my husband cheated on me very badly, now we're having problem because, i can't make love to him the way i should be doing can't show him that i still love him.
2006-10-25 19:12:30 · 9 answers · asked by souchou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you? Maybe the problem is you don't love him the way you did because of him cheating on you? He should be able to understand that love doesn't always heal.
2006-10-25 19:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by sammy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom went thru is The same thing, but he cheated on her 3 times after that. That's why I therapist. Believe me, I have heard many stories from couples like yours and I have NEVER seen a man stop cheating. Men AND women that cheat have a tendency or a pattern that does not change. Men are still the most that practice cheating though. So my point is this: You cant love him because you cant TRUST him. And Trust is an element to be able to love.
2006-10-25 19:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were having problems before now hun, or at least he was! Why would you want to " make love" to someone who didnt love you enough to cherish your heart your feelings who could share himself with someone else. When he had promised God that he would protect your heart, put your needs before his, sacifice everything to make sure your needs were met. Were your needs somewhere in the other womans bed?? Of course not but beacuse your husband was selfish and greedy YOU nor your needs mattered. I know cheating can put a lot of self doubt on people but this is not your fault! Your husband needs to be held accountable for his actions you must not try to put a bandaide on this rather make him fix what lead him to cheat on you in the 1st place. That being said just beacuse you make him accountable doesnt mean you have to stay with him! Although I do not know you I know this God loves you and made you to be cherished! Do you really feel cherished ???How could you? Somewhere out there is the man that God made to cherish you, who will put your needs before his, who will love you unselfishly. The question is are you willing to let go of something bad, in order to find something better than you could ever imagine? Uncertanity can lead us to make bad choices, put your faith in God and he will answer all your true desires!
2006-10-25 20:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by btsnpieces 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so so so sorry that you're handling this proper now, you sound rather candy and loving, and deserve greater. Look, he is aware of that dishonest is flawed, however he both has a intellectual hindrance (it sort of feels like just about all bipolars cheat) or he thinks that he can break out with it. Find anybody almost you to speak with approximately this predicament, and probably they are able to support you get a few perception into his cruelty.
2016-09-01 02:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rocked your world huh ? shook the foundation ?? it will, I know.. but there is hope... married 30 yrs here.. and doing just fine and great... so do not give up.. IF you have made up your mind to stay and try to make it work, then here is what you must do... allow the grief,pain, anger, disappointment, and all the other emotions to flow... keep a diary of it all.. write down everything you are feeling and why and about who... get it all out... you will find that over time it fades into a bad memory, then a softer memory and then one that is filed way back in the mind... God bless
2006-10-25 19:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u obviously have issues about it so u guys can talk about it but if it doesnt help then pretty much the only other choice is to leave him
2006-10-25 19:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get in the girl he cheated with and go the threesome. its obvious you just need to spice things up abit.
2006-10-25 19:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
woman you need to divorce him and marry me
2006-10-29 13:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY WHAT ARE YOU DOING ..STILL SCREWING WITH THAT *** ? GO GET YOURSELF SENITIZED AND MOVE OUT OF THAT SHITHOLES LIFE!
2006-10-25 19:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by serengeti 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋