i have a boyfriend and were planning to get married, i love him and i knew he loved me too! But he has a son to other woman w/c is also married to other man but not with his husband, he gives all the support needs by his son. But sometimes i can't help but to get jealous when i hear him talking to the mother of his son, although he's always telling me that he was just talking to her for the sake of his son and that he loves me so much... You think am i being unfair???
2006-10-25 19:52:29 · 20 answers · asked by she 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have more faith in your man. It's a difficult situation but you'll both be better off if you give the impression that you don't mind. My husband has a son by another woman and I get extremely jealous but I think its just a natural thing. I don't act out on it or even tell him how I feel. I just go with the flow, always act civil and make sure things are pleasant for everyone. Your not being unfair unless you try and forbid him to talk to the mother or hteir son. Your feelings are natural. Good luck.
2006-10-25 19:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you sound jealous. In my opinion, you need to give him a little space. His son did come before you. The mother of his son and your boyfriend will probably have to work things out at least until the child is 18. Just a thought...
2006-10-25 19:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by sforce973 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it!! His son's mother and he will be connected forever -they had a child together!! He loves you, he's told you that, you chose to be with a man with a child, so you've also chosen to deal with an ex-wife and a Mom. They will be talking and interacting for a long time! The best thing you can do -- be that boy's cheerleader--2nd Mom (you're not #1), don't badmouth his Mom, just have a happy home when he's there!! Oh yes----love that person you're with!!
2006-10-25 20:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forever mine
2016-03-28 07:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are, because they are bound for life due to that child, and you shouldn't meddle. It could get uglier over time if you don't back off. If you know nothing's going on between them, you shouldn't care about them talking. It's absolutely necessary that they speak, and you try to maintain a friendly relationship with the mother. If you marry, you will all be a family, including the mother!
2006-10-25 19:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an ex who I sometimes visit to see my kids (she lets me stay at the house). Generally when we have conversations they are related to business or children issues. I try not to get too personal with her (so she doesn't manipulate me). Sometimes my current girlfriend is jealous( I swear that I would never sleep with the woman ever again). itdepends what he is telling this other woman. If he says to her "I still care about you.." or does he say "I'll pick the kids up at 9 am...., I will pay $500 for child support..etc.." (my conversations with my ex) . Depending on what his conversations are with this woman.. will depend if you "should be jealous". Hopefully its just "business as usual".
good luck
2006-10-25 20:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by pedidoc43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are acting kind of immature. You knew he had a son, he is not going to stop contact with his son and that means that he is also not going to stop contact with his ex. If you can't live with that then you can't live with him.
Also I think you have some possessiveness issues. Look at how you opened the question, you want to make him yours for ever? You want to own him? You can't own a person.
2006-10-25 19:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you have to accept in life, is that, no one owns another person. Therefore, you cannot make someone yours forever!
If you want a strong relationship, you must behave as follows:
1. Accept him as he is. Don't try to change him.
2. Consult him on decisions that affect both of you
3. Respect his views and values
4. Be frank and sincere with each other
5. Do not stop the constant communication with each other
6. Trust him
2006-10-25 19:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It says a lot for him that he wants to be on good terms with his ex for the sake of his son. You are lucky he loves you.
2006-10-25 19:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you can't make him anything. there's nothing . be appreciative of him and let him know that.... lay low. when two people have a child together, even God can not take that away. he may not love her in the way he loves you, ...but he loves her for his children. this is something you will have to conform to. it's that way when you have a relationship with a divorced man with kids. now you will have to put up with the kids. later. good luck
2006-10-25 20:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by zenasrager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋