my man is about 5,000 miles from me right now and so we talk online every night, but i tell him to brb or hold on alot, and i leave for the simple stuff, like using the bathroom or someone calls or someone comes over, or i have to run to the store or something that doesn't take very long, and he trips out about it...like if i tell him ten minutes and it takes me 20 or 30 minutes he trippin out even more,... i just dont get it, and then he gives me the third degree about it, mind you i have been online everyday fr like 8 months talking to him, so he don't miss as much, please i need advice
2006-10-25 19:57:51 · 13 answers · asked by start w/ laughs ends witha fight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just try to reassure him... you can NOT make someone trust you... so when you do have to go off line or brb expand your time, give urself more time.. instead of 20 -30 min. tell him 30 or 45 mins... men do NOT have the same time table we do... it is just one of those lifes mysterys we have to live with... so, take heed, and give urself planty of room in the time arena !!!! God bless
2006-10-25 20:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things: 1. He don't trust you and 2. Usually when someone man or female is that uptight about things in a relationship there is something else going on. I don't know him or you but something tells me that something is not right. and I agree with one of the other answers you have to set a time to talk and not let him think that your life revolves around him. Find something to do, do you work? If not take time for you look for a job, take a class, find a hobby. But by all means don't spend all you life in front of a computer unless you're getting paid to do it!
2006-10-25 20:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by baddazzmami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him stress you out from 5,000 miles away? What is the point. You just need to tell him straight out "Look, it took me a little longer than expected so just chill." OK maybe not with so much attitude but let him know whats going down. If he still trips out for no reason I'd say he is the one with the problem. Good luck.
2006-10-25 20:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grl..we have a insecurity issue here and it sounds like a controlling issue...you need to tell him to break himself...if hes gonna try to control you online, imagine how much of a choke hold he will have when you finally meet..thats if you will meet him...he sounds like a man who will blame you for something any chance he gets. This is not funny and I'm not laughing ...I do understand you need affection and you enjoy talking to him online and such but this is creeping me out you leave to go somewhere hes having a fit about where you been.. you aint even see him yet...please cut this man lose..i fear for you...you need someone who is secure with himself and dont trip if you need to be in the restroom...you dont need this man checking on you like that...bottom line if hes trippin now, imagine him choking you later in the future ....cut him lose ...
2006-10-25 20:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A distance relationship is hard any way you look at it. Your lucky you have the computer to communicate each nite. Consider yourself lucky, he misses you! After 8 month's of being apart, that's fantastic...I guess when he does have you on line, he wants your total undivided attention, whats so bad about that?Ya think maybe you need to re-think things over? Just a thought! Looks like your man is into DEVOTION!!!
2006-10-25 20:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Making him wait like that is rude- to say the least- maybe you should make your chats 3 days a week and cut the online down to an hour or something- like that- you will get carpal tunnel if you don't quit- D
2006-10-25 20:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello... your man find the time to talk to you but you don't appriciate it... come on man... if you say 10 minutes, stick to it man... what happened to your principles??? he definately misses you... eight months he hasn't seen you... with such little time at night to talk to you... and you are always o busy doing something else... how would you like it if you were the one who was put on hold so long... sometimes he has thoughts of the day he want to share with you but you never give him theattention he wants... its not the case about just 10 minutes... girl its the fact that you are his girl... and he wants most attention from you...
2006-10-25 20:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by ShaiShy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 10:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a time for your talk and stick to it. You and he both have a life and can't put everything on hold to talk for hours.
2006-10-25 20:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS ARE VERY HARD TO PULL OFF,IF HE'S ON A TRIP WAGON NOW HE WILL STILL BE ON THAT WAGON ONCE HE RETURNS. THERE ARE SOME CONTROL ISSUES WAVING RED FLAGS.
2006-10-25 20:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by Renee F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋