And he will never, ever want to have sex outside of marriage again.
2006-10-25 20:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be brutally honest here...... this is a sign that the relationship is over, and a 3 some is his "way" out, by sabotaging the relationship, it will cause it to end. This BOY (he is not a man) is too immature to know how to properly end a relationship that is already over, it is over because he does not care about you, he only cares about himself, if he truly cared about you, he would listen and understand how you feel, (a relationship is two people looking out for each other, it is not one person using the other). YOU CAN NOT CHANGE PEOPLE!!!!! So don't try. But knowing people like you (low self - esteem) i know you will stick around trying to change him, all while he uses and abuses you. You must first love yourself before people can love you. Obviously you don't. The fact he doesn't know how much he hurt her is a sign of how much he cares about her.
OH yeah........ who is your "friend"?? or is it you ???hmmmm.....
Good luck you doormat.
2006-10-25 20:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him that it did hurt you but you understand that it was a one time thing and tell him that you can not do this again you can not handle it. You thought you could but you can not. He should of stop when you left but he did not but you just need to tell him how you feel so you can get past this and just make sure you tell him this can not happen ever again.
good luck with things hope this helps
2006-10-25 20:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story sounds so familiar. Oh yeah I get this at my house too. I want so badly to fulfill my boyfriends 3-sum fantasy and mine. (wimene on women turn me on) but I know that emotionally I could never do it. So we have improvised slightly. email me and I'll tell you more. snowflake25@yahoo.com
2006-10-25 23:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wish to have a threesome it will lead to cheating and a divroce people can fall in love with the thrid party in a threesome
2006-10-25 20:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by edward b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a professional to talk about this. tell him you're gonna talk to a pro then invite him to go with. if he don't want to go still go talk with a pro. if you can't afford a pro check with some of your local universities they may have it free there. but plz talk to someone that is a pro on relationships & sex.
2006-10-25 20:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by baddazzmami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the pervert and leave him to his fantasies because that's all he will have.
2006-10-25 20:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want to have an mmf threesome and see what he says.
2006-10-25 20:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by danny5631 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
counseling.
2006-10-25 20:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋