polite way to ask if someone is gay?

Question

sometimes, I found someone intersting in streets, roads, malls, market or pool for swimming.

and if i ask a man "are u gay", maybe he will kill me or smash me.
so, please teach me the polite way to ask...

or do yu have tricks to figure out if somebody is gay.
if u have a trick, please send me a email.
i don`t want the gay hater know the tricks.

i am single
and i am gay.

i want to have boyfriend. make sense?

Answer 1

You can indirectly ask questions such as "What movie star would you most like to have sex with?" or "What kind of people do you like to date?"

Answer 2

This method doesn't really work well with strangers or people you just met, but it is nice if you can't out and ask for fear of retaliation: be friendly and nice and flirt a little. Watch for reactions. If they're warm and receptive, it might mean nothing, but another reaction will tell you to back off- they're not interested.

If you make a friend that you want to feel out for gayness, I suggest 'setting up' a situation where the two of you together can witness something gay. Steer the conversation there very gently and ask, very casually, 'would you ever?'. Joke around it, don't make it apparent what you're doing. If you haven't overstepped bounds and the person isn't too homophobic, you'll probably get a nice 'Nah' or a 'Ick, that's gross' or something like that. Or a whopping wonderful 'Well, yeah, I'm gay!". Some good examples are accidentally flipping by a gay show on the TV (like Queer as Folk, Queer Eye, Will and Grace, etc.). Of course, this is all necessary only if you can't come out to him first.

I wish I had more examples of how to do this for strangers out on the street, so you wouldn't waste your time, but I don't. And 'gaydar' is pretty difficult to develop (although it comes naturally to some), and worse, often relies on stereotypes (thus missing out on the great guys who don't give off any vibes!).

I'm sure you can extrapolate this concept I gave you though to 'test the waters', etc. Good luck! And remember, having a friend is still nice, even if you can't get together with 'em.

Answer 3

If you are looking for a boyfriend and not just a quick roll in the sack why don't you spend time getting to know guys that interest you?

If they turn out to be gay and you still like each other you have a potential mate.....if not maybe you've made a friend.

Answer 4

When I was growing up gay, it was all done with a special code. If one male asked another male, "Are you a friend of Dorothy's?" and he answered "yes," that would mean he was gay. Dorothy is the character from "The Wizard Of Oz" because gay men identified very strongly with the actress Judy Garland who played the role in the movie of the same name.
Nowadays, one needs to use his or her "gaydar" (a play on the word "radar") in order to find out if somebody of the same sex is interested or not. Please be careful in doing this. It sounds as if you are living in a country or a place where it may be dangerous to be identified as gay.

Answer 5

You're probably long. When your gadar fully develops, you will know. It's not polite to ask someone that question. It is somewhat invasive. Eventually if you are attracted to a stranger and he shares the same feelings, you will know. Otherwise, don't ask.

Answer 6

No,---usually long eye contact will give you an indication...men don't normally make extended eye contact with other males unless they want to make love to them or fight them...you should know the difference at that stage.

Answer 7

initially, Him being ur well-being care expert provides u a splash that u should not be attentive to. U are think to have a trusting dating with him no longer a friendship. None of ur business enterprise in any respect and u be attentive to it. So do no longer ask him. i'm particular u choose for to flow out with him and could be a super unhappiness for u if he certainly is gay. I f he reveals u beautiful and is not any longer married, yet he hasn't ask u out, ought to propose that u r no longer of his interest (cuz he sees u as a affected person) or cuz he's gay. I won't provide u any suggestions. seem someplace else.

Answer 8

Eye contact. If you establish eye contact with him, and it's a prolonged eye contact, chances are he's probably gay or bi and interested in you. Smile at him, walk over, and say hello.

Answer 9

Tell them tht you are going to a gay bar and if they would like to come! Or just ask them if they have gaydar!

Answer 10

No there is no way of asking politely. I will e-mail you with some signs. I am not gay but do know people who are.