im sixteen and i've liked this guy for a year. we just recently became boyfriend and girlfriend. but my mom and dad kinda banned me from being in contact with him. AT ALL note we haven't ever EVEN KISSED BEFORE. so that should answer your questions.
I just wanna know...what should i do...should i go behind their backs and talk to him? or should i sit back and crY ?!?!
<3 thanks. bye
2006-10-25 17:25:11 · 16 answers · asked by <3s_StarsHorseShoes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay so they've said they just don't think im ready for it. And that there is nothing wrong with him.
They know him. They just don't want me to date.
2006-10-25 17:29:49 · update #1
Why did they ban you from seeing him? Talk to your parents-reason with them, thats the only way you can date this guy w/o feeling guilty.
2006-10-25 17:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by strokesfanatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most legitimate reasons parents may not want you to date would be fear of your riding in a car with a young driver (and that's a legitimate concern). Still, sixteen is really a reasonable age for you to have a boyfriend. Its also reasonable that your parents would hope you don't get into anything too serious (you know what I mean) until you're at least a few years older).
I happen to believe (but I'm just me, and not everyone thinks as I do) that some of the first boyfriends or girlfriends kids have helps them get a little social practice and relationship practice, even though those early relationships usually don't last.
Is there any way you can talk to your parents, tell them that you don't plan to be alone in his house (or in a car) and you'd just like to do something like walk down for a slice of pizza, see him at the library, go to school dances maybe, go bike-riding, skating, or go to school sports events etc. In other words, if you tell them you only want them to be ok with things that are "harmless" and tell them you're not going to ask for them to change any curfews or other rules - just the one about being able to talk to this boy socially.
Its been a long time since I was sixteen, and I know what I'm going to say isn't the right thing for an older person to tell someone else's teenage daughter; but I think if I tried bargaining with my parents as I mentioned above and if they still wouldn't budge, I'd probably find ways to talk to the boy anywa. Your parents may know you will, and maybe they think if they say "no" it will limit your exposure and time with the boy. I'm just wondering if you could get them to agree to some rules about public places and amount of time you spend with him at once they may be more comfortable with knowing you wouldn't be spending twelve hours in his house alone every afternoon.
What you want to do - just talk - is a normal thing for a girl your age to want to do. Many girls your age do a whole lot more than just talk. If you decide to go behind your parents' back it wouldn't be unreasonable. If they find out and ask why you would do such a thing, explain that you believe they're being a little oppressive when it comes to something as innocent as talking (when people are 16 years old). Invite them to call someone like a school guidance counselor and ask what is usual for people your age.
2006-10-26 00:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well listen to ur parents now and maybe they will change their mind when u listen to everything they say. parents r like that i no how it feels cuz thats the same with me parents. they won't let me date or even go to activity nights(its every other friday where u have fun and dance and chat with ur friends at school). i always miss out on everything and i hate it and my crush did something so funny last friday during it and my friends had to tell me. but the bottom line is don't try to sneek out cuz if u do it might be twice as worse.
2006-10-26 00:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your parents. tell them that it is innocent. you havent even kissed. tell them what you told us. also tell them that you value your relationship with them and want to be honest. but they should trust you enough to see someone you like. Ask if he may come over for dinner or family time a few times so they can get to know him and know how you and he are together. this should help them build a trust in him. If they still refuse, I'd just have to say it, "i will see him, one way or the other."
yep, i said it and will probably get sticks thrown at me. As long as you keep it innocent.
2006-10-26 00:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by kelli s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you parents bann him. they prejudge everybody? do they know something about him that you don't know? i guess you better think about this one. now, 'cause little girl i have a story to tell you. when i was 16 ,i wanted to date a basketball star in my town. he had asked me out, and i in my immaturity, wanted to date him. my parents said no, no, no ,nono... why, 'til this day i don't know. he was considered "fast" (that means a p y hound in todays terms.) i slipped and dated him any way , with the help of my so "called "friends. and now i am 69 years old and have a daughter whom is 51 and the daughter's has an unknown father. . IT'S NOT JUST AN OLD TV SHOW, FATHER KNOWS BEST. it''s real LIFE . you had better listen to your parents. you wil be blessed for this. good luck j.j. i know ou don't want to hear it, but write to me in 8 years and tell me what for? i love you
2006-10-26 00:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by zenasrager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
i dont think you should sneak behind your parents back. you should sit down with your parents and tell them about your boyfriend and how much you like him. ask them why they dont like him and ask them if its okay to bring him for dinner so they can meet him and get to know him.
if they are worried you will get pregnant or STD's that is every parent out there!!!
You have to tell them that you will be responsiable and that they need to learn to trust you or they will loose you and you will never tell them everything. Remember: Your parents love you and only want the best for you and they are NOT the enemy!!!
2006-10-26 00:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Elena M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom and Dad might have observed somethig which you might have ignored in the guy
Because love is blind.
Speak to father and mother and resolve the diff.
2006-10-26 00:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by ashishmulye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its going to hurt you but you have to listen to your parents. you can still be friends with him, and still hang out just no kissing and holding hands basicly...but still in your own way be dating...if he cares for you than he will acept this till your parents are allowing you to date. ask your parents when and how old you will be to start dating..i am sure its not going to be for that long maybe a till your 17..its not that far away...i am sure you can wait. and like i said you can still hang out with him, take this time to learn more about him and see if you still like him in a year and than talk to your parents...i am sure they just want what is best in their eyes for you...and dont want you to get hurt. but in a year if your still hanging onto him and want to date him, i am sure they wont stand in your way.
2006-10-26 00:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS SIT DOWN WITH YOUR PARENTS AND TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS
YOUNG MAN, AND LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU WANT TO
SEE HIM WITH THERE PERMISSION.NOT GOING BEHIND
THERE BACK. THAT WOULD NOT BE GOOD. THEY WILL
RESPECT YOUR HONEST MORE IF YOU GO TO THEM
AND SHOW THEM T HAT YOU ARE GROWN UP TO HAVE
A BOYFRIEND. MAYBE INVITE THE YOUNG MAN OVER
ALSO.
2006-10-26 00:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young concentrate on your studies and listen to your parents. They only want whats best for you
2006-10-26 00:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋