i had a blind date about 6 mths ago, date went good but on the way home we had a car accident. i ended up with alot of injurys that will be there for the rest of my life. we have been seeing each other since then, just for sex only. and that was the plan befor the accident. but now since i was hurt and his insurance company is screwing me around i got an lawyer. now the atty wants me to sue him. but i dont want to put him in that position and burden and the atty knows i dont want to sue him, and i told him that i cant sue him. in the mean time we are still seeing each other for sex only, but i found out that he is chasing another woman, but still having me be with him. i found out that this girl isnt that intrested in him.(he dont know that i know it), but he told me that he needs sometime to think about things befor we can go any futher.
2006-10-25 17:09:38 · 10 answers · asked by try'n2bgood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't screw yourself for life because you want a screw. That's all this guy is. You've had a traumatic experience together and I understand that feel like there's a bond. But is that how you really want to live? For sex only? You know there's more to life and more of you to appreciate than a couple of sweaty minutes now and then. He's getting his rocks off while you're emotionally and physically scarred. Break it off, sue his insurance company and get on with your life.
God bless your big heart and hope you get your life back in order soon.
2006-10-25 17:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, why not knock off the situation with him that's "for sex only". What's that all about? A young woman can easily do without sex, so this little arrangement you have amounts to being you're being used for sex.
Now - there's someone else? I don't think so. Do you want to get a disease?
So dump him.
If your attorney says you need to sue him that's who you sue. You tell this person, "Sorry. The attorney has said this is the only way I can get compensation, and I have no choice but to go along with the attorney. "
I can't help but wonder if the icing on the cake in this little situation you have with this person is that he was at fault for the accident...
Then - let's see - what would you have: A situation where he caused you to be injured for life, while he shows up just for sex, while he also chase another girl - but you do without compensation because you're so "nice"? And now HE told YOU HE has to think about some things?!!! My goodness!! What are you doing?!! You don't even know if he's hanging around with you because he feels bad about the accident and doesn't want to dump you.
Dump him, Part friends if at all possible. Explain that the procedure for your compensation involves your attorney suing him. Apologize for that - and then move on and build yourself a new life with some dignity and self-esteem.
Good luck with this. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. If, by any chance, he was speeding or drinking or driving like a lunatic and caused the accident he owes you. That's how it works.
(and the other way its supposed to work is that you only have sex with someone you're in a solid relationship with, and you both care about each other - I don't care who thinks otherwise... I don't want to come across as judgmental, but these days this thing young girls do with "just for sex" drives me crazy!! People aren't animals. There's supposed to be some kind of something more than sex involved. Its too easy for one person or the other to be used if there isn't.)
2006-10-26 00:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were meeting him for sex only then you shouldn't care if he is seeing another woman. the lawyer wants you to sue because he will get a big percentage of what the judgement is for. you can talk to the guy and find out what amounts his insurance policy covers. then you and him could work out an agreement where you get rid of the lawyer. you talk to the insurance company and tell them how much you want or you take them to court. then you split the money with him if he doesn't try to fight it. that keeps everyone out of court and you both have some money. he can chase those other women and you can go find yourself a new f_ck buddy.
2006-10-26 00:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were just with him for the sex why is it a problem if he's chasing another woman? And you don't have to sue him, just sue his insurance company. And after all that if you still don't want to put him in that position just put him in the 69 position, how could he refuse that?
2006-10-26 00:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by E_Soup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first of all that you definately need to stop seeing this guy for the sex before the situation gets any worse. It seems like maybe you do care about this guy since you found out about the other women and how they feel about him. You should take a step back and look at the mature way to handle the situation. If you really deserve more money you should go forward with legal action. But stop sleeping with him and make your decision based on whats fair and not the sex, feelings and other women.
2006-10-26 00:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by charlottesamanthamirandacarrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just for the sex, why noit sue him? He shouldn't take it personally. I sued my ex-husband because of injuries from a car accident. He doesn't have any hard feelings toward me about it. He just hates lawyers and insurance companies. The lawsuit may have hastened the demise of our marriage but we had a lot of problems before that and we stayed together for quite a while even after I sued.
2006-10-26 00:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look out for number one and that's you baby. Even if it's just for sex, he might still be seeing you out of guilt from the accident. If suing him is the only way you will get money or compensation for you to live a better life, then do it. You will be kicking yourself a year or two down the road if you don't go through with this now. If you wait even a year, lawyers can say you are suing him ( if you break up) to get revenge on him. They'll say your feelings got hurt and suing him is getting him back. Only think of yourself on this one.
2006-10-26 02:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sue him... It's his insurance company that will be paying anyway.
Don't let your health ride on what some other girl may or may not do. The two of you obviously don't have a meaningful relationship anyway. Take care of yourself first. You can get sex anywhere.
2006-10-26 00:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have fallen for the guy and you don't even know it. You need to lose him because he only wants sex and you want more. I don't think you should sue him but his insurance needs to pay for your injuries. Threaten to take it to court and I am sure his insurance will do something about it.
2006-10-26 00:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by cherry_kissez376 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue him, your attorney knows what they're talking about.
2006-10-26 00:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋