My hus is in gulf & I'm Staying with my parents. The other person calls us and disturbs my parents. he wants me to take the phone. He has been a headache 4 us. I can't tell my hus. How can we Handle him. He has been a nuisance for us now. Due to his family background & his behavior after the engagement, the marriage with him was cancelled. He was told this & he had agreed to it, but now he is nuisance 4 us. We can't go to the police lest it should harm our family prestige & my hus family comes to know about it.This person keeps track of all the things happening in my hus house & my house. I don't know who informs him!! I am a bit confused......How can I end this matter?
2006-10-25 18:37:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anjan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get a tape recorder that works off the phone. Radio shack has a good one. it turns on and off with the voice on the phone so you can set it and forget it. you will have proof he is stalking you and that is all it will take to get the police to understand your predicament.
2006-10-25 18:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny B Goode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term used to describe this guy is a 'Stalker'. It appears that you were engaged to marry him once upon a time, but it was called off for some reason.
Doesn't your husband know about this? If not, then why? Is it a crime to cancel an engagement, if the suitor is of a dubious character? I think you should have told your husband. And now it is all the more imperative to tell him about it. Since reporting to the police (which is normally the most sensible thing to do under such circumstances) and raising a big noise about it could put your social and family prestige to tatters, your husband and yourself should confront this guy together. Maybe he will opt for the legal way out or decide to take you with him to the gulf.
But first you must come clean to your husband.
2006-10-26 17:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get things in right perspective first. Does he have your letters or some photos to harm you? If not, you can always see that his is pissed becaue the engagement was called off due to his misbeavior and now he is cooking up stories to cause all this trouble. If he has something to prove otherwise, perhaps a detective can be hired to tape his threatening calls and your conversations with him, so that you can threaten him back that if he misbehaves further, you will stop thinking about family prestige and file a case against him for blackmailing. Ask a lawyer for all that can happen to him if you press charges against him and tell him about the consequences, citing Dhara No. etc, so that he knows you are really serious.
2006-10-31 23:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Bloody ,
Why are u asking and telling everyone about what i am doing to you. What ever i doo i and doing so in secrect, dont try to spoil everything or i shall do something to u.
LOL , got frightened,
The best thing to end this matter is call the person home when ur parents are also there and discuss the problem he has, or the best thing is go away to gulf to ur hus, but got to do it very secretly, u got to trick him that u going to some other place nearby and from that place go to some other place and take the flight, i hope u understand what i mean
Let lady luck be with you.
Smile Always.
2006-10-25 23:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by chatkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better u let your husband know about the whole thing before it goes through somebody else. There is no harm in telling him as if nobody does this kind of act. Ofcourse what you have done is also wrong. We don't know the other end of the coin.
Playing with somebodies emotions will kill you in the latter part of life.
What you sow you reep. good luck. The ball is in your court Now play it safe. secure your life.
2006-11-02 07:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by kavitha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Guys sounds emotionally disturbed!
If he will not listen to your requests face-to-face !
Then maybe involving the Police as a Stalking issues may work!
But the longer you leave it the more this will haunt you later on!
2006-10-25 18:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out the mole first.screw up this persons *** nice & proper by whatever means u feel correct.ur stalker will get the message that he is next on the list.Its like u slap the kid standing next to the 1 doing mischief but the mischievous 1 gets the message loud & clear.
2006-10-31 01:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by surendra s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats scary..!! But i think informing the police is the best thing to do. why don't u tell your husband that he's your ex boyfriend, & then like do a restraining order...? were u having this affair w/ this man before u started dating your husband? or was it while u were dating?
2006-10-25 18:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep calm yourself for next three or four times and talk with him on phone to realise that all relations are over. If this will not sufficient than abuse him and insult him at all
2006-10-27 22:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by kamal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past has come back to haunt you. and the affair as well with him first call the police . 2. now comes the hard part you will need to tell your husband as what you have done . it in time will come out . my opion?
2006-10-25 18:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋