a bud and I have a true brokeback relationship.. im like Jack and he's more ennis. were in the "going our own way, and finding ourselves stage" both in our early twenties. I used to hangout with him every single day.. now he moved away to another country. He emails me a lot, but I miss talking to him, and having him around, especially tonight. How do I stop this! I feel like so emotional over this, and hes just chillin..
2006-10-25 20:00:15 · 12 answers · asked by dustin m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm unclear on a few things .... has he ever mentioned how he feels about you? I mean, did he ever say that you both were destined to be together and he wanted to spend his life with you? And also, why did he move to another country? Is he in the military? College? Will he be back?
If you really love him as much as you say you do ... or you just need that chapter closed in your life .... buy a plane ticket and go see him. Just remember this ... you are still young and curious about the world. Don't waste it all on a friendship that is ending on questionable terms. You'll find new people to hang with and develop a new social behavior. I've noticed when I look back at my life ... I can actually say I've been like 3 different people with 3 completely different lives. You'll grow bro .... don't let this stop you.
Peace, love and all that jazz !
2006-10-26 01:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by spartexcites 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this doesn't sound like much consolation, but the solution to your problem lies with you. If your love is so strong that it cancels all else out, then you and your bud need to do whatever it takes to be together, for as happens in 'Brokeback' denying your feelings achieves nothing, but misery and heartache to all around you and...to you and your bud.
If you are not prepared, nor is your bud, to do this then you need to stop communicating with each other and move on with your lives. It will be hard and painful, but that is the only way you can truly and honestly move on. Whilst you are still in communication with each other you are still holding onto the hope that something more than the remote link you have at the moment will occur. However, as with every relationship there comes a breaking point where you and your bud need to make some decisions and move on. Good luck!!!
2006-10-25 20:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know, he could be just putting up a facade of being okay and chillin' about the whole situation. Just distract yourself. Get a hobby. Hang out with other people. Since both of you are in the self-discovery stage, then you should go ahead and do that yourself. In the end, doing this can very well help you realize if the two of you should indeed be together. Best of luck!
2006-10-25 23:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone closer to hang out with and possibly build the same kind of relationship. The hurt will fade over time. It's good that you still keep in touch with him. You may want to give him a call if you don't already do that. Sometimes it's nice to hear the voice. Long distance calls aren't that expensive anymore. You can go to www.1centplan.com and see what the phone card rates are. You will be surprised. Good Luck.
2006-10-25 22:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If' you guys were that close I don't think he's jus chillin I'm sure he misses you the same . You might wanna try picking up a hobby or two to take your mind off the situation although its not a total cure at least you won't be thinking about him while your learning your new hobbies cuz your mind will be occupied. Then all you need is time its the best medicine for your aching heart.
2006-10-25 20:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by deebpd2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like such a sweet guy, and it's awful that you're hurting so much. I don't think there is any way to stop it, in my experience, you just have to be strong, let him know that you really value his friendship and you'd love to see/hear more of him, and just hope that in time either he'll come back or you'll meet someone else so amazing that you find you don't miss your friend any more. Good luck, and try to enjoy yourself whatever you do.
2006-10-25 23:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way to stop the way you are feeling. i have been in this situation before where either i moved or the other person moved and it will be hard for awhile but the thing to remember is that eventually it will get easier to deal with and you may never get over completely but you will get used to it and go in life. when your heart aches it just aches and there is no way to stop it just like that. be patient.TTFN.
2006-10-25 20:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...friendship among men is always so impressive...I am sorry ur are sorry...InshAllah u find some one else soon, at least u had the chance to live it ...imagine there is people who will never get to have one thing like this...u are lucky!
2006-10-25 20:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's a brokeback mountain kind of thing,
then tell him how you feel.
ask yourself one thing:
do you want to have a come see me when you can,
kind of life,
or have it always.
the choice is yours.
good luck.
2006-10-25 20:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omit (y) From the day we were given in relationship, accepted we use to omit each and each and every, our daily recurring is so busy yet we misses lots of the situations each and each and every, and when we receives on line we expresses our emotions,
2016-12-05 06:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by rushford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋